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    I'm here right now at a club where boob touching is the norm. I'm having a hard time with the boob grabbing with the number system you can't choose and the grimiest Indian (or whatever race really) guy will come up.

    My nipples are sensitive and it feels diffrent from regular skin.

    I don't really know what I expect from you guys, advice? On how to get over ...

    I just have this weird fear oc my boobs getting saggy from all this.

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    the number system? im understanding this as the guys take a number and you're forced to dance with them, or am i wrong? if so that sounds fucked up, never heard of that before.
    as for the nipple touching, i doubt it will make your boobs sag but you shouldn't be forced to do any contact you're not comfortable with. just dont allow it, whether its the norm or not.

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    I really don't agree with clubs allowing boob touching. I don't consider it dancing and it's not fair that girls are forced to allow and put up with it. It's such an intimate thing and breasts are sensitive esp at certain times of the month.

    My friend worked at a club where breast touching was allowed and the girls HAD TO allow it. She didn't last there long she felt extremely uncomfortable.

    I don't think you should put up with it coz you are obviously uncomfortable with it. Is there another club u can work at where you won't have to do this?

    The thought of men touching my nipples ahhhh I would kill someone. So many men tweak the nipples. I can't even stand having a boyfriend tweak my nipples they are so hyper sensitive!!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Littlewinks View Post
    I'm here right now at a club where boob touching is the norm. I'm having a hard time with the boob grabbing with the number system you can't choose and the grimiest Indian (or whatever race really) guy will come up.

    My nipples are sensitive and it feels diffrent from regular skin.

    I don't really know what I expect from you guys, advice? On how to get over ...

    I just have this weird fear oc my boobs getting saggy from all this.


    Breast-touching doesn't make your breasts sag.

    I would recommend seriously considering whether or not you think you'll be ok, in the LONG RUN, of having your breasts and nipples groped night after night by strange men. I'll be honest, I used to let them do it (I was told by management it was acceptable when i started dancing, and it's common at my club), I let them do it because it didn't seem to bother me at first. I felt fine. Then I began to experience what I believe to be some form of subconscious traumatization. I found myself hating it when my bf would touch my breasts during sex (I used to love having my breasts/nipples played with). When he would reach for them I would feel the urge to like smack his hands away, but would let him do it anyway. I regret ever letting anyone grope such an intimate part of my body. I've since stopped letting customer touch my breasts at all (for the past few months) and I feel like my mental health has improved.

    So even if you think you're ok with that level of contact right now, you may not always be, and I think sustaining that level of contact for too long could cause potential damage to your psyche that could be difficult to reverse. Just something to keep in mind.

    What's the number system?
    Also, why does it matter if the guy's Indian?

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    From the standpoint of a 'business model', the club is selling the customer a private dance 'number ticket' without the dancer's knowledge. It is then the dancer's responsibility to supply a private dance ( with all that is expected to go along with it in the particular club ) to any customer who presents their 'number ticket' ... and is later paid a 'commission' by the club for however many 'number tickets' they turn in.

    In this scenario, there is no opportunity for a particular dancer to 'negotiate' with a customer in advance of the sale as to whether or not boob touching will be part of her personal repertoire. In a blind advance sale scenario, the customer understands what they are 'buying', the club understands what they are 'selling', and dancers who don't provide what the customers expected at the time of their 'number ticket' purchase will definitely create problems with customers and for themselves.

    The lack of individual customer interaction with the dancer PRIOR TO the sale / purchase of a private dance, and thus the lack of mutual agreement as to what level of contact should or should not be expected during that private dance, is a major stumbling block for any 'number ticket' system. The same goes for the individual dancer's inability to REFUSE a private dance sale to a particular customer ( for whatever reason from B.O. to instinct ) with any 'number ticket' system. Fortunately, very few clubs currently use this system.

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    God, I would HATE a number ticket system AND boob groping. Littlewinks, I would try to find a different club. There are so many different types of clubs, I am sure there is one out there you would feel better at.
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    haha I'm sorry to be insensitive right now...but some guy BIT my nipples last night (and damn hard too, they're in a ton of pain today) so this whole post just made me laugh my ass off.

    Boobs getting saggy from touch?! Really now?
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    "I like when you play with my boobs but they are sensitive so don't squeeze them too hard"

    About 99.8% of the time guys are gentle and lightly play with them.

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    I agree with jaizine. Don't put up with it. Stand your ground and if you can't make money switch clubs.
    It's not dancing, it's groping. And it shouldn't be allowed. Period!

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    Day 4 of working this enviorment. I have had good customers along the way, ones that like my sensual, gradual teasing type of dance. I've also had 'bad' ones.

    I've learned to not let my boundries be crossed. So what if they have a number? For someone who is too grabby for me I'll just do what I usually do, a butt dance (far enough out of reach) or tell them. Yes boob touching IS the norm (expected) and I can guess I'll develop some type of reputation. I don't block completely, towards everyone; there are times where the customer and I have a good chemistry and he is slow moving, appreciative, and gentle; usually it'll turn out hot and fun for the both of us.


    What happened to being a happy guys with a super hottie on your lap :p always looking for more 'value' although I find the best is when it's like good sex, a natural teasing progression.

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    Bit your boob??

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    Quote Originally Posted by SerenaSin View Post
    Breast-touching doesn't make your breasts sag.

    I regret ever letting anyone grope such an intimate part I've since stopped letting customer touch my breasts at all (for the past few months) and I feel like my mental health has improved.

    So even if you think you're ok with that level of contact right now, you may not always be, and I think sustaining that level of contact for too long could cause potential damage to your psyche that could be difficult to reverse. Just something to keep in mind.

    What's the number system?
    Also, why does it matter if the guy's Indian?
    Not saying Indian to be that way, I really ment grimy guys in general. The night I had the post we had a 90% of customers that were Indian men come in, so yes that night the guys that I danced for that were grabby were, of course Indian.

    Men are going to be grabby no matter what race.
    Honestly, I've had some lovely Indian men to dance for.

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    I think personally if I worked in a club where boob groping was the norm, I'd be homicidal within the week. I admire you girls who can tolerate it.

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    ^Youare right btw that was terribly general of me to say,and I'll keep this as a learning experience.

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    I hate when guys touch my boobs. Anyone know how to make your nips less sensitive? It drives me nuts. Breastfeeding was total hell for me when my little one was a baby. I'd grit my teeth the entire time.

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    It it bothers you, say something and if that doesn't work, quit. It doesn't bother me to have guys touch my boobs, and it was never something I enjoyed during sex. But if I felt otherwise I wouldn't allow it.

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    You sounds like you are stricking a good balance. This number thing sounds terrible though. ;(
    It leaves no negotiating room for higher dance prices ( like .... if they want to touch the side of boobs for example .... they pay more ) . I don't allow full on boob touching ( and at my old place I would have gotten fired for it ). At my new place, I *may* allow *some* light boob touching ( the sides ) , but they have to pay me more + be super gentle with me. Supposedly .... the "rules" are the custie hands stay off you, but most of us just charge more if they want to touch at all. My nips are ultra sensitive too and I've been hurt by overly aggressive custies and boyfriends already.

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    If you do not want a guy to touch your boobs move his hands. If he tries again tell him that you don't allow touching. If he stops spending money because of it - see it as a good thing.

    If more dancers tell guys that they feel uncomfortable being touched like that they will stop. I'm not kidding. Obviously some girls will still allow it but it wont be expected as much and they will still come back and spend money.

    I've been dancing a long time and it grosses me out when guys try to touch me like that. Being groped is disgusting .




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    I agree with StripperHacks. It's your body and you don't have to put up with anything that makes you uncomfortable. If management doesn't back you up then you can always go to another club.
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    Oh good god you working at Fairbanks in Toronto? It seriously sounds like it.

    In my experience the best way to handle it is to touch your boobs as much as possible so your own hands are on them. Or put your hands over his and guide them where you want them to be. Or rubs your cleavage in his face a lot so he gets his fix without grabbing you. Tell him you don't mind him touching your boobs but please stay away from your nipples because its painful.

    There are many flirty cute ways to avoid them playing with your nipples. Another way is if you sit on his lap with your back to him leaning against him have his hands over your boobs flat and let him gently massage them. The palm of his hand is over your nipple so it doesn't effect them as much.

    It seriously sucks having guys play with your boobs. I hated it with a passion but I had to find ways to tolerate it because a lot of the clubs I worked at you had to allow it. I got to the point I let my mind wander away and block it out while they were doing it. I was still aware of what they were doing so they couldn't step over boundaries but I was blocking out the fact that their hands were on my boobs.

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    my nipples are super sensitive... and I work in what the girls on here would consider a high contact club. So I do allow some boob grabbing.. a lot of girls allow so much more during their dances, nipple play and sucking (ah I cringe at the very thought) but I do not play that. A guy tries to lick my boob or rub on my nipples I immediately tell them I don't allow that. Yea I guess in the end it hurts my money, but when i first started dancing I allowed the men to touch my nipples and I started feeling weird when I had sex with my boyfriend. So I decided I'd rather have my sanity than money so it just doesn't go on with me.
    don't force yourself to work in a club that requires this type of contact, do what makes you feel comfortable.

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    i am working in a club where men are allowed to touch anything but the kitten. i know that in a couple months, i'm going to seriously regret working at this club.

    yesterday, a customer sucked on one of my nipples while manhandling the other for two songs straight. yeah, i am setting myself up for complete regression from all the progress i made after my rape. sigh.

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    Quote Originally Posted by camille27 View Post
    i am working in a club where men are allowed to touch anything but the kitten. i know that in a couple months, i'm going to seriously regret working at this club.

    yesterday, a customer sucked on one of my nipples while manhandling the other for two songs straight. yeah, i am setting myself up for complete regression from all the progress i made after my rape. sigh.
    I work at a club like this. I don't mind polite boob touching, but I draw the line at any mouth contact. I know a lot of girls allow it because a large percentage of customers expect it and it just seems to be getting worse. Most guys don't mind when I playfully tell them that it's against the rules, and I would rather lose a few dance sales than allow it. Plus, those guys that insist are dickheads that I don't want to deal with anyways.

    Don't feel that you have to be pressured into allowing the sucking. Especially if it affects you emotionally.

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    thanks, sia. i'm thinking that i either need to give lower contact dances and accept the monetary loss, or leave this particular club all together. because the contact level here is, i think, starting to take a toll on my mental health.

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