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    Quote Originally Posted by estuans View Post
    What are your views of married men clubbing too much?
    I've been happily married 15 years but from the first year of our marriage, I've been going to clubs. In time the frequency increased from once a month to two three times a week. On the one hand I feel guilty doing this behind my wife's back, but it's my only chance to see and touch young women. It's really exhilirating for me.
    FWIW, most of the dancers with whom I'm friendly, almost without exception, have a very low personal opinion of the married guys who frequent the clubs. I was a little surprised because these guys tend to be their bread and butter but the girls really thought very little of them.
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    Quote Originally Posted by mediocrity View Post
    You're so lucky. I mean really. Dancing gave me serious, serious anger management issues.
    I couldn't agree more. I am one angry stripper. LOL. But I kinda like it sometimes since in normal life I am probably too calm and collected.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bem401 View Post
    FWIW, most of the dancers with whom I'm friendly, almost without exception, have a very low personal opinion of the married guys who frequent the clubs. I was a little surprised because these guys tend to be their bread and butter but the girls really thought very little of them.
    This comes as no surprise since, based on your posts here, your friends don't think much of any of their customers regardless of marital status...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jessie_tinydancer View Post
    I couldn't agree more. I am one angry stripper. LOL. But I kinda like it sometimes since in normal life I am probably too calm and collected.
    It surprises and saddens me that you are an angry stripper. Reading your posts here and there you seemed pretty upbeat.

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    ^LOL I love dancing but I just get shitty with the constant stupid comments from customers. I never show them I am angry...trust me. But yes it is causing some "issues" at the moment with my own psych and anger and irritability. Basically I just wish I had more pleasant customers. Thank god for my regulars because I genuinely really like a lot of them, but that's probably part of the reason I find other guys so frustrating. Most of my regulars would give me $500-$600 without batting an eye and always treat me with respect. Without them I doubt I would last very long dancing. Although I can do the sat night young crazy drunk boys... I hate it and sometimes, like last night my confidence is low around them which effects my $$$ and makes me more grumpy haha.

    Basically the OP is my ideal customer

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    If I was your wife I would cut your balls off, marinate them and then feed them to you.

    Touching other women is cheating. You suck. Lying is fucked. You suck.

    When I am at work I don't give a shit. I have a great regular who is married. But just thinking that if that was done to me - such deception.....well I would be homicidal. I don't see this as hypocritical because: I play a role at work and what I accept at work and what I would accept in my own personal life are two different things. I also laugh at jokes that are not funny or clever at work. Doesn't mean I dont think the guy is a dick-head.

    When married guys ask me out or for sex I keep taking their money but while I take it I think how disgusting and pathetic they are.
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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us View Post
    This comes as no surprise since, based on your posts here, your friends don't think much of any of their customers regardless of marital status...
    Actually, a couple of veteran bartending friends first mentioned it to me, and my dancer friends did not dispute it at all when asked. Generally speaking, customers were customers, nothing more, but they considered married regular customers seedier, not as bad as the perves, but still close to the bottom of the barrel. The girls would still entertain these guys though. Money is money.

    They'd actually agree with many of the posters in this thread.

    Don't worry though. None stated that they held this against you, afaik.
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    Come get dances with me. I promise not to tell your wife.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bem401 View Post
    Don't worry though. None stated that they held this against you, afaik.
    Trust me BEM I'm not worried....
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    Quote Originally Posted by jaizaine View Post

    When married guys ask me out or for sex I keep taking their money but while I take it I think how disgusting and pathetic they are.
    I think you should stand on principle and run them off. It's disgusting that a married guy would ask you out.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FBR View Post
    I think you should stand on principle and run them off. It's disgusting that a married guy would ask you out.

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    LOL shocking isn't it? Although I did feel sorry for the dude who hadn't had his dick sucked in 20 years and was telling me how much he missed head. Felt so sorry in fact that I had to take about $10k and let him by me a 16gb iphone
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    Quote Originally Posted by jaizaine View Post
    LOL shocking isn't it? Although I did feel sorry for the dude who hadn't had his dick sucked in 20 years and was telling me how much he missed head. Felt so sorry in fact that I had to take about $10k and let him by me a 16gb iphone

    LOL, Don't feel too sorry for him! Damn fool could have gotten his dick sucked at least a hundred times for that much money if he had gone looking for an escort instead of a strip club...
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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us View Post
    Trust me BEM I'm not worried....
    Of course not. You're getting what you're paying for, right? In those circumstances, what people think of you doesn't and shouldn't matter.
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    Quote Originally Posted by bem401 View Post
    Of course not. You're getting what you're paying for, right? In those circumstances, what people think of you doesn't and shouldn't matter.
    LOL, That's not quite it....

    BEM, try and understand something. In spite of the fact that you seem to relish reminding me here on SW that we are acquainted with a few of the same dancers the last thing I am concerned about or interested in are the useless tidbits you post here about what they may think of me in particular or customers in general. Only one of these women is someone I consider a friend and I have known her long enough that we have talked about just about any topic you could imagine including this one. The rest of the lot are women I either don't see much anymore, barely know or have never even met other than a brief hello and a "no thank you" ITC.

    I do get a mild chuckle out of the fact that your obsession with all things yoda causes you to even bring this thread and my name up in the same conversation with a stripper. I could think of much better things to talk about...
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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us View Post
    I do get a mild chuckle out of the fact that your obsession with all things yoda causes you to even bring this thread and my name up in the same conversation with a stripper. I could think of much better things to talk about...
    Lighten up dude, where did I say you were discussed? I said they never said that stuff about you, mainly because you are not discussed. There is one customer down there who took issue with you and has brought your name up often (much to the girls and my chagrin), but the most the girls have said to me is "that yoda guy is here, let me go try to make some money". Period.
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    Quote Originally Posted by bem401 View Post
    Don't worry though. None stated that they held this against you, afaik.
    OK, forgive my assumption, I missed the disclaimer the first time I read your post.

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    Lighten up dude
    Trust me Bem, I'm laughing my ass off every time I read or respond to one of your posts. Thanks for the laughs and please, stop assuming I take any of this seriously...

    Quote Originally Posted by bem401 View Post
    , "that yoda guy is here, let me go try to make some money". Period.
    Well see, there ya' go throwing one of your "friends" under the bus Bem. Lol, and right here on the internet where they can see it! Since both of the women we both know have sworn to me that they would never tell anyone who I am you just made a liar out of one of them...

    Of course, I'm not surprised (nor do I really care) but if I can't trust them can you?

    See what I mean, this stuff is hysterical!
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    Quote Originally Posted by bem401 View Post
    Of course not. You're getting what you're paying for, right? In those circumstances, what people think of you doesn't and shouldn't matter.

    Leave yoda alone. Your common ladies have a million times more respect for him than for you.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jessie_tinydancer View Post
    Although I can do the sat night young crazy drunk boys... I hate it and sometimes, like last night my confidence is low around them which effects my $$$ and makes me more grumpy haha.
    It's funny how many dancers I have known over the years that say the exact same thing! Most of my regular ladies have been daytime girls or at least preferred to work during the daytime or non-weekend nights. The money is there on weekend nights but so is the BS.

    Several years ago I was visiting a now-retired ATF on a Saturday afternoon. It had been a slow day so she decided to work a double that night. I hung around a bit longer than usual to keep her company until the night crowd had filled in and she could go make some money. It was pretty amazing to see how her mood went from pleasant to agitated as she went from dealing with her afternoon regs to the Saturday night "Baby can I just have your phone number? I don't want to buy a dance I just want to take you home and have sex with you" crowd...
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    Leave yoda alone. Your common ladies have a million times more respect for him than for you.
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    Quote Originally Posted by KS_Stevia View Post

    Leave yoda alone. Your common ladies have a million times more respect for him than for you.
    Leave him alone??? The comment had nothing to do with him specifically. My comments started as general responses to the OP, but yoda's self-consciousness and perception of himself as some sort of strip club luminary makes him think it was directed at him.
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    Well see, there ya' go throwing one of your "friends" under the bus Bem. Lol, and right here on the internet where they can see it! Since both of the women we both know have sworn to me that they would never tell anyone who I am you just made a liar out of one of them...

    Of course, I'm not surprised (nor do I really care) but if I can't trust them can you?

    See what I mean, this stuff is hysterical!

    I'm throwing no one under the bus. She wasn't pointing you out, just excusing herself from the seat next to me.

    As far as lying is concerned, Haven't you yet figured out that's exactly what they are paid to do? You ( and I when I was a customer) pay them to pretend to give a shit about you. Haven't decades of being a SC Junkie caused that to sink in?

    And as far as trust is concerned, some I would trust and some I wouldn't, just like people in the real world, which is how I, unlike you, try to view and treat them, as ordinary people.
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    I'm throwing no one under the bus. She wasn't pointing you out, just excusing herself from the seat next to me.
    So you expect me to believe that a guy who asks anyone in a Providence strip club with a pulse if they know who yoda is wouldn't watch who a dancer walks over to when she says she is going to try and get "that yoda guy" to spend some money on her? LOL, good one BEM, I was born at night, but not last night.

    Quote Originally Posted by bem401 View Post
    As far as lying is concerned, Haven't you yet figured out that's exactly what they are paid to do? You ( and I when I was a customer) pay them to pretend to give a shit about you. Haven't decades of being a SC Junkie caused that to sink in?
    BEM, I'm all grown up. I know exactly what's going on. Your continued refusal to recognize the fact that a guy can pay a woman to dance naked for him and not lose all sense of reality is amusing if not a bit tedious at times.


    Quote Originally Posted by bem401 View Post
    And as far as trust is concerned, some I would trust and some I wouldn't, just like people in the real world, which is how I, unlike you, try to view and treat them, as ordinary people.
    BEM, you have no clue how I view or treat anyone. You insist on trying to make the fact that I spend money on strippers and you don't some sort of defining factor on how we both see reality but that's just BS coming from the keyboard of a total stranger.
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    Quote Originally Posted by bem401 View Post
    Leave him alone??? The comment had nothing to do with him specifically, you nitwit. My comments started as general responses to the OP, but yoda's self-consciousness and perception of himself as some sort of strip club luminary makes him think it was directed at him.
    Liar, you made the passive-aggressive jab at him. Even Stevie Wonder could see that. Really, man, you are enveloped in a thick fatty layer of DENIAL.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bem401 View Post

    And as far as trust is concerned, some I would trust and some I wouldn't, just like people in the real world, which is how I, unlike you, try to view and treat them, as ordinary people.
    Your contempt isn't even hidden. Why does he not treat sex workers like real people in the real world? Are you fucking kidding me? Paying a person to do a job doesn't dehumanize them!

    Do you think your dentist or your mechanic aren't human because you pay them for a service? Really, are you a simpleton or something?

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    Quote Originally Posted by jaizaine View Post
    LOL shocking isn't it? Although I did feel sorry for the dude who hadn't had his dick sucked in 20 years and was telling me how much he missed head. Felt so sorry in fact that I had to take about $10k and let him by me a 16gb iphone
    You are ruthless. I hope you at least gave him a casual reach around when no one was looking. I mean, considering the money spent

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