If so, why? Can they get along well? Do you have friendships (of any ages) where you work?
If so, why? Can they get along well? Do you have friendships (of any ages) where you work?
If the older dancers are rude to the younger(18-20yrs~)dancers, there are several reasons to take into account:
1. The most pathetic reason - younger dancers represent "money taken out of their garter
or g-string". This reason is pathetic, due to the fact that it generally pertains to a
certain kind of older dancer. While there are lots of older dancers who take such good
care of themselves(physically and mentally) that they look a lot younger than their age,
it's the ones who don't do so that are the perpetrators of this negative view on the
younger bunch. These are the older dancers who, most likely, know that they are near
the end of their dancing days and are feeling insecure and desperate. These feelings
they are having result from not planning accordingly for their future(desperation), as
well as not taking care of themselves(physically and mentally - hence, insecurity
resulting). The majority of the younger dancers, therefore, represent not only a
financial loss; they represent what these "certain older dancers" should have attended
too, but didn't(all matters that result in a healthy sense of self).
2. This pertains to the sc newbies(18-20yrs~): If you fall into this category, please pay
close attention to what I'm about to say. In all my years of dancing, this situation takes
place a lot: If you are brand new to stripping, it is natural to have a lot of questions.
However, take your questions to this wonderful website or to the housemom at your
club. Don't ask another dancer(you don't know), for she may not want to be bothered.
Especially when a dancer is getting ready for her shift, she may still be getting into her
"stripper frame of mind". Even when a dancer is on the floor, she may be scoping out
her next "victim(tee hee)" and not want to be bothered with questions about
stripping.
3. Older dancers may come across as rude if the younger dancers are "acting like loud,
obnoxious kids". I'm not saying that all "18-20 year olds" are like this, it's just that
there are some who are enjoying their job(which is awesome, esp. b/c it adds
positive energy to the environment) so much that they get way to loud and assume
others feel the same amount of excitement. So, if you are behaving like this in the
dressing room and get the "stink-eye" from some of the other dancers, just tone it
down.
4. There is a saying that you may have heard. If not, here goes: "The more friends you
have, the less money you make". Very, very, very true. It is enough to just be polite
to one another(minding one's manners). Making a real friend, esp. with a fellow
dancer, is a rarity. If that happens, consider yourself blessed. The reason I point
this out is b/c older dancers(or really anyone who has danced long enough to learn
this) may come across as unfriendly to a younger/newbie dancer, by not looking at
them or acknowledgeing(sp) them........some will even make use of "selective hearing"
and not even answer anyone that speaks to them. Remember, this is a job in which
we are in competition with one another......perhaps, also with ourselves. Therefore,
it's better to keep to oneself and just focus on making money.



I'm fortunate enough that there is no tension between me and the 20 year olds. I started dancing at age 38 and do not feel like I'm running out of time..I have had two successful careers that I can fall back into if and when I hang up the stilletos. I am a very new dancer and have found that the young ladies are very helpful and kind. I don't think they see me as any type of competition because I usually draw in a different type of guy so private shows are not usually a competition.
I don't view them as competition because I am averaging the same number of private shows per night as the young experienced girls. There's plenty of men with money to go around. I think it's when you start thinking that you are competing for men and money that this job can take on a desperate feeling.
Hell I don't feel like I'm running out of time..just got started. LOVE being the cougar. I have marketing skills the young girls are still learning (and I'm happy to share with them).





here is a thread where some bimbo asked why the older girls hated her and assumed it was because she was young and beautiful and without botox:
http://forum.stripperweb.com/showthread.php?t=138647
The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.
No, not as a general rule. This is on a case by case basis on who likes whom when and where.
I used to prefer the company of the younger dancers when traveling. I didn't even start dancing until I was 28, so I guess I was always an "older" dancer.
Promote yourself and earn more money! This is a business that is owned by strippers for strippers. Let's make that money!



There are several 30+ women who work during the day at my club. I am 18 and just started. So far they've either been very helpful or just didn't take much interest in me. It seems to depend on the women. Most of them have been giving me tips on hair, makeup, talking to guys, etc, and the others aren't bothered by me because they have been there for so long, they know they have a great number of regulars and are very confident. if anything they just see me as being really new and probably don'tbeing much of a threat.
I kept my head down and let the friendly, helpful ones come to me. I was polite, unassuming and let everyone know I had no idea what I was doing and i didn't want to get in their way. I've gotten on a lot of girls' good sides with that, just be cool
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The only usual reason that I have an issue with any dancer regardless of age is because of their atttude.
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Some dancers just feel newbies and younger dancers need to prove themselves 1st or they might see them as unfair competition if they are feeling insecure about aging or it might be the general babysitting and immaturity that might bother others.
Me personally I can careless and I'll be friendly to anybody who is pleasant and well mannered/good to me. I have no issue showing any1 the ropes and if some1 tries to step on my toes for doing so well I'll put them in their place with the quickness.
I do try to avoid jailbait as I do date younger and like to play around w coworkers, but I get completely uncomfortable when a minor gets a crush on me which has happened at work with a girl that was good friends with my best friend which wasn't pretty cuz my best friend is both a possive and protective friend so I had to have a talk to her about advising her friend not to follow me around like a lost puppy as she wanted soo much to be 1 of us adults who can play around or date if we wanted, but we couldn't even seek her out to the after hours cuz not only was she young, but she looked maybe 16. Real pretty and I diid/do like her, but wayy wayy too young to play with the big girls we kinda included her in as 1 of us cuz she was close to my bestie still we were the it girls/click of the club that just didn't hang w/ most the other girls.
See the other thing is after years of dancing and being it in the scene sometimes we have those friendships/bonds with the other girls who have been there soo when you basically run the club from the inside everyone else who comes in starts naturally at a beginners level to the seasoned dancers of the club that already know how things around there work.
I know when I st danced I pissed off alot of the old crew well cuz I made changes, was different, and didn't know some of the inside rules. Like who feels their poles tricks should not be copied, who is insecure about their weight so avoid having the I eat all I want convo with, or which customer is who's regular or secrete boyfriend pretending to be a custie, ect..ect Plus face it I was the 1st really dykie butch girl who danced there ever. I also danced real weird to them as I used to do gogo for rock and goth clubs soo.. It took time for me not to be the most hated young newbie once a pond a time, but over time I became 1 of those girls in the clubs it group. It's just normal and how it goes at alot of clubs.
Newbies come in and it's the seasoned girls there that break them in to see it they fit in their club.
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I've had bad experiences with new dancers coming into the club bringing new extras. Instead of following the rules, they realize that they can earn less for giving more. So every time a new girl comes in, I have more to compete with (since I'm one of the last clean dancers in the club). Especially in this economy.




It has nothing to do with age it has to do with how secure a person is with themselves.
Personally I'm not all that insecure. One because I have been that 19 year old. Two because some younger girls have a problem with me making money. Sometimes I make more money than younger dancers because of my experience. I make it from younger guys too.
Younger girls hate on the older dancers not knowing that they to may be dancing at a later age someday.
When I first started dancing I was chummy with the older girls and they didn't seem to hate whatsoever.
If I were to hate on a girl which is rare it would be because of her personality not her age.





I generally don't make friends with 18-19 year olds cause the gap is just too big. It has nothing to do with me thinking Im better or being jealous. It's just that I usually don't have anything in common with anyone under at least 23. There are a lot of 18 year old in my school program and a lot of them live at home still, they are very shy and don't have strong conversation skills, they seem wrapped up in what to wear and who is "cool", they have no concept of the real world, bills, money, stress etc. Of course this is a generalization and some will not fit into this description. I'm not hating on them cause obviously I was 18 once too, but I'm past that stage now. I've lived out of home for 9 years, married, have nice things and money, had a career outside of dancing where I made similar money, one degree and working on another, lots of confidence and kindness and compassion I didn't have when I was younger.





I have to agree with Jessie
It's not hating, its just indifference, or a don't care attitude. Older dancers just don't wanna make friends, or lose money because of petty interactions with younger girl drama. Plus, they have less in common.
This isn't speaking for all, of course. Some older dancers will hate on younger girls for being immature, extras-bringing drama queens.
Some don't wanna play the "mentor" role either, and just want to go about their own business.
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