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    I don't go to clubs often, but when I do, it's to have fun and spend some decent money (say up to a thousand dollars a night). Sometimes, though, it's annoying when the girls don't approach me. Not sure what the problem is. I'm ordinary looking and dress normally (shirt and trousers), and I don't drink alcohol in a club so it's not like I'm drunk.

    I like to have at least a few words with a girl before getting dances. Fact is, girls who do sit down and have a chat with me will get a lot more dances out of me.

    This is on the Gold Coast, Queensland if it makes a difference.
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    ...its not that hard to ask them to come sit with you.
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    Default Re: Getting dancers to approach you

    Due to the poor economy, I've seen more dancers than ever approaching customers - these are the same dancers who never used to work the floor at all, preferring to sit at the bar all night and wait for custies to approach them.

    Don't know what the problem is.....do you frequent "locals" clubs? Sometimes those kind of clubs are hard to get any attention, since the dancers are focusing only on their regulars.
    How is your body language? Are you smiling & looking somewhat happy? Does it happen every visit, or just once in a while? It's not unusual to run into the "being ignored" thing from time to time, but it shouldn't be happening on every visit.

    And, of course as WG_TX mentioned...you can always go ask the dancer yourself and save yourself alot of aggravation

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    Default Re: Getting dancers to approach you

    If you spend a thousand bucks one night on one or two girls...believe me, they'll be on you like gulls on a gutwagon next time you walk in.

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    Default Re: Getting dancers to approach you

    in clubs money talks and bullshit walks, just pick out who you want and walk right up. the hell with waiting around

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    Are you tipping the girls on stage? If not, then that would explain why they don't approach you. If you are, then you could ask them to come sit with you after their set.

    Also, try leaving some money sitting on your table.
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    Quote Originally Posted by hockeybobby View Post
    If you spend a thousand bucks one night on one or two girls...believe me, they'll be on you like gulls on a gutwagon next time you walk in.
    Yes, I usually get a lot more attention the SECOND night I'm in a club.

    Problem is it's a long weekend trip for me. So the first night I'm there I haven't been there for months. Obviously after a while I do just go up and ask for dances, and eventually will find a few girls I like and I generally have a great time.
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    Default Re: Getting dancers to approach you

    Are you being picky w/ the girls that do approach you? It's certainly your prerogative if you are- after all, it's your money that's being spent- but I know (at my club), that if one or two girls approach a customer and he turns them away for whatever reason, it makes the rest of us wary to approach him. Usually, we just assume he's a) waiting for one particular girl he already knows or b) not spending any money.

    Also, if you have a type, consider mentioning this to a host when you walk in (along w/ a little cash) and he will gladly introduce to a lady that suits your taste.

    Good luck!

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    Default Re: Getting dancers to approach you

    I guess this is a specific question for girls who work on the Gold Coast, Qld. You see a normal-looking guy in the club. What would make you want to approach them and say hi? What would make you avoid them?
    James

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    Default Re: Getting dancers to approach you

    James come to Sydney... Ill talk to you LOL

    Are the girls approaching other guys? It could just be the club you go to. At some clubs the girls are just lazy or shy or don't need to talk much.

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    Default Re: Getting dancers to approach you

    assuming you aint going up to them, good way is to ask either a bartender of a waitress that you are tipping real heavy something like "hey, you happen to know the name of that dancer"? Odds are very high that dancer will walk right up to you very soon. Bartenders and waitresses usually know everything that is going on ITC, and can be very useful for such things.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JamesWild View Post
    You see a normal-looking guy in the club. What would make you want to approach them and say hi? What would make you avoid them?
    I try to approach everyone when I can, but if I have a lot of choices.. this will be a factor in who approach last (am least likely to go out of my way to approach)

    1. He's been sitting for a long period of time without ever tipping
    2. He's really young
    3. He's turned down multiple dancers in a row
    4. He's wearing shorts shorter than right above the knee
    5. He's wearing sweatpants or really thin material pants

    Things that make me WANT to approach a guy:

    1. He keeps looking at me/watching me
    2. He smiles at me and makes eye contact
    3. He tips me on stage and says "come join me when you're off stage"
    4. He looks like he's relaxed and easy going (read: doesnt seem pissed off)

    That last one has a lot to do with body posture. Don't sit there with your arms crossed or with a death grip on your drink and a dead stare.

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    Default Re: Getting dancers to approach you

    Quote Originally Posted by JamesWild View Post
    Yes, I usually get a lot more attention the SECOND night I'm in a club.

    Problem is it's a long weekend trip for me. So the first night I'm there I haven't been there for months. Obviously after a while I do just go up and ask for dances, and eventually will find a few girls I like and I generally have a great time.
    James
    Do they have bouncers, floormen, hosts or cocktail waitresses? If so let them know that you want some attention right away and give that person a generous tip to punctuate your point.

    Once the first girl gets the idea that you are looking to have a lot of fun, word will get around to the other dancers. Trust me!


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    Quote Originally Posted by Pretty_Penny View Post
    1. He's been sitting for a long period of time without ever tipping
    2. He's really young
    3. He's turned down multiple dancers in a row
    4. He's wearing shorts shorter than right above the knee
    5. He's wearing sweatpants or really thin material pants

    Things that make me WANT to approach a guy:

    1. He keeps looking at me/watching me
    2. He smiles at me and makes eye contact
    3. He tips me on stage and says "come join me when you're off stage"
    4. He looks like he's relaxed and easy going (read: doesnt seem pissed off)

    That last one has a lot to do with body posture. Don't sit there with your arms crossed or with a death grip on your drink and a dead stare.
    Great advice, Penny. No, no weird clothes. Just the normal shirt and pants I'd wear to the office.

    Guess I should try looking and smiling. Usually a bit nervous when I first go into a club.
    James

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    I usually try to approach everyone in the club at least once. The fact is, at my club, I'll often approach a customer who's been there for awhile, and he'll tell me I'm the first girl to come up to him. Also, a lot of girls will just go up to guys and do the "wanna dance" thing, then when he says no, they'll just rudely stalk off without another word and refuse to talk to him again, because "they tried." In a business that is essentially a sales industry, a shocking number of girls have poor or nonexistant social skills.

    If you're going to clubs where NONE of the girls ever approach you, maybe it's time to find a new club. Or you can always ask the bouncer or bartender to recommend a girl for you; oftentimes I'll be asked by the bartender to go up to a specific guy who wanted a hot and friendly girl who could carry on a conversation. However, if all else fails, you can always approach a girl yourself, or wave someone over. If the girls STILL don't approach you, then they've got no business being in a sales industry, and you should DEFINITELY find another club.

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    you should look at them and not look away when they catch you looking. maybe smile. maybe gesture for them to come over.

    i can't tell you how many times i've avoided a guy because he'd look at me then look away as soon as i looked back at him. but i work at a club where no guy would ever complain about not being approached. they're more likely to complain about being approached too much. except by me. because i'm a bad hustler.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Pretty_Penny View Post
    I try to approach everyone when I can, but if I have a lot of choices.. this will be a factor in who approach last (am least likely to go out of my way to approach)

    1. He's been sitting for a long period of time without ever tipping
    2. He's really young
    3. He's turned down multiple dancers in a row
    4. He's wearing shorts shorter than right above the knee
    5. He's wearing sweatpants or really thin material pants

    No wonder I never get approached, I'm usually dressed like this guy when I'm in the SC.

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    Default Re: Getting dancers to approach you

    If you see a dancer you like flag her down or tip a waitress to find her and buy her a drink.

    If she is occupied and you still want to talk to her give her a quick tip (or have the waitress send it over) and find out what days she works.




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    If you are spending that kind of money....go to the stage with 40 in ones 4 fives 2 tens and a twenty. Stick it in the open. Every dancer that dances on stage will visit you for a tip. If you not interested give a couple of ones or whatever you are comfortable with. If you are semi throw a 5 or 10. The twenty is for the one that you ask to come see you when she is done. You might want to leave the tip rail as she gets off though so have a seat that you can point to and let her know thats where you will be. I say this because in many clubs it is bad taste for a dancer to go up to a guy on the tip rail with quite a few bills in front of him during someone elses turn.

    I find this works everytime and i use it only if i am not being approached. (yeah i know i can hardly believe it too!!)

    This sends a clear cut message to ladies that you are there to spend and that YOU are picking who you want. That is if they have any skills in reading people which most of them do.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jessie_tinydancer View Post

    Are the girls approaching other guys? It could just be the club you go to. At some clubs the girls are just lazy or shy or don't need to talk much.
    Even more, at some clubs dancers are not allowed to approach customers. It's a rule.

    But either way, you should just tip the girls you like and tell them to come join you. Show motivation for spending money and show you are a gentlemen and you should be good.

    Thanks for using this site for a question like this instead of something retarded as many do We appreciate you and hope you have good experiences so you can enjoy the clubs more!

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    Quote Originally Posted by chris91 View Post
    Are you tipping the girls on stage? If not, then that would explain why they don't approach you. If you are, then you could ask them to come sit with you after their set.

    Also, try leaving some money sitting on your table.
    Most club rules do not allow girls to approach customers sitting near the girls on stage because you are taking their client. Anywhere else in the room should get you more visits.

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    I like when customers approach ME.
    Im not the type to wander around asking for dances, unless im really broke and it's not a usual money-thriving night.
    Actually, I think it's a little insulting when i'm not acknowledged while dancing/wlaking around.

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    See, I'm with the OP. I have walked out of several clubs and said to the doorman on the way out "I still have $300 of the $400 I walked in with - what's wrong with this picture?" and just left. I do not like to approach girls - especially if I have to do more than tip on stage, i.e., actually get up and approach a girl I like.

    Also - some of you have said that a guy turning down multiple girls is a sign. DEAD WRONG. Can't tell you how many times I've turned down 5 or 6 or more girls waiting for a certain one or one of a certain favorite few to approach. I'm always polite, but I will turn them down all night until one that I like approaches.

    And WTF is up with dancers not approaching couples?!?!?!?!?!!!!???!?!?! Hasn't word got out yet that couples SPEND MONEY?! Sure, if the chick looks like she's hating every second of being there, maybe tread lightly. But damn - it;s like having a GF with e just shuts off the stripper flow instantly. Most recently MM and I went to Glitter Gulch to visit a member here. It took almost 45 minutes for her to get to us. During which time we sat in a booth as follows (this is COMPLETELY TRUE, and blew my mind): Note - I'm going to go into details and drop designer names and whatnot not to be pretentious but to make a point.

    I was dressed in an Armani sport coat with a sharp button up underneath, designer jeans, my favorite Salvatore Ferragamo shoes, Movado watch hard to miss with my arm up on the table, and a fedora. MM was dressed very pin-up girl/rockabilly and hot as hell. And I shit you not, I had something like $500 in one hand, CLREARLY visible, in mixed bills with a huge stack of ones and 100's on the back clearly visible. Sitting in a prominent booth right by the entrance and near the end of the stage. FOR 45 MINUTES. We were not approached ONE. SINGLE. TIME.

    Unbelievable.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JamesWild View Post
    I guess this is a specific question for girls who work on the Gold Coast, Qld. You see a normal-looking guy in the club. What would make you want to approach them and say hi? What would make you avoid them?
    James

    The number one thing that makes me avoid a customer is one of those god awful hats with the flat brim, typically turned sideways. One of these:

    Yea, wear that and i might not even approach you if you are the last customer in the club. i dont care what your race, age, or other clothes are... that hat means trouble.

    other than that, i usually approach everyone. just dont avoid eye contact... those that avoid eye contact are later on my list because i assume they will be difficult customers or that im not their type.

    and if you sit by the tip rail, i probably wont approach you unless it is customary to approach customers at the tip rail. but if you get out of your chair and tip me, then i will be more likely to approach you, if you return to your chair that is. if you sit by the tip rail, then it would be rude of me to stop you from tipping other girls.
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    no ones mentioned the DJ -cries-

    seriously though if you want to be approached talk to the support staff and not to sound conceited but a DJ usually gets more face time with dancers than bartenders and waitresses

    thats assuming the clubs you frequent have a DJ and he isnt a total ass

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