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    Default What's better? To be seduced or be the seducer

    For all my years of stripping and dating and being the one "putting out feelers" or making the first contact etc...I think I prefer to be seduced. I don't like to hold all the power cards. It's boring. The best seduction occurs when you *think* that you're in control but you are really being lead along according to someone else's plan.

    What do you like better? What do you do better?

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    Default Re: What's better? To be seduced or be the seducer

    Well, I am very controlling in all aspects of my life EXCEPT for the sex-stuffs. So, I prefer to be seduced. When in bed, I am so submissive that anyone else would HAVE to be the seducer.
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    Wow, it never even occurred to me that someone might prefer to be the seducer. I would much rather be the seducee, but alas, it's usually the other way around.
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    From the guys I've dated, they seem to prefer taking the lead. I know my current boyfriend has told me he prefers this, but I am such an aggressive person that it's hard to give up control in this aspect.

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    Default Re: What's better? To be seduced or be the seducer

    Me, me, me, I love to be the seducer. I love the chase, the introductions, the first kiss. I like it when sex is awkward and new because you don't know each other. Though monogamous long term sexual relationships are more satisfying, knowing what your partner wants, the first time naked in bed is all good fun.

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    I had a rough junior high/high school experience. They hated me--but I was in Maine, fresh out of Detroit, aged 13, and they were stuck in 1950's LaLaAmerikaLand. It was fucking surreal, and like being in jail 5 years. So when I went to college I really liked kicking back and being the one that was chased. And in my 20's I didn't have to do shit but be patient.

    But times have changed since then. We have returned to a very atavistic sexual politics arena, from what I have seen. Nowadays, f you are a guy and aren't the AlphaMale Aggressor Type, you aren't going to get much action. I have done pretty well, but no question about it, would do much better if I played The Game, and insulted their calves, and played the Three Second Rule.

    Which is kind of boring for me, personally. But what can I say, I am spoiled.
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    For me, it's very give and take. I like to seduce, I like to be seduced - depends on my mood at the time.
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    I prefer seducing however its a real pain in the ass at times

    although it can be really fun if you go after the right type

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    Interesting, tell me more. What is the right type?

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    Default Re: What's better? To be seduced or be the seducer

    I haven't been seduced in a while.I prefer that.It's so easy to put out vibes and things like that , but I'd rather have a man keep me on my toes.It's fun to feel that tension.

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    Thinking about this a little more, I prefer the subtle variety of seduction.

    But that doesn't work very well in the superficial world of singles bars, meat markets--or with people who watch way too much television.

    I tend to do really well with the ones who were party girls and got sick of all the studboys running their games on them. They still want a man who can handle them, but don't need all the bullshit.
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    In college I seduced a virgin who was saving it for marriage with his girlfriend (and they both lived in my dorm). Yes yes, it wasn't a very nice thing to do, but I was a freshman and I don't really regret it. I just think of how many guys have taken a girls virginity when they're just using them for sex. Didn't happen to me, but I'm sure it happens.
    So that was a really rush and ego booster. I did it with a stripshow too
    But when it came down to it, he was on top still.


    Another super hot time towards the end of my college career was with my ex's best friend and housemate while the ex was passed out in the basement. I don't know who seduced whom, but that was a huge ego boost cause I had been around this stud for two years and always wanted him. And he saw me looking like shit and being a bitch with my ex at times.

    But these two times still bring a smile to my face. But seducing isn't generally my thing unless its a challenge for some reason. There are way more guys that want to fuck me than there are guys that I want to fuck, so therefore for mathematical reasons I usually need to be the seducee.

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    Prefer to be seduced in a courting situation.

    In the bedroom with a long term partner I like both but prefer them to seduce me. I like to be massaged and kissed so that I am really turned on for sex.
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    Oh, being seduced is better by far! Especially if you are unaware that a seduction is taking place, that is the absolute best. So few people are skilled at seducing others that the attempts are usually just lame.

    I want a seducer that gets completely under my skin and is on my mind for years after the seduction is over. Sigh. That has only happened once, but it was awesome!


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    Default Re: What's better? To be seduced or be the seducer

    I strongly prefer being seduced. The other way around is actually a turn - off.

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    Quote Originally Posted by laurcon View Post
    In college I seduced a virgin who was saving it for marriage with his girlfriend (and they both lived in my dorm). Yes yes, it wasn't a very nice thing to do, but I was a freshman and I don't really regret it. I just think of how many guys have taken a girls virginity when they're just using them for sex. Didn't happen to me, but I'm sure it happens.
    So that was a really rush and ego booster. I did it with a stripshow too
    But when it came down to it, he was on top still.


    Another super hot time towards the end of my college career was with my ex's best friend and housemate while the ex was passed out in the basement. I don't know who seduced whom, but that was a huge ego boost cause I had been around this stud for two years and always wanted him. And he saw me looking like shit and being a bitch with my ex at times.

    But these two times still bring a smile to my face. But seducing isn't generally my thing unless its a challenge for some reason. There are way more guys that want to fuck me than there are guys that I want to fuck, so therefore for mathematical reasons I usually need to be the seducee.
    You and I would get along so well. I sport-fucked a handful of virgins. It was fun. They were all single but two of them to this day still get in touch with me randomly.

    A girl at work stole my debit card, so when her boyfriend broke up with her I fucked her ex boyfriend... who is my good friend G. He and I had the lust bugs for each other for a few months so I figured what the hell... karma is a bitch.

    Though I prefer to be the person who does the seduction; I'm far too picky and if guys come up and talk to me in bars I ignore them. It's like trust me dude- if I see you and I want you, you will so know about it. I also have no qualms about fucking on the first date if that's how it goes down.

    I've chilled out and confidence'd up in the last couple of years.

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    Ahhh the art of seduction I love being the seducer.
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    Being seduced by a wonderful lady is about as good as it gets.
    So I'll take seducee, please.

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    I guess I like to be seduced by a High-risk sort of character (someone I could fall in love with) and to at the same time BE seducing someone else who's fairly low risk (probably not going to fall in love with them)

    This whole thread is getting me sorta excited. lol. Great answers.

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    Courting is only acceptable when the man writes a letter to the woman's parents asking for permission to date her. No "seduction" is necessary.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mediocrity View Post
    Though I prefer to be the person who does the seduction; I'm far too picky and if guys come up and talk to me in bars I ignore them. It's like trust me dude- if I see you and I want you, you will so know about it. I also have no qualms about fucking on the first date if that's how it goes down.
    This is pretty much exactly what I was gonna write. I definitely prefer to do the seducing and if someone I'm interested in is trying to seduce me I will back off and act like I'm not interested so that they stop and I get to do all the work. I also really like seducing people who aren't into me right off the bat.

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    I think your ability to seduce is also a measure of maturity (resiliency?) in some respects.

    In high school I was very shy, but always longing to make eye contact or wishing a boy would talk to me. Yet the stakes were too high. I would have nearly died in a blushing sputtering nerd-attack.

    As you get more mature about it, more confident that there WILL be others, the seriousness wears off. It's not the end of the world now if a guy I'm interested in has a GF or just doesn't want me. On to the next one. I'm thinking single suits me for now.

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    Quote Originally Posted by laurcon View Post
    There are way more guys that want to fuck me than there are guys that I want to fuck, so therefore for mathematical reasons I usually need to be the seducee.
    This is also true.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Djoser View Post
    But times have changed since then. We have returned to a very atavistic sexual politics arena, from what I have seen. Nowadays, f you are a guy and aren't the AlphaMale Aggressor Type, you aren't going to get much action. I have done pretty well, but no question about it, would do much better if I played The Game, and insulted their calves, and played the Three Second Rule.

    Which is kind of boring for me, personally. But what can I say, I am spoiled.
    I have had this bullshit run on me so many times. Not my calves, because they are stunning, but the basic idea applies. This does not work on anyone with an iota of self esteem, or who knows anything about the male pickup books on the market. I much prefer a man who just tells me he's attracted and lets me decide from there.

    On the whole, I prefer being seduced, but usually end up having to do the seducing.

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