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    Default How to deal with girls you hate in the club?

    What's the most constructive ways to deal with girls you absolutely cannot, positively stand at the club? I hate one girl who is the most opinionated bitch out there and cannot keep her goddamned mouth shut. I made the mistake of talking to her about plans to get a breast augmentation and she has been staring very judgmental daggers at me, giving me the cold shoulder, etcetera ever since. What a bitch, right? Given that we ARE WORKING AT A GODDAMNED STRIP CLUB!

    What are your most effective ways in dealing with others you can't stand at work?

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    Default Re: How to deal with girls you hate in the club?

    I just ignore them and act like they aren't there. Besides, I'm in the VIP room/talking to customers too often to even notice they are around.

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    Default Re: How to deal with girls you hate in the club?

    Ignore people like that—it's all you can do. Whatever problems she has are hers alone, not yours, and there's nothing you can do to change that. It's not your responsibility to "deal" with it in any way. When someone behaves rudely or childishly toward me, I no longer acknowledge her existence. I simply do not have the time.

    The only way I've found to prevent this sort of thing from happening is to keep to myself in the dressing room. Other than smiling and kindly answering the occasional question, I haven't gotten buddy-buddy with any of the girls I've ever worked with. This is probably easier for me than it would be for most dancers because I don't really know how to interact with women very well. But basically what keeps me out of trouble is coming in, doing my job, and then leaving. After all, I'm there to work and not to hang out.

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    Default Re: How to deal with girls you hate in the club?

    I ignore people like that. If they are directly trying to fuck with my money I'll call them out. If that doesn't work I'll tell the manager the issue, that I spoke to her and maybe they should talk to them instead.

    The managers are on your side and if drama or other malicious tactics get in the way with money making for the girls or the club they will not tolerate it.




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    Default Re: How to deal with girls you hate in the club?

    I ignore them until they give me a reason not to, then I call them out.

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    Default Re: How to deal with girls you hate in the club?

    With so many women in a small place it's only natural there are going to be girls you don't like or get along with. The main focus is money! Focus your attention on your customers and your money.
    I am guilty as well though, I spend too much energy on stupid girls, or time measuring myself up to other girls, both a complete waste of time.. Some people just get under your skin!
    But I always focus on my money. They don't pay my bills, the men do!

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    I agree with the other ladies, ignore it. I made the mistake of being too friendly with a few of the girls at the club. if they don't bitch about you behind your back they are asking for a loan or a place to stay (not all girls..just the cuckoos) learn to say no. i asked my manager for a locker outside the dressing room lol

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    I have to agree with the other gals. It is so much easier to just tune them out and think about other more positive things.
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    Default Re: How to deal with girls you hate in the club?

    Ignore. If I'm drunk and feeling bitchy they may get a nasty glare. LOL But I think there has only ever been one girl I really disliked.

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    Ditto what the other gals said ... IGNORE her. Addressing any negative dancer, or any negative person for that matter, will just fuel their ugly fire. Do NOT give anyone like this any power. Rise above this. Go and do your thing at work. Make your money. Go home and relax.

    One of my downfalls is that I'm super friendly. I've learned the hard way ... hell I'm still learning the hard way ... LOL ... I just can't be nice to everyone at work.

    If the situation ever got to be physical, where she lays a hand on you ... IMHO defend yourself (and beat the shit out of her). Unfortunately this ugly situation happened to me a very long time ago. Hopefully it will never happen to you.

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    Default Re: How to deal with girls you hate in the club?

    Best way to deal with them?? Are you there for work or to entertain your co workers? Stop wasting your time even THINKING about this chick, all that energy can be used to make your money. This is a business, not a sorority house. Besides, it's pretty damn obvious that she has low self esteem if she's critisizing you. Fck that!

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    Default Re: How to deal with girls you hate in the club?

    ok, i admit, the two girls i have ever hated that i worked with both did things to me first (as in physical assault. 100% undeserved. they were both trashed and one had a documented anger issue), and so yeah, i dealt with it. the amusing part was the one that tried to choke me was the one that i had previously been the only one to help/stand up for when she was drunk.

    I did not deal with it by getting physical though. I dealt with it by going to management. Management loved me, so all I had to do was go tell what had happened.

    If they are not doing anything you can report, then do everything in your power to ignore them

    Additionally, as my bitch side comes out...do whatever you can to fuck with them money wise without doing anything they can pin on you, get you fired for, etc.

    Normally I don't suggest that, but i'm in a mood...

    I should probably add that the screwing with them only works if you can pull of the innocent thing....I was/am able to do that amazingly well

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    Default Re: How to deal with girls you hate in the club?

    At my club, the girls who stand around and bitch all night are also the ones who make ZERO money. They'll sit at the bar all night and bitch about their lives, or the club, or the other dancers, or the new rules, or whatever. Literally, they'll make no money at all, they never leave the bar unless it's to go onstage. Then it's right back to the bar and their misery. So they can stand around and bitch all they want, cause I'm the one leaving with the $$$. And it's not hard to make money in a club where you're the only remotely positive, upbeat girl with social skills.

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    Default Re: How to deal with girls you hate in the club?

    If you're working hard enough, you won't notice them.
    You just gotta go in there and do your own thing, not worry about the people you like or don't like.
    There's a few girls that I don't like at my club (actually...only two, and they're like BFFs or something) and the way I deal with it is by making sure I get a hell of a lot more dances than them.
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    Default Re: How to deal with girls you hate in the club?

    Ignoring them is the only way to go.

    I get along with EVERY body! Like there is seriously not a single person I meet who
    I can't find something good about- but for some reason at my club- the very first day
    I set foot inside- one of the dancers decided to make me her enemy lol.

    She's done this before and from what other girls have told me, she's run plenty of
    dancers out. She's tried to start fights with me and even almost got me to bite the
    bait and join her drama- luckily we both calmed ourselves down.
    (Or I guess the bouncers did...? haha).

    Anyway, I just totally don't pay her any attention. I've even held the door open for her
    when she was exiting the dressing room behind me. (Not to be smart- just doing what
    anyone would do to be polite).

    Haven't had any problems from her since that first go lol. Now she ignores me too.
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    Default Re: How to deal with girls you hate in the club?

    Bumping this older thread, it has some great advice!

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    Pretend she is a potted plant and ignore her stupid ass lol

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    I don't nessicarily do anything but girls I absolutely don't get along with bring out my competitive side of hustle so I actually enjoy it. ( but I'm just about the easiest person to get along with so it doesn't happen often)

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    Default Re: How to deal with girls you hate in the club?

    I hate to ask a stupid question but after reading this thread I really felt compelled to since I have been rolling around the idea to try stripping in my head.

    Is physical assault from other strippers a common place thing that you need to look out for or is it a rare risk?

    I hate to sound so naive but I had never really thought that I would not only have to worry about physical assult from customers at the bar but also the other strippers that were working with me in the club too.

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    Quote Originally Posted by justanothercamgirl View Post
    I hate to ask a stupid question but after reading this thread I really felt compelled to since I have been rolling around the idea to try stripping in my head.

    Is physical assault from other strippers a common place thing that you need to look out for or is it a rare risk?

    I hate to sound so naive but I had never really thought that I would not only have to worry about physical assult from customers at the bar but also the other strippers that were working with me in the club too.
    i have never experienced it, because i keep on good terms with the girls, i don't ever gossip about any girl to another girl or customer, i don't steal, im respectful, and most importantly i seperate work and personal life and don't become besties with any of them..and i've made that mistake before. as long as you keep your head down and your mouth shut and you are polite and nice you shouldn't have to worry in MOST cases. now there may be a girl who is jealous of you who gets drunk and goes after you, but that happens in real life just as much

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    Quote Originally Posted by justanothercamgirl View Post
    I hate to ask a stupid question but after reading this thread I really felt compelled to since I have been rolling around the idea to try stripping in my head.

    Is physical assault from other strippers a common place thing that you need to look out for or is it a rare risk?

    NO!


    It's not common.

    It's illegal. And even though some ladies on this site may have waxed poetic about strip club justice and violent ramifications for ladies that step out of bounds, the truth of the matter remains... no one has the right to assault you. It's not standard practice. It's not acceptable. It's not something you should worry about.


    Stripping is absolutely legal, it is like any other job. The rules and laws apply to strippers just like they apply to folks working other professions.

    If the worst case scenario were to happen, I would be on my phone dialing the authorities and having the offending party arrested... I wouldn't even blink. After I filled out the police report, received medical treatment (god forbid), and filed charges... I would be on the phone with an attorney filing a civil suit for punitive damages. I would make sure that any bitch that laid a filthy finger on me would be paying my bills for the next several months.

    You can run and tell that!
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    ^ Good luck with that! I hate to say but I was traveling with a girl who broke my nose! I paid 5500 13 years ago to have a perfect nose and I called about 5 attorneys and no one would take on the case! Un fucken believable!

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    Default Re: How to deal with girls you hate in the club?

    Oooh, that's Brutal, Michelle! Someone struck me (in an office job) I sued, but didn't get much. The attorney advised me not to sue the girl who did it, said it'd be a waste of time.

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    Default Re: How to deal with girls you hate in the club?

    Quote Originally Posted by NikkaR View Post
    The only way I've found to prevent this sort of thing from happening is to keep to myself in the dressing room. Other than smiling and kindly answering the occasional question, I haven't gotten buddy-buddy with any of the girls I've ever worked with.
    Yep. Especially in the critical first three weeks. I have a theory that it takes an average of three weeks in a new club for the dancers to stop hating/distrusting you by default. Keep your head down, smile when you enter the dressing room, but don't initiate conversation. Don't give any potential drama queens fuel. Even be careful with compliments. I once complimented a girl's figure in the dressing room, and she instantly assumed I was being sarcastic. For the next six months that we danced together, she'd start petty fights with me in front of customers, physically drag customers away from me while they were settling in, and call me a bitch under her breath when I ignored her.

    After about three weeks, they'll gradually start being nice to you if they're chatty types, or just act indifferent to you if they're the more aloof or businesslike dancers.

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    I've seen girls fighting before, but not often. I've never seen anything really intense, like where a girl got seriously injured, and I've never seen weapons. Usually it's just a catfight with hair pulling that ends with at least one of them getting fired.

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