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    I don't think you have to tell every guy that youre a stripper on the first date atall, it could just be abit of fun, obviously stripping isnt just like any sales job and if you feel something getting abit serious with a guy then you should tell them but telling people youre a stripper does bring up so many issues so by telling guys youre a stripper on the first day I think alot of them are ignorant and will judge you but not on purpose its just because theyre igorant lol and it will stop you having fun that you could have had on that date sometimes..if that makes any sense Im pretty tired.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mediocrity View Post
    IMO that's lying by omission. You need to give any good, decent man who is willing to be serious with you the opportunity to decide whether he can handle your chosen profession or not. Telling him later is going to piss him off and start your relationship with distrust.

    For example, I would never date a man in the military. If I fell in love with him, and found out when I was already invested in the relationship, I would be heartbroken , pissed and would likely end it- not just because of his job, but because of the lying.

    Just... no.
    call it what you want, but I learned my lesson.
    telling someone you are a stripper simply isn't first date talk, esp at my age where the ppl I meet are still a little immature about the whole thing. it is just a job, to me... but to many others out there that don't understand it, it's a lot more.
    in my last relationship, I revealed what I did only to have it thrown back in my face later. the things he did and said about me humiliated me and I never want to go through that again. It sucks that the next guy will have to deal w this wall I have up because of the idiot before him, but I'd much rather be cautious about revealing my profession and risk having him be pissed at me(or even not ever want to speak to me again) for omission... then risk going through something like what I went through again.
    if he is the right guy for me, he'll understand why I couldn't reveal it at first. and i wholeheartedly believe that.

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    The guy I met in the club is headed to Vegas and wants me to go. I sort of want to.
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    My brain just exploded.

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    Im single. Been single for a bit now. Like since last april.
    That relationship was 2 yrs. The one before that lasted 5 yrs.
    Now i just ?"date" which im about to start my own thread on because... i dont know HOW to date. Im a relationship person. Im so sick of "dating". I also miss the comfort of relationships and having a guy there who truly cares about me. The dont give a F attitude and do what i want when i want was fun for a while, but yeah i miss it.

    How have I filled time?? Worked more, (ooh thats fun) havent really gotten into any new hobbies but im looking. And hang more with friends/family.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mediocrity View Post
    My brain just exploded.
    I don't suppose you know of anywhere in Vegas that will let you work a night or two without a license ? I'm guessing they are all really strict.
    ??? I want to go , but need money too.
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    Jenn: You are gorgeous. You'll find a boyfriend. I REALLY do understand the frustration of wanting something " real " and men wanting " surface level " ( or an action buddy or however you want to phrase it ). The bottom line ......... you just have to take that risk and run with it. It's perfectly find to tell them " I'm not interested in casually hooking up. I'm looking for dating to turn into a relationship ".

    And ....... for the first time in my life ........ I'm enjoying just dating .
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    The only club that will let you work a few nights sans license is the Palomino Club. It's in North Las Vegas. Topless dances on the floor, optional nude on stage, nude in VIP. Only club in Las Vegas that has booze and nudity.

    The other stuff... how in the world do you have the time to think all of that stuff?! What the hell girl?! Are your bills paid for the month? Is he fun? Quit slicing everything into slivers of crazy and FUCKING GO. It's a free vacation.

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    ^ Ah ....... that's what I wanted to hear. Bills are tight. They have been tight for a year. My day job income took a MAJOR hit with the recession and I stopped stripping to please my ex. He's gone now and I dance now, so they are becoming less tight. Now that I have money again, I'm obsessed with keeping reg. work hours. But yes ..... they are paid ( barely ) currently. Thanks. Calling the club now.

    He's very very fun. My only complaint is the smoking.

    And ..... being scared that people might recognize " real you " and "Stripper you " and put the two together IS scary to me. I want to minimize that risk. I just didn't mean to be so wordy with it.

    He arrives at 10 tonight.


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    ^^ You tell us every post.

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    The being obsessed with work thing or keeping stripping a secret ? I didn't realize I was doing it .......

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    That you like boys who kiss like girls but I see you edited it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by carmen_b View Post
    ^ Ah ....... that's what I wanted to hear. Bills are tight. They have been tight for a year. My day job income took a MAJOR hit with the recession and I stopped stripping to please my ex. He's gone now and I dance now, so they are becoming less tight. Now that I have money again, I'm obsessed with keeping reg. work hours. But yes ..... they are paid ( barely ) currently. Thanks. Calling the club now.

    He's very very fun. My only complaint is the smoking.

    And ..... being scared that people might recognize " real you " and "Stripper you " and put the two together IS scary to me. I want to minimize that risk. I just didn't mean to be so wordy with it.

    He arrives at 10 tonight.


    Arrives at ten to take you to vegas? Well keep us updated Id like to know how it goes!
    Im kinda like you as in I over worry about things alot and my close friends always tell me I do and its like yes I know I do but I cant help it..like Id want to over worry about things its so stressfull lol I think Ive chilled out though I dont do it so much these days but a couple years back I did really bad especially over men.

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    He stayed one night in SLC. We are in Vegas now. It's been a fun day! I'm not worried about working. I'm in vacation mode now.

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    Uh .... help. The Vegas trip is going WELL, but I'm overwhelmed by the constant interaction. Where is a cheap day spa or something that I can go hang out in ? Are there any that you can pay a $30 or so fee and just use the ameneties?
    Something similar to KabukiSprings.com in San Francisco ? If I can get somewhere totally tranquil and quiet for a few hours, everyone will win. I'm worried if I don't get quiet time, the trip might start going badly.
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    ^ Back from Vegas. Found a kick ass day spa that does do the day use pass . It's at the SouthPoint Casino and it's awesome ( and only $25 for the day pass)
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    The trip went well. Less on the sugar baby vibe and more on the two people just getting to know each other vibe. I'm exhausted now and just glad to be home in my own space.

    R is still on my mind though and he sent a couple of text messages my way while C and I we were in Vegas. R doesn't smoke. C's smoking habit drove me NUTS. C also has kids ( two kids / two weekends of every month ) and I know it shouldn't " dock points " , but it's just ...... hard. He was referencing kids movies / characters / tons of other stuff in Vegas and I was just LOST ( and sort of not interested too ). One isn't even his kid ( but he practically raised her ) so it's impressive he's stepped up.
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    So ........ who else is doing this dating thing ? Post more stories.

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    ^^ I say this with love carmen: get over it. No sense in being butt hurt a month later.

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    You think I shouldn't go ? 'Cause I actually need money ( I'm saving for Hawaii or Thailand ) and working a 3 day batch in WY may be a better use of time. If I give him an evening this weekend, I lose 30% of what I could make since it would have to be a two day trip instead of 3.

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    No I mean get over being upset about the makeout thing. Either go out with the man, or don't.

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    Cool. Going. Two stripper days this week is enough anyway.

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    Sexy R in 6 hours !

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    I have to post the worst date I ever had. I'm surprised I kept dating after this. A friend of mine asked if I'd go out with his neighbor. I said ok, because I didn't have much going that week. So then he picks me up at my house. So far so good, and he tells me he has to pick up two of his guy friends. This was still fine.

    So then comes first warning sign. On the phone he said we'd go out to dinner first. When he picked me up he said we only had time to pick up something on the oasis (this is an overpass on the expressway that has fast food restaurants). I was disappointed but blew it off. So then we stop at KFC and I order a chicken dinner. I ended up paying for it and was disappointed he didn't offer to pay (most guys seem to pay on the first date). I had to use the washroom and when I got back I saw my mashed potatoes were gone because he ate them. In hindsight I could already see things weren't going good. So I got the rest of the meal and we got in his car.

    So then we get to the club and he expects me to pay for him! I declined but paid for myself. His friends were cool and kept buying drinks. He got mad because I wouldn't buy him drinks either. He also started smoking pot at the club. So later on his friends (both met their girlfriends at the club) suggested we all go take a walk on the beach. His friends were making out with their girlfriends and he expected I'd do the same with him, but I refused. So then we get back in his car and drove back to his friends' apartment. When there he proceeded to throw a tantrum because I wouldn't sleep with him. Luckily his two friends took me home and told me to avoid him because he was nasty to all girls (his friends were very nice).

    I can laugh at this now because so many years have past (this was in 1992), but sadly it was a taste of things to come because I dated many more like him. I don't know.

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    Quote Originally Posted by carmen_b View Post
    Kelly :

    I just re-read your note. Did you sleep with this guy already ? I ask because I wonder if he's gotten sex already and that's what he's not doing nice stuff like taking you on dates ect.
    I don't know ......... I hate it when men aren't aggressive. I'm over R . His lack of pursuit turned me off even though he's a fabulous kisser. I can't wait until I see him again and he'll try to get all friendly and I get to say " Oh ...... no thanks. I really prefer a more aggressive men who invites me on dates ect. " . HaHaHa.
    No, I haven't slept with him at all. He takes sex seriously and doesn't believe it should be casual. In fact he strictly believes if he got a girl pregnant, he'd marry her (and he would). He's got issues with dealing with a previous bad relationship, his mother pressuring him to marry and have kids, and in the past I wasn't always nice to him. Besides, with my financial issues I can't get serious now, so I can deal with a friend (and he's been one for years).

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kellydancer View Post
    I had to use the washroom and when I got back I saw my mashed potatoes were gone because he ate them.
    I haven't made it past here , but almost snorted my coffee out my nose ! LOLOLOL.

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