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    Quote Originally Posted by Im_not_here View Post
    Ok here goes. My wife dances. Has since she was 19 or so. She is 28 now and we have been together for about 4 years now. I'm worried about the whole "extras" thing that goes on. She swears she does not do any but I just don't know. First off she is a very sexual person. Second, she only dated girls before me. Third, she drinks a lot at work. Now it isnt too hard to see why I'm paranoid. Alcohol in a sexual charged enviroment and all. And she also tends to work in clubs that are kinda, um, known for extras. What are the odds she is doing horrible things with girls and or guys? I'm know what goes on. I'm a musician (of course) and have done crazy stuff in the SC. And please dont say " you shouldnt have married a stripper". You cant help who you fall in love with. She is a WONDERFUL person outside the club but she does have a very wild side. Any current or former dancers help me out here? Would REALLY appreciate it.
    If you post a photo of her on the blue side some of the guys may know her and be able to confirm if she is a clean or dirty dancer or they may be able to go and investigate for you.
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    Quote Originally Posted by KS_Stevia View Post
    I actually despise the term "bringing home" in regards to open relationships. It dehumanizes the other person involved. I've never just recruited a girl to come home with me where my lecherous man was waiting to attack. Its always been a totally mutual thing between all parties involved at all times.
    Sort of like I hate the term "pick up". We go out and scope, if it isn't someone we know already, we work together to entice the person to come home with us. It isn't like I carry around an elephant net, and throw it over girls' heads yelling MUAHAHAHA I GOTZ UUUUUU and drag them home for J to untangle.

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    I'm seeing some interesting things here. You seem to hold that her stripping could ruin your marriage, because she doesn't need that much money, and you've asked her to stop?

    You are thinking of hiring a PI?

    So, imagine you've hired a PI, and he went to the club she works at, and she danced for him, and did NO extras. Would that be all? Would you be satisfied knowing that she is a 'clean' dancer? Would you go on pretending you have a happy marriage?
    I doubt it. If you let your paranoia bring you this far (posting on this forum about this), you'd probably let your insecurity progress, thinking 'it was this once she was clean. she must surely be doing more for others. let's hire someone else'.

    You've accused and convicted her: of doing extras, of being a stripper, of making too much money, of not stopping dancing after you'd repeatedly asked her not to.

    Looks to me like you are just wasting her time. Why hasn't she left you yet?

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    Quote Originally Posted by mediocrity View Post
    Heres the bottom line: handsome, whatever, I DON'T FUCK FOR MONEY. Some girls do, a lot don't. Fin.
    Of course YOU don't, Med. I know that.

    Anyway, the OP said "extras". There are a lot of extras that do not include fucking, but that he would not be relieved to learn about.

    Look, I was in the SC last week looking for C, but I ended up chatting and getting a dance from another girl because C wasn't there. This young innocent looking girl (she said she was in college and planned to go to law school) offered me a HJ or a BJ within the first 2 minutes of the lap dance. (She knew I came to the club looking for C and she said she would show me a better time than I had with C.) She was not a destitute mom trying to feed her kids, she was just a young college kid trying to hustle to make a quick buck. (Just saying,... I'm not judging.) Its an "upscale" franchise club with very attractive "clean" and classy looking girls. (I won't say the name of the SC, but they have their flagship club in Las Vegas.) Every time I go with friends, at least one of us gets that kind of offer. I know that so many women on this forum frown upon that, but let's face it,... yes it happens,... a lot in some places.

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    That's why I fucking HATE Treasures with a passion. Oh, and the flagship is actually the Houston club. They opened the Vegas club later.

    Grrrr, fucking Houston, what a shitty town to strip in unless you enjoy chafed nipples and carrying a large purse that fits wet wipes and condoms.

    And yes, many attractive girls offer the extras. But I promise you, she wasn't offering them because she was horny, and her g-spot is located in the palm of her hand. But you know this.

    Jack, your town is very specific, in that extras are super easy to come by from attractive, seemingly normal girls. Its not like that everywhere...even a few hours away, here in ATX.

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    ^^ I know what club you're talking about. I understand that is the norm in Houston, and some places. It makes me really sad.

    I still maintain my personal definitions of extras, which I am thinking the OP would agree with: kissing, nipple sucking, HJ, BJ and all those whack ass acronyms. I also think if you want to do those things you should take them OTC. Kills me when I am in VIP next to a girl who's rubbing a guy's crotch and the guy I am with gets all butt hurt that I refuse to do that.

    I am not getting the impression the OP would be ok with anyone participating in the activities I listed with his wife.

    KS_Stevia is right though... ATX is one of the cleanest places I have ever worked, especially the club I am at now- the way it's laid out, I can't see how anyone could get away with it, and my boss just fired about 6 girls for suspicious activity.

    I leave you now with a piece of hilarity:
    "
    Mediocrity says:
    awesome <3
    can i ask you a question? you've had lap dances, right?
    would you consider letting a guy touch your boobs "extra"?
    J says:
    yeah but he cant suck my boobs
    i hate guys sucking my boobs
    Mediocrity says:
    HAHAHAHA
    i just realised how weird i worded that
    oh god i just laughed til i cried."

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    Quote Originally Posted by Luna Minsky View Post
    You've accused and convicted her: of doing extras
    He's her husband. I think spouses have a strange sixth sense for infidelity. Usually, when a woman suspects her husband is cheating, he is. Same for men suspecting their wives of infidelity. Yeah, some people are paranoid and super-insecure, but I don't think the OP is that kind of person. If he was, he wouldn't have lasted in the relationship so long (she's been dancing for 9 years and they've been together for 4 years).

    Maybe the question is - What has she started to do now that causes him to suspect something now? There's probably more to the story.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jack0177057 View Post
    He's her husband. I think spouses have a strange sixth sense for infidelity. Usually, when a woman suspects her husband is cheating, he is. Same for men suspecting their wives of infidelity. Yeah, some people are paranoid and super-insecure, but I don't think the OP is that kind of person. If he was, he wouldn't have lasted in the relationship so long (she's been dancing for 9 years and they've been together for 4 years).

    Maybe the question is - What has she started to do now that causes him to suspect something now? There's probably more to the story.
    I have had a lot of jealous BFs accuse me of cheating. I was not cheating on ANY of them. Funny thing though, in *every singe* instance where I was accused, I found out later the accuser was actually the one being unfaithful.

    I would not say that *usually* if someone suspects it, that is in fact the case. I have no statistics to back that up though, just my own personal experience.

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    ^^^ Yeah there are a lot of paranoid jealous guys out there. The OP doesn't strike me as one of them, but I could be wrong.

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    It is possible to make money in an extras club while avoiding doing them, I've seen it done. But it is a lot harder, especially if the guy 4 feet away is getting a BJ while the woman in question is trying to say no--and no doubt fighting off the roving hands.

    I have worked in three clubs with a lot of military guys coming in, who are not fat slobs by any stretch of the imagination. Some of the dancers are enjoying themselves with these guys, and would take it further if they were allowed, they have told me. Some do take it further if they can get away with it, I have seen it on camera, including the one I know is lying to her SO about letting guys finger her. Three of the hottest dancers I know in one club I visit have all told me they sometimes cannot sleep from all the built-up sexual tension. This doesn't mean they would give BJs, though.

    We don't really know what this guy's situation is. Telling him he is imagining all this would be fucking stupid, and detrimental to his situation to say the least, if his wife really is handing out favors--which she well might be for all we know. Of course, maybe he is being paranoid. In which case he should ignore this gut feeling, all the rumors he's heard, her history as a party girl, and learn to trust her--if possible.

    In any case, the relationship is doomed if it keeps on this way, that's about the only thing we can determine for sure.
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    From what I am picking up from your posts this issue may be less to do with the fact that she is a stripper and more to do with the fact that she asked you to give up your carrer that was your lifes work. I COULD BE DEAD WRONG.... but this quote is what sticks out to me in that she asked you to quit on a life long dream of yours because she was insecure in that you would be surronded by women throwing themselves at you. There are trust issues here on both sides.

    Quote Originally Posted by Im_not_here View Post
    Actually i did quit being a musician for her. She didnt like the idea of groupies and me being on the road.
    Are you resentful of the fact that she asked you to quit your band? Being that your band was starting to get to the "big time" and that your passion was starting to take off. In addition the reasons you don't like her stripping are similar to those resons she asked you to quit your band.

    Quote Originally Posted by Im_not_here View Post
    But im not the one who dances. She is. Ive asked her to quit. She wont do it. She doesnt want to punch a clock like me. And thats cool. In the meantime it could destroy our marriage. Ive changed MANY aspects of my life that made her uncomfy. Her turn.
    It's the "Her turn" that caught my attention. IF... You are harboring resentments and NOT telling your wife about them your going to have many more problems in the relationship.

    Quote Originally Posted by Im_not_here View Post
    Im still in music. I love it. Just dont travel. Actually, we are starting a band together. She can sing like crazy! And she can play piano. Yes, its awesome!! just wish she didnt dance anymore. I gave up what she wished i wasnt doing.
    You have a Huge opportunity to solidify your marriage and still pursue your passion. Pursue this!
    In my opinon you should talk to your wife about all of this. After all this is your WIFE there is a reson you married her. Remember if you give up your passion your soul whithers and dies.

    I hope everything works out. Good luck!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Im_not_here View Post
    And please dont say " you shouldnt have married a stripper". You cant help who you fall in love with.
    You shouldn't have married a stripper...if you don't want the worries that go along with it. MAYBE you can't help who you fall in love with, but you sure as hell can help who you marry. You don't have to marry someone just for love...the practical aspects matterjust as much.

    And practically speaking, you signed on the dotted line, so you signed up for this with eyes wide open.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Everyman View Post
    You shouldn't have married a stripper...


    Sorry to the OP, don't ,mean to sound unsympathetic, but the way that came about was funny as hell.
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    Quote Originally Posted by KS_Stevia View Post
    NO NO NO!!

    That gut instinct is telling him to leave, run far, far away. He doesn't want his wife engaging in sexual activities with other men. Its strong enough for him to consider divorce.

    How is actually WATCHING her with another man going to make him feel better.

    You might have read some articles, but do you know many actual swingers. I do. And its just not like that. If both parties of the couple are jealous and insecure YET make an agreement to work through it by open relationship, its one thing.

    If one person is insecure and has the issue, swinging isn't going to help. We'll just let the OP say so himself.

    ETA: I guess I thinking about it from my personal perspective. My partner used to be really jealous and insecure everytime I went out without him, or when I went out of town. He had some flimsy reasons to be suspect. Like, he found a naughty email between me and another guy that was written a month into our dating. And I'm also a heavy drinker and very sexual. So he would always give me a hard time. I can imagine telling him, "we need to have an open relationship and you need to accept that I might fuck other guys since I bring you home other girls. It will relieve your jealousy."

    I'd STILL hear him bitching about it to this day. Some people are just jealous, and to suggest swinging would be a huge insult and blow to the relationship. It might even make them confirm in their minds that you are cheating.
    Omg that would be horrible! I DO NOT want to think about or see her with someone else. Man or woman. Makes me want to puke thinking about it. I was with another dancer for four years and we hooked with a lot of girls together. Didnt bother me at all. But my wife..shes my soulmate and I would DIE if i knew she slept with someone else or did ANY extras.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KS_Stevia View Post
    I see this drivel advice all over the various boards, and its laughable. Why would a person force themselves into an open marriage when they are monogamous in nature and wouldn't feel comfortable with it? People who are into open relationships and swinging know it, they don't need to be advised to become a cuckhold to save a marriage. Either they like it or they don't.

    I've worked clean in clubs where extras were the norm. But..not every time.

    She sounds like the way I was with my ex-boyfriend when I was heavily doing drugs, partying, cheating, performing extras...silent phone always with me, etc, etc.....

    That doesn't mean she's doing extras. What do you consider extras anyway? Maybe the person who told you she did them was used to lower mileage in another club, and her club is high mileage?

    It could go either way at this point. What would she have to be doing "extra" for her to leave you? Like, what acts?
    Extras is ANY sexual contact with co workers or customers. This most def includes making out with either. This is OUR thing! Reserved only for my wife and I.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KS_Stevia View Post
    Again, you are missing the point, and the OP is too, somewhat.

    IF SHE IS PERFORMING EXTRAS ITS NOT BECAUSE SHE NEEDS ADDITIONAL EXTRA SEXUAL STIMULATION. STRIPPERS PERFORM EXTRAS BECAUSE IT MAKES THEM MORE MONEY, OR BECAUSE MONEY IS CRAP WITHOUT PERFORMING THEM. SOMETIMES THEY DO IT BECAUSE THEY ARE LAZY. SOMETIMES THEY DO IT BECAUSE THEY ARE DRUNK, AND THEIR JUDGEMENT IS IMPAIRED.

    BUT THE DO NOT DO IT FOR PLEASURE. Not to say that it can't be done for pleasure on occasion. But I promise, if she's regularly doing them, it has ZERO to do with her sexual appetite.
    I dont care WHY she would perform extras! I would sell my left kidney before I would want that to happen! Cheating is cheating. Doing it for money...EVEN WORSE!!

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    Ok someone asked me to post a pic of my wife to see if anyone would tell me if she was doing stuff. Um, I dont think thats a good idea. But! The club is in Charleston SC. It was called the Joker Social Club. Now its just called 1337 King St. I think. The other would be Tiffany's in Atlanta. The Joker being the current. Any info on these places? I've heard horrible (for my situation) things about both.

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    ^^ Tiffany's I am familiar with. That's no place for a girl, I'll tell you that much.

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    Familiar with Joker Social by way of another dancer I'm good friends with. My friend turned tail and RAN after her first night in the dressing room.

    I've worked at some pretty extras laden SC's, and I've never done an extra once. The furthest I've ever gone was a kiss on a customer's cheek. So, just because she works in a scary club doesn't mean she's a dirty girl.

    However, I trust Mediocrity, and I trust my friend - those two clubs are no place for an upstanding lady.
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    Quote Originally Posted by mediocrity View Post
    ^^ Tiffany's I am familiar with. That's no place for a girl, I'll tell you that much.
    Yea she worked there for a few years up until october 09. I do know most girls if not all do extras there. LOTS of drugs as well.

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    Familiar with Joker Social by way of another dancer I'm good friends with. My friend turned tail and RAN after her first night in the dressing room.

    I've worked at some pretty extras laden SC's, and I've never done an extra once. The furthest I've ever gone was a kiss on a customer's cheek. So, just because she works in a scary club doesn't mean she's a dirty girl.

    However, I trust Mediocrity, and I trust my friend - those two clubs are no place for an upstanding lady.
    I really really hope she isnt. Like tonight, its snowing here and she says its slow and almost all the girls are there. THAT makes me worry.

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    I dont care WHY she would perform extras! I would sell my left kidney before I would want that to happen! Cheating is cheating. Doing it for money...EVEN WORSE!!
    Its not for money... Its for the things she can buy with money... Is she the type of woman that absolutely has to have the most expensive pair of shoes in the department store? Does she have an out-of-control obsession with clothes, jewelry, shoes, etc.?

    It's very easy to find out if she does extras. Just send a guy into the club to test her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jack0177057 View Post
    Its not for money... Its for the things she can buy with money... Is she the type of woman that absolutely has to have the most expensive pair of shoes in the department store? Does she have an out-of-control obsession with clothes, jewelry, shoes, etc.?

    It's very easy to find out if she does extras. Just send a guy into the club to test her.
    Na. No spending habits. She worries about money all the time though. Even though there is no reason to worry. She likes to travel and that takes money but thats about it.
    Yes ive considered sending someone in but a lot of times a dancer will only do extras for regulars.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Im_not_here View Post
    I dont care WHY she would perform extras! I would sell my left kidney before I would want that to happen! Cheating is cheating. Doing it for money...EVEN WORSE!!
    Doing it for money stimulates the economy and we certainly need economic stimulation. That could mean a big screen HDTV for you, for example and perhaps other goodies. Just turn a blind eye.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Im_not_here View Post
    I really really hope she isnt. Like tonight, its snowing here and she says its slow and almost all the girls are there. THAT makes me worry.
    I'll be honest - if it were me, and I were an extras girl, you would have to worry about me on BUSY nights more than empty nights.

    On a slow night, the energy in the club is just awful. I get happy when customers come in, but my sets on stage are half-asses, and so are my dances. An extras girl I was friends with used to tell me that if the night was bad, she didn't even feel like sucking dick. LOL

    Try not to freak out.
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