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    Is it hard to not fall into doing extras, prostitution, and drugs once you become a stripper? I'm a virgin and I really want to save sex for marriage... Is that a realistic goal if I become a stripper? Ive just heard so many stories on here about whores and crackheads and they probably didnt start out like that... I just hope I will be able to be strong enough to stay above that stuff so I can graduate with my degree and go to medical school but I wonder how pragmatic my plans will stay the longer I am a stripper...

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    Eight and a half years and I have never performed an extra, or become a drug addict. I did get a lot meaner, and drink more.

    I find it moderately amusing you're saving sex for marriage but you'd suck a guy's dick over "blackmail".

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    Quote Originally Posted by mediocrity View Post
    Eight and a half years and I have never performed an extra, or become a drug addict. I did get a lot meaner, and drink more.

    I find it moderately amusing you're saving sex for marriage but you'd suck a guy's dick over "blackmail".
    I decided not too lol I'm just going to ignore him

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    I'm not a stipper, but plan to be, and I'm not really worried about that. Your values and morals don't go down the drain just because your a stripper. I can tell a lot of the women here are smart ladies who have respect for themselves.
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    Honestly, since you are so young and a virgin, and a student at a University, I would NOT start dancing if I was you. You have a lot of really good things going for you and working in your favor, and yes, there is a moderate chance that you could get caught up in some bad things. I don't want to call it the "culture" of a strip club, but drugs, sex, and other bad things are readily available in this type of environment.

    If you are a strong person, you won't get caught up in it. I never did. With that being said, stripping did change a lot about me, positive and negative. I dropped out of college and got addicted to the money and power trip from it all. I was 22-23, living in Dallas, working in Vegas, two cars paid off, nice apartment, flying around on private jets with celebrities, you get the idea. I am now 25 and have come to the realization that I NEED to stop dancing, and what sucks is I CANT! I'm now trapped in this job because I wasn't 100% smart and planned things out when I started. I never got involved in the drugs or prostitution, but I am just as fucked up in other ways. It's like, yes I had fun for a few years, but I just wasted and blew through money, and now I am back where I started.

    Don't do it! Live on your student loans and finish school, the way that everyone else does it. You will have to carry the emotional and mental burden of dancing with you even after you quit, meaning you can't undo what you went through with this job.
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    Not only are not going to want to give up your virginity while stripping, you'll probably be put off sex for the rest of your life.

    Our brains imprint on early experiences in our lives. Like the foods you enjoy, for instance, is based on what you ate as a child. Ever had a bad experience with a food item, say puking up something you tried for the first time? How did you feel about eating that food again? Same goes for sexual experiences. Your first sexual experiences will effect how you feel about sex for the rest of your life. Exotic dancing is most definitely a sexual experience. Hell, I had more fake sex in the club than I ever had in all my years dating. (not extras, just the dry humping called a lap dance)

    Oh, and oral sex, is still sex. If you've had oral sex you are no longer a virgin. Just so as you aren't deluding yourself about the differences between anatomy vs. actual experiences. Anyone can be a virgin again any time through plastic surgery, even the Octomom.

    Virginity means you are innocent of sexual experiences as much as it means your hymen is still in tact.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Paris View Post
    Not only are not going to want to give up your virginity while stripping, you'll probably be put off sex for the rest of your life.

    Our brains imprint on early experiences in our lives. Like the foods you enjoy, for instance, is based on what you ate as a child. Ever had a bad experience with a food item, say puking up something you tried for the first time? How did you feel about eating that food again? Same goes for sexual experiences. Your first sexual experiences will effect how you feel about sex for the rest of your life. Exotic dancing is most definitely a sexual experience. Hell, I had more fake sex in the club than I ever had in all my years dating. (not extras, just the dry humping called a lap dance)

    Oh, and oral sex, is still sex. If you've had oral sex you are no longer a virgin. Just so as you aren't deluding yourself about the differences between anatomy vs. actual experiences. Anyone can be a virgin again any time through plastic surgery, even the Octomom.

    Virginity means you are innocent of sexual experiences as much as it means your hymen is still in tact.
    Oh ok well I have never even been kissed yet much less oral but I was considering it for a bit because someone tried to blackmail me but I decided to ignore him

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    I won't say 100%, but you are likely to have a helluva time as a stripper. Younger people try so hard to fit in and be liked by the other dancers and customers, it will be extremely difficult for you to say away from the sex, drugs and alcohol.

    The only way you can avoid it is if you can manage to go to work, do your job (sober) and go home. Don't make any friends, don't hang out at the club before or after work, and just disengage yourself from all things stripperish when not working.

    The girls that I've seen who are able to stay away from the drugs and partying are ones with an all-business attitude. You need to ask yourself if you can manage this. I've got exactly 3 friends that I made while working in the business over 12 years. I've met thousands of dancers and club staff members. Even at that rate, I have intertwined myself so deeply in the industry, I doubt I'll ever be out of stripping.

    I don't drink (much), I don't use drugs (well, cannabis on a regular basis), and I've not done many extras (just a few here and there, no sex just touching). Once you've been dancing a while it all seems so normal. Getting paid to behave sexually for some very unattractive people, day in and day out can be a difficult reality for many people.

    Do you think you can handle it, Angel? Give it some thought, some serious thought. Like, can you envision yourself flirting with your grandfather's friends in a convincing manner, then rubbing your bare body all over that same elderly man for $20 a song? Repeat that action 10 times a day or more, and that is essentially what you are signing up for.

    Even worse is when the obese, bald, toothless guy decides to sexually assault you during a dance by pulling out his dick or trying to stick his fingers inside your butt. You have to be ready for this reality. Are you ready?

    Only you know for sure. Good luck with your dancing career.


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    I was a virgin for the first 2.5 years I stripped. Then I started fucking and realized I'm actually asexual.

    I have mixed feelings on this topic. I think it takes a strong, strong person to remain the same in this job over time. I've saved up my money, I never drink, and I've never done a drug in my life, but stripping crept up on me in other ways. I started to feel ambivalent about my education, for example. Thank goodness I didn't drop out. I now have an internship and am stripping much less. But stuff like that can pop out of nowhere.

    Nothing is inherently wrong with stripping or being a stripper. But many girls get into the job and fall into certain acts because they're flattered by the attention, just want to have fun, make more money than they know what to do with, or need to get through the night. Even if nothing overt happens, stripping will change you (just as any job does, but probably more intensely and more personally).

    If you do get into the job, remember that the recession is sucking the life out of the industry, so unless you hit a golden club, it'll be hard, hard work. I'd also highly recommend that you keep a family/friend base around you so that someone can honestly tell you if the job is changing you in a negative way.

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    Angel, if all of your posts have been true, please do not become a stripper. This industry will eat you alive.

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    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    You sound incredibly naive and sheltered. You just might get eaten alive, although the innocent christian girl might be an interesting angle to make some money. Work it, and you'll find customers who will pay good money to get a lapdance from the preachers daughter.

    Saving sex until marriage... tell me again why ? That is the recipe for real disaster, with the paper trail to prove it.

    Seriously, when it comes to being a stripper, if you define your boundaries before going in, you won't end up where you don't want to be (on drugs, hookin, etc). If a club allows or even encourages those things, don't work there.

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    So i think your thread has put us on the defensive because you implied that being a prostitute and on drugs is "stripper culture". That says more about how you perceive strippers.

    For the record, I spent 6 years in the business. Most of those years were really fun. Never did illegal drugs, never did extras.

    Now I'm settled in to my dream job.
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    It all depends on you. If you are a strong minded, focused person you will be fine. If you are easily influenced, you will not. It sounds like you are really young and naive. I've managed to maintain my goals and integrity stripping, but I was extremely mature and confident when I first danced when I was 23. I really can't fuck up my life because there are way too many people expecting so much from me. You seem much more impressionable from your posts, but we don't know you so can't really say how you will handle it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AngelCummings View Post
    Is it hard to not fall into doing extras, prostitution, and drugs once you become a stripper? I'm a virgin and I really want to save sex for marriage... Is that a realistic goal if I become a stripper? Ive just heard so many stories on here about whores and crackheads and they probably didnt start out like that... I just hope I will be able to be strong enough to stay above that stuff so I can graduate with my degree and go to medical school but I wonder how pragmatic my plans will stay the longer I am a stripper...
    Of course its a realistic goal. You have control over your body. I don't do extras, or drugs, regardless of the price. Money would never change who I am. Thats just gross to me and pushing my boundaries. Yeah there will be prostitutes and drugs but find the best and cleanest club in your area and stay true to yourself and who you are from day one. It is very possible to make a lot of money without doing that shit. I don't understand why girls do that when they can make money not doing it. Boggles my mind.

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    It depends on how strong you are and how you deal with the industry. If you are sexually naive, then it can destroy you. I personally know girls who got into hooking, drugs, etc due to being a stripper. They take things far more personally than they should.

    Having said that, it didn't do much damage on me except I wasn't as trusting of men for awhile. However I never did extras, do drugs (except try pot many times, but this happened before dancing and after) or drink heavily. At times I got more addicted to the money than I should have, especially when I had a bad night. I had a good family who installed high morals and values so I had that going, which is why I never was tempted.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mediocrity View Post
    Eight and a half years and I have never performed an extra, or become a drug addict. I did get a lot meaner, and drink more.
    substitute 3 yrs for the 8 and a half and this is me precisely.

    Do not look at this as a party. Don't go to work to make friends. Remember who you are when you walk through that door (even when you're pretending to be someone else) and keep your head on straight. Don't compromise your morals or standards EVER. If it makes you uncomfortable, stay away from it. This is a job. It can be a fun job, but it's a job just the same.

    It can be a dangerous place to be if you're easily influenced. You need to be a strong person to not fall into it. To be honest, and Im not trying to be a bitch here, you do not sound like the type of person that will be able to handle it.
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    It's not hard for me, but I've never been a partier and actually like quiet spaces / nature . I only like party type environments if I'm getting paid. I also don't get "sucked into " stuff. I've always kind of been a loner who works on my own projects so I just sort of "fit" for taking the good stuff of stripping and not the bad stuff.
    I was less thick skinned in my early 20's though and have said on here before that ( for me ) , stripping might not have been a good match then.

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