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    Mind Blowing Soo, about this whole dancing thing...

    Hey everyone!

    So I've been hanging out around this forum on and off for a few months just browsing some of the awesome material that's floating around. There's so much great information and so many great stories! I have been trying to muster the courage to dance for a whiiile, I just can't seem to actually act on my intention. I've been to a few strips clubs over the past couple of years, taken a few pole classes for fun and loved it, and I lovvve being sexy. I'm around 90% confident in my body and personality (everyone has their flaws ) so that's not the issue..... I'm just veeery worried about what my family and friends would think if they ever found out. I'm 20 years old, and I live over 2000 miles away from my family... but they mean A LOT to me, and I'm not sure how I feel about lying to them about my work (that is, IF I do try dancing). Plus, my part-time day job (and passion!) is working with young girls in dance and gymnastics. My life would be OVER if any of their parents found out.

    Is anyone else keeping their job from family/friends/etc??! Ugh I'm having trouble figuring this part out What to do?!

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    Default Re: Soo, about this whole dancing thing...

    Hey! Well I hope you learn more and at least audition at some point, since you're interested. From what I've learned on this site and IRL, if you don't want ANYONE to find out it's going to take a lot of lies and fake back stories to explain everything that you're 'not doing'. It seems like it'd become frustrating and a little tiring to constantly have to hide it. I think some girls on here have been hiding it for a while and could probably give some good advice. I'm not too concerned about it and I would hate having to hide it from the world, personally.

    I think you should go for it! Keep looking around the site, there's always stuff to be found


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    Default Re: Soo, about this whole dancing thing...

    If your true passion is working with children for dance and gymnastics, then I wouldn't try dancing.

    I teach middle school now, and cannot dance because of it. If any parents or administration found out about my night job (if I were dancing, which Im not), then I would be out of a career.

    However, yours is a bit less extreme-you could move to a new dance/gymnastics studio in another part of the state or city and be fine more than likely. If I were discovered, it would be plastered all of the news and my career would be over.

    Is stripping worth potentially giving up teaching dance/gymnastics? Is stripping worth lying to your family, who mean so much to you?
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    Default Re: Soo, about this whole dancing thing...

    I was an elementary and middle school teacher too. No one ever found out, but I quit teaching to dance full time. I actually felt more respected by the patrons in the gentlemen's club than I ever did by the parents and administration in the public school system.

    As for getting fired if you got caught....you could always fight it. You're not doing anything illegal. Of course if you fought it and it made the news your family would find out.

    I kept dancing a secret from my family for 8 years. It made a big difference being 32 saying, "Mom, ive danced for 8 years, my life is fabulous, and I didn't fall victim to all the stereotypes" than it would have been if I had told her at the age of 24, "mom, I'm quitting my teaching job to be a stripper."
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    Love the that line.. "Mom, I quitting my teaching job to be a stripper". God, my Mom would FLIP if she ever found out!

    where did you teach Britney? *end threadjack*
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    Default Re: Soo, about this whole dancing thing...

    I taught 8th grade algebra in Montgomery County, MD (all the snobby rich kids) and I also taught 5th grade for a year in San Bernardino, CA (basically babysitting 36 10-year olds)

    Like I said, WHEN and HOW you reveal your dancing can affect how other people perceive you and the industry.
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    Default Re: Soo, about this whole dancing thing...

    when I was 18 and in college and in desperate need of $$, I became a dancer for only a month. I wanted to do the right thing instead of continually lying....BAD IDEA. MY MOTHER NEARLY HAD AN EMOTIONAL BREAKDOWN! SHE WAS ENRAGED!!! lol she was shock, pissed, upset, angry, every possible negative emotion.

    that is just my experience.

    HOWEVER once I move out, have my own car and car insurance and am paying my own bills....my mother cant tell me what I can and cannot do.

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    Default Re: Soo, about this whole dancing thing...

    It's totally possible to hide it. I did for a long time. If you choose to dance and hide it (I'm not saying you should or shouldn't, but if you do), you should remember a few things:

    1. it's important to have SOMEONE to talk to. If you don't want to tell your family, that's totally okay, but MAKE SURE you have a friend or someone you can trust to chat with about it.

    2. Get a dancing job outside of the town you work in. Don't dance at the neighborhood dive, and don't dance at the biggest, most popular club in your area. That will literally cut out 85% of the people you may run into.

    3. If someone finds out and says something to you (like one of the parents of the kids you teach) DON'T immediately freak out. Chances are, little Angie's mom will say "oh yeah... I had to do that while I was in college..." Sometimes they wont be okay with it, and you may have to move on to a new dance school, but always act confident instead of looking guilty about it. The more guilty you look, the more it will make a person who may really not have a huge problem with it think it's actually a big deal. Does that make any sense? They may only make a big deal about it if you do first, so don't.

    Either way, good luck!

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