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    I have had my fair share of excellent and really bad lapdances. Sometimes I have been even tempted not paying her, especially when the dancer is hurting me in the crouch with the grinding, although I never did. When the lapdance is really good I say so and make compliments and of course ask for more dances. When the dance is bad, I never say something, although it might benefit the dancer.
    Do dancers appreciate feedback (positive and negative)? What do customers do when the lapdance is really bad, and I mean really really bad?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Walker View Post
    I have had my fair share of excellent and really bad lapdances. Sometimes I have been even tempted not paying her, especially when the dancer is hurting me in the crouch with the grinding, although I never did. When the lapdance is really good I say so and make compliments and of course ask for more dances. When the dance is bad, I never say something, although it might benefit the dancer.
    Do dancers appreciate feedback (positive and negative)? What do customers do when the lapdance is really bad, and I mean really really bad?
    Well, if she is hurting me in the crotch, I tell her that it hurts

    And I pay her, and never get a dance from her again.

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    Quote Originally Posted by hello-kitty View Post
    wat do you consider a good lap dance?
    Slow, sensual, lots of eye contact.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Walker View Post
    What do customers do when the lapdance is really bad, and I mean really really bad?
    I stop after one dance, pay her, thank her and never buy another one.

    By the way, thinking about not paying her is really not the way you want to go.
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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us View Post
    I stop after one dance, pay her, thank her and never buy another one.
    I've actually done this if the dance was too good during the first song and headed somewhere I didn't want to go if you get my drift.
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    Why would you not pay her? Does your fucking mouth stop working when your dick is hard or something? Just tell her, "you're hurting me."

    I'm a small girl, and even I have hurt guys dancing, if they have some type of physical problem, or if they are very slight in size.

    A dancer always appreciates that kind of feedback. Now, after the dance....I would always be happy to get a recommendation that says, "you were great hon. I do usually appreciate a lighter touch and slower movements. But thank you and good luck."

    However, the only times I've really gotten complaints was because they were dissapointed I didn't pull out their dicks, etc.....

    And some girls would even take constructive criticism poorly, at least that's what I read on here. Up to you to take the chance.

    But why rip off the girl for something she cannot control? Why even THINK about it?

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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us View Post
    I stop after one dance, pay her, thank her and never buy another one.

    By the way, thinking about not paying her is really not the way you want to go.
    Yoda is dead on. Agreeing to a dance is a contract. You pay for that dance even if it sucks.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bem401 View Post
    I've actually done this if the dance was too good during the first song and headed somewhere I didn't want to go if you get my drift.
    You are afraid they might ask you if you want another dance?
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    Just open your mouth and say she is hurting you. Really ... it's not that hard. You are paying for a service and you *usually* don't have to give feedback ..... but if she's hurting you .... give feedback. I've done that with massage therapists.

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    Lap dances are like sex... what pleases one guy may not please the other guy.. As a dancer I try to pay attention to what the guy I'm dancing for seems to enjoy... but I really appreciate it when I hear feedback. Maybe you don't want to say negative stuff like "this is not doing anything to me"... but compliment when she does something you do like so that she has a better idea of they type of dancing you enjoy. and you should always let them know if they are hurting you.

    One of my best regulars... (he comes to see me once a week and usually spends around $500) doesn't like the way I usually dance. I remember the first time I danced for him, he got a VIP and I could see the look in his face.. he was getting so bored ... so by the third song I stopped, sit on his lap and told him I could tell he wasn't enjoying it and he said he didn't like what I was doing... so I asked him to tell me what he did like... turns out he likes grinding...that's all he likes... so... now.. he gets 3 or 4 VIPs with me and the whole 24 songs I'm grinding... but if I hadn't asked, or if he would've been too shy to tell me he would've never danced with me ever again..

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    I have been lucky in that I have only had one really lousy lap dance in all my years of clubbing. This dancer was obviously not into dancing for me, and it showed. I had approached her for a dance in a well known hustle club. I paid her, and politely told her that in the future if she were uncomfortable dancing for someone, save herself the time and them the money and turn down the dance offer. She apologized and offered another dance on the house, but I declined.

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    I love lopaw. Oh, so much.

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    Have you ever tried gently making suggestions during the dance?

    As in, "That feels good...maybe a little softer..."

    There are ways to make suggestions without making it sound like you're filling out a customer complaint form.

    Remember, these women have to standardize their dances to some degree unless you give them feedback. And not just feedback at the end!! They can't change their dance if they've already given it, obviously.

    It can be very difficult to give a dance that everyone will like...especially (I'd imagine) when it involves contact. How do you know when one guy wants boobs in his face and another just wants grinding? You have to tell her. Nicely. And not in a creepy molester man voice.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FBR View Post
    Yoda is dead on. Agreeing to a dance is a contract. You pay for that dance even if it sucks.

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    Problem is the contract isn't for a dance that sucks.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Walker View Post
    I have had my fair share of excellent and really bad lapdances. Sometimes I have been even tempted not paying her, especially when the dancer is hurting me in the crouch with the grinding, although I never did. When the lapdance is really good I say so and make compliments and of course ask for more dances. When the dance is bad, I never say something, although it might benefit the dancer.
    Do dancers appreciate feedback (positive and negative)? What do customers do when the lapdance is really bad, and I mean really really bad?
    What do you mean by really really bad, besides the hurting? Hurting your crotch can be easily rectified by saying so. Telling her that won't hurt her feelings.

    I wouldn't expect a stripper could grind that hard without hurting her own crotch.
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    I appreciate positive feedback. Although I don't really ever get any bad feedback on my lapdances I've had a couple of guys suggest things. Like the other week he told me it was a great dance but not as good as the last girl coz she put her pussy right in his face. That feedback is worthless to me coz I am not going to do that. Completely against club rules and against my own rules and comfort level.

    One thing I have learned from dancing is if you put something close enough to a man's mouth, some of them will react by putting the said thing in their mouth. I don't want to experiment with this and my vagina

    I've seen plenty of girls ITC give bad dances. The best feedback is to not buy another one and not recommend to your friends (if you are there with friends).

    I always know a customer has really loved my dances when he keeps buying more and when a few of his friends buy one too.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Hopper View Post
    Problem is the contract isn't for a dance that sucks.
    Actually the agreement is a simple one; to pay an agreed to price for a dance. Good, bad or in between is irrelevant and very often a subjective issue.

    Lap dancing is not an exact science. You pays your money and you takes your chances.
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    LOL, not paying her?

    Strip clubs are one of the wonders of capitalism, because over time bad dances mean less $$$$ than they otherwise would be earning because of less probability of extending the initial dance count, and less repeat business, no matter how hot they might be.

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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us View Post
    You are afraid they might ask you if you want another dance?
    C'mon, you visit RI clubs, know the girl, and you still didn't get my drift? The girl in question was not far from eliciting a happy ending (much closer than anyone else had gotten, even in CR) because she was so good at what she was doing. Personally, that's just a place I was never interested in seeing a dance go. Others apparently are looking to go exactly there.
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    Quote Originally Posted by FBR View Post
    Yoda is dead on. Agreeing to a dance is a contract. You pay for that dance even if it sucks.

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    Well, the legal discussion might be interesting. But I donot want to go into a situation where my lawyer will contact their lawyer.
    Like I said, I payed (as there is not really another option), but it was the first and only time that not paying ran through my head.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hopper View Post
    What do you mean by really really bad, besides the hurting? Hurting your crotch can be easily rectified by saying so. Telling her that won't hurt her feelings.
    Really really bad, means no dancing just a few bumps on my crouch. The first time I said "ouch", the second time also... after that I walked away...paying her...

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    Quote Originally Posted by bem401 View Post
    C'mon, you visit RI clubs, know the girl, and you still didn't get my drift?
    Wow...just...wow....
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    Grinding is against the law in Australia. Come visit anytime And no I don't appreciate feedback unless you politely explain it is what YOU prefer understanding that others may prefer my current technique. I can't stand people telling me what to do, but if you ask nicely and explain its what you like and maybe say please, I'll usually oblige as long as its not illegal.

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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us View Post
    Lap dancing is not an exact science. You pays your money and you takes your chances.
    In a way ...... but if you find a girl whose style you love, just become her regular. Problem solved. Walker .... get one dance from a few girls and from those girls, pick your favorite to get more dances from . It's easy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hopper View Post
    I wouldn't expect a stripper could grind that hard without hurting her own crotch.
    I once had a very hot dancer bounce up and down on my lap like it was a trampoline. It was like she was trying to kill a snake with her butt.

    She only got 1 dance from me. She killed the snake.

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