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    Do you do anything different? I'm very new at this..obviously they seem very into the show since they paid for the dance..any helpful hints or insights into dancing for other chicks? I love it..

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    Default Re: when a woman books you for a private dance

    well you need to think about why did they buy the dance, different women buy dances for different reasons so you have to adjust your dance accordingly.

    The main types of women that I see:

    1. Party girl with friends- she wants to show off her wild side and just have fun and yell. so make your dance sexy, but also make her laugh. she wants her boobs played with, she probably would like to smack your ass if allowed. she wants to seem sexually experimental and fun.
    2. Half of the couple- she is doing it to show off for her husband. and her husband is watching. so keep in mind you are putting on a show for two. I am not sure if you are talking about you being booked in a private room alone wiht the woman or not, but usually these are the woman who are bought dances and the husband asks if he can watch.
    3. The curious or already into women who actually wants a dance for herself not to show off for others- keep it sensual. very sensual. and as far as grinding- remember women dont have the equipment to make grinding as entertaining as it is for men. i would keep it lighter contact and more focus on the smaller details that you always wish your man would do for you-- i.e. pay attention to the ears, neck etc. also keep in mind most female customers are smaller, so dont squish em!
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    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    Default Re: when a woman books you for a private dance

    Depends on the woman, if she's really into women and enjoying it I dance the same way except have to remember not to stroke her chest, might get a bit awkward! Also don't really grind as I doubt this would be enjoyable, I don't think it would do anything for me.

    If she's just a bit curious or someone else paid for it for her and I can tell she feels a little uncomfortable I'll make it a lower contact or air dance, these women usually just try and chat to you the entire time anyway so doing a normal dance is a little difficult.

    As with any customer I try and give a dance they will enjoy, also if they get grabby I'll back away and dance at a distance and/or end their dance early. I've found a few women who think it's ok for them to grab me because they're female, hate this, if you're a customer get your hands off me!

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    Default Re: when a woman books you for a private dance

    Men are visual. Women like touch. If she takes you cause she is genuinely interested, then soft caresses and coming close is good. Showing poon is not necessary. Women like intimacy. I am speaking more about les or bi girls, not party nights or couples.

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    Default Re: when a woman books you for a private dance

    Well as a bi woman who would definitely love to buy dances as a genuine, attracted custy, I would love you to give your best dance However you love to dance and what makes you feel sexy. I like the visual and tactile aspects. Not all of us are the same!
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    Default Re: when a woman books you for a private dance

    Sorry for posting in this forum, but as a genuine-lesbian-lap-dancing-buying customer, I wanted to quickly toss in my $.02

    I like lots of boob touching and fairly overt sexual contact. Just coming close won't cut it for me. Perhaps I'm more "hardcore" than most female custies. If a dancer is giving me a rather timid dance, I am not shy about telling her that more contact is appreciated (as long as she is comfortable with it, of course). Most dancers seem to appreciate being told where a female custies comfort zone is,rather than assuming. Unfortunately, many female custies are shy and the last thing they are going to do is let a dancer know what they'd like in a dance.

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    Default Re: when a woman books you for a private dance

    Quote Originally Posted by lopaw View Post
    Sorry for posting in this forum, but as a genuine-lesbian-lap-dancing-buying customer, I wanted to quickly toss in my $.02

    I like lots of boob touching and fairly overt sexual contact. Just coming close won't cut it for me. Perhaps I'm more "hardcore" than most female custies. If a dancer is giving me a rather timid dance, I am not shy about telling her that more contact is appreciated (as long as she is comfortable with it, of course). Most dancers seem to appreciate being told where a female custies comfort zone is,rather than assuming. Unfortunately, many female custies are shy and the last thing they are going to do is let a dancer know what they'd like in a dance.
    This is a very good point. I'll make sure to let the dancer know that more contact is appreciated if she is comfortable with it. I would usually just stay quiet, and they would gradually get more into it if I got a few more dances from them.

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    Default Re: when a woman books you for a private dance

    Honestly, the only difference for me is that I wouldn't grind (in grinding clubs) because I wouldn't think that it would do anything for them! Other than that, its pretty much the same! If the girl seems super nervous, definitely make them laugh, try to make them feel comfortable..but hopefully you are doing that anyway!! I LOVE dancing for women...even the grabby ones are usually super respectful, and if they are in a couple, and you target the woman, she can open her husbands wallet faster than you can!
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    Dont do the knee rubbing, grinding thing. I had a dancer do this to me once. I was like wtf. I dont have a dick. But she was more of a zombie autopilot dancer. So...

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    Default Re: when a woman books you for a private dance

    I'm always scared to dance on women....not because I'm homophobic or anything but because women are smaller and more fragile and they don't have dicks to grind on and alot of times I don't know what to do and feel bad......

    I'm definatley gonna have my friends who have been working longer teach me how!....lol
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    Default Re: when a woman books you for a private dance

    OP, you really need to specify where you are getting booked. Is this inside a club? Or a private outside a club? If it's inside the club you'll probably have an idea based on who she is sitting with, how she's dressed, & how she acts as to what her motive is for getting a private dance from you... which will probably fit into one of the categories Athena described above. If this is for outside the club, it is possible via telephone/e-mail to gauge her motives by asking questions like:

    1.) Is this for a one-on-one or a group party?
    2.) Are you celebrating an event?

    (Only if booking a one-on-one)
    3.) Have you booked a one-on-one before with another dancer in the past?

    As Athena said, if she's a straight party girl, she probably wants to see all the stereotypical stripper antics. Anything "crazy" or acrobatic you can do is likely to amuse her, so: spanking your bum, overtly sexual gestures, sticking your leg behind your head, shaking your bum, etc.

    For the couples, you need to address right away what her interests are, & usually the easiest way to do that is to ask them if they swing. If they say no, but the girl is bi-sexual, they are likely to come right out & tell you so. If they don't elaborate on that there is either: a current/previous dancer, or she got dragged into the club & is very timid. If they say yes, they do swing, there's a good chance she's bi. If the woman is timid & not keen on the idea of the club, keep the touching to a minimum. Otherwise, see below, even for previous/current dancers who are straight, most are more likely to enjoy seeing a more sensual dance.

    The biggest thing to this is that since they are women, you already have an idea of how they will react. There are soooo many ways & places that you can touch a woman to send tingles up her spine. I'm not going to give away everything on here, but think back to the places that yourselves or girlfriends have been touched that made you wonder if he liked your or made you squirm with anticipation: the small of the back, slowly moving your hand down the inside of her arm to hold her hand before a "big moment", moving your hand up the inside of the thigh & giving a light squeeze closer to the top, moving her hair so she can feel your breath lightly on the side of her neck, etc.

    The other type of girl who Athena didn't list is the really shy (and/or conservative) type of girl whose friends force her to go back for a lap dance. I try to go easy on them, they tend to already be nervous, but their friends expect her to come back blushing. You can give her primarily an air dance with just a bit of touching. Towards the VERY end do something a bit more extreme (to make her blush), then say "See, that wasn't so bad, was it?" (she's going to be freaked but will agree). Hold her hand & lead her back to the group she's with. You can say to her on the way back "Sorry about that last part, but I'd hate to disappoint your friends, so I had to bring you back blushing!" (big smile).
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    The last time I danced for 2 hot lesbians with a Bettie Page fetish. damn they were fucking hot.

    then there was the time I ate out this army chick in VIP in el paso. We dated until her ex husband turned into a fucking prick.

    Last week I ate out this chick in the bathroom at work. I even took pictures Oh, wait this is custie related my bad.
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    I don't like dancing for girls, they're so much smaller than men and I feel like a big unit dancing for them (I'm only small myself)

    My bank manager is this cute little girl, and when I had my first leeting with her after she took over my account, I told her where I worked. That weekend she came in, got hammered and started buying dances from the other girls. She came back a few times and always promised to get a dance with me. Eventually she did, and I did it, but it made me really uncomfortable. I didn't feel like I could say no though

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    Quote Originally Posted by tempest666 View Post
    The last time I danced for 2 hot lesbians with a Bettie Page fetish. damn they were fucking hot.

    then there was the time I ate out this army chick in VIP in el paso. We dated until her ex husband turned into a fucking prick.

    Last week I ate out this chick in the bathroom at work. I even took pictures Oh, wait this is custie related my bad.
    Omg pppppplllllleeeeeeaaaaaasssssseeeee come work one night at my club lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aslinn View Post
    Omg pppppplllllleeeeeeaaaaaasssssseeeee come work one night at my club lol

    where are you at?
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