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    My sister and I are 10 years apart. I wan to be a great older sister, sometimes I end up being a jerk. I tell her we will paint our nails then I fall asleep. Not it's in the middle of the night and her and her friend are asleep in the fortress they made and I'm awake. I also complained about having to watch her friend.

    Ugh. I wish I wasn't so moody sometimes. I don't want her to feel like she can't count on me. My patents are getting a divorce and during that time I've been traveling. I feel like I have missed alot. I live an hour away, because I travel I miss her bowling games and her school events and even have the nerve to complain when I'm with her. I was 'too tired' I didn't even have the balls to say up an extra hour or two to spen time with her and her friend.

    GAH

    I'm such a loser. I need to have my own life too right? I sometimes feel like my plans were foiled though. I mean, when I was younger I wanted to grow up and drive my litter sister to school one day. Now that I am old I've olny done it once. She never gets to see my work (I do dance) and I am licit with my boyfriend, I have one cat and he has 5, turns out she is allergic to cats. My first thought when this showed up( I lived alone) was that I should get rid of my cat ( although now I love her to death).

    It just seems like alot of my plans in life don't include her anymore. She's 10 now. Growing up so fast.

    Do you have a big sis or just have advice ?

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    Default Re: How to be a great big sister

    My big sister includes me in very little. We don't get on. I'm 7 inches taller, 4.5 years younger, white as paper, etc - you would never think we were sisters. Personality-wise, too. I'm training to be an English teacher, she's an accountant. I don't drink, she does.

    We are not friends.

    We ARE sisters, though.

    I don't want to hear her music, eat her food, hang at her place, talk to her boyfriend, do her makeup, or anything. She feels the same way. But we have each other's back and we know that if anything happens, the other will drop everything and anything and practically FLY to help out. I help her with writing letters, she helps me sticking up for myself. We're not going to be pals, but we trade off each other's skills.

    We have our own lives, our own circles, interests, tastes - we'll never see eye to eye - but we'll always be able to look past that to the connection we DO have with each other, which I'm sure you can relate to.
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    ha at least you are there for her. I am an older sister and younger sister both. I live bout 45 minutes from my lil sis, and am there for her no matter what, BUT we are extrememly different and manage to hang out maybe 3 times a month. She is into advancing her career and is sometimes more mature than me and is involved in Corporate Finance; I can barely manage my own finances.

    My older sis lives in Adelaide, Australia and I next to never see her. We are facebook sisters. She is deeply into politics and international relations; I am an ELD teacher and don't care much for politics.

    It's hard. I would like to see them both more, but sometimes it just is hard when you are so different. I guess you have to take what you can get and do what you can when you can. Don't try to be perfect because you will just let both of you down; don't make promises you can't keep but keep trying.
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    We have the same age gap. Lil sis is also 10 years younger ( I may delete this later for privacy , please don't quote ). Honestly .... at this age ..... LISTEN. Her problems with friends and boys are very real and deserve an ear. Take her out if you have a problem doing nails yourself. I'm the total girlie one ( I love spas and stuff ) so my sis has already been and done everything way before her friends! We are now 20 and 30, so the dynamic is different. She's in college and kicking major ass and it's exciting to see !

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    All I can say is I was taken away from my little sisters when I was 12 and they were 3 and 5. I grew up without them, and I JUST found them/met them again about 2 months ago. I missed a lot, and even though I spent 3 and 5 years with them, most of it was spent shileding them from a flying lamp or taking them up to the attic real quick so they wouldnt hear our mom being thrown against a wall and crying and screaming. I really wish that our time together was happier, and I wish that the 13 years that we lost could be replaced. I could only dream of being that big sister that U complain about being sometimes. Stay up late and paint her nails and talk about boys and watch teen movies and eat junk food and tell stories. You re lucky to have her.
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    Your experiences growing up have made you stronger people.no one should have to go through that. It sounds like you did your best to be an older sibling.

    ^i don't complain about her in the least bit, I wish I could be there more often. I want to be the best sister possible. I'm glad you have found them again.

    Your stories are great! It's good to know that she is always my sister, no matter what happens in our lives.

    I also have step siblings I am trying to get in contact with.

    Thank you for sharing

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    I will make more time to do all the sisterly things, like watch movies, build fortresses, paint nails.

    I will stay more like a sister than another adult figure. I want her to be able to talk to me about anything , boys drugs whatever. That's great advice!

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    Don't think that you have to be perfect to be a good big sister. All big sisters get tired or annoyed with their lil sis sometimes. We can put on a face for the rest of the world, but your family will love you even if you are tired or frustrated. Your little sister still looks up to you. Just do the best you can and don't feel bad when you are not perfect.

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    I wish I had siblings sometimes, only child here. If I had a little sister, I'd spoil the crap out of her.
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