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    I unintentionally did something rude the other night and had a girl pissed at me because of it. So here is a thread for all the things you should NOT do if you are a newbie:

    -Do not talk to a customer who is sitting at the stage. You will distract him from tipping the girl on stage and she will be pissed at you.

    I felt really bad and apologized, I really didn't realize I was commiting a stripper faux-pas!

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    Do not sit down with a customer that another dancer is sitting with, unless you are friends with her and will help keep the customer on track to buy dances from her.*

    * I can't even count the number of types I've had that happen in the last year by new dancers. Besides approaching the customers at the stage, this has got to be my biggest pet peeve!
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    ^^^agreed.

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    Do not sit down with a customer that another dancer is sitting with, unless you are friends with her and will help keep the customer on track to buy dances from her.*

    * I can't even count the number of types I've had that happen in the last year by new dancers. Besides approaching the customers at the stage, this has got to be my biggest pet peeve!
    I had a girl do it to me recently! I was like, WTF? She was like, "Ummm, I was sitting here before I had to go on stage, soooo....." with this bitchy look on her face. I just...

    The same girl asked me the next day to borrow my little scissors so she could cut her stitches on her lower abdomen, they were sticking out and looked kind of obvious. She had just had an ectopic pregnancy.
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    ^^^ Yes, she was being rude! Ewww, to the scissor thing.

    I'll linger near-by if a dancer sits with a customer I was talking to, but I won't just go over and sit back down. If the customer calls the dancer over it's one thing, but to just invite yourself is rude. If another girl is with him and he wants you he will signal to you, or he can get up and leave her. I've even had guys signal me over and responded back with the "come here" hand signal because I didn't want to go over and just sit down and leave her in an awkward place. At least if he walks away from her she'll get the point immediately.
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    Don't say the word "oil" in the dressing room, ever. No matter what. Not even "Gee, I really need to get the Oil in my car checked" - No. Don't do it. Because if one of the hardened vets even so much as HEARS the word 'Oil' she'll be all up in your face for the rest of the night, telling you if she slips off the stage, she'll be breaking YOUR neck.

    Being seen with Oil (Baby, Coconut, Tea Leaf, etc) will result in a significantly harsher sentence.

    Leave anything and EVERYTHING greasy at home.



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    The one about talking to customers at the stage, and a dancer sitting down with me and a customer are my two things I hated. A few I abided by:

    Watch your back and who you talk to. You don't want to be dragged into a dancer fight. Keep conversations light. In most cases I would be friendly to other dancers but not friends. Trust me on this one. There are exceptions of course (I had several dancer friends but not that many and they were ones I knew I could trust). This pertains to customers too and don't bad mouth another dancer. You just don't know who they know and could backfire.

    Don't brag about money with other dancers. Don't even tell them how much you made.

    Do not borrow something without permission. Common sense but saw this all the time.

    Personally, if I knew a customer was someones regular, I stayed away. If a customer is interested, let him come to you. I once made the mistake of talking to this one dancer's best regular and she made my life hell until she quit.

    Don't get too comfortable with a customer. By this I mean don't tell him much about your private life. Eventually you might become comfortable and share more, but at first watch everything. Even something as simple as telling him what you drive is a bad idea because he might be waiting at your car.

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    I agree about getting into deep convo with guys at the stage- but if they tipped me while I was on stage then of course im gonna pass out hugs and 'thanks you's' when I get down. I just make sure not to linger for too long unless they insist I sit with them.

    This doesn't seem to be a problem at my club. If its super crowded at the stage though, then I guess it would be uneccessary and a bit difficult to push thrugh everyone if they're just tipping every girl and weren't paying me special attention.

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    * Never tell others how much you are or are not making. Sharing financial information is taboo, even if others are doing it.
    * Never share any information about other dancers with your customers. Limit comments about other dancers to subjects like "She's Hot! I'd do her." If a customer offers personal info on another dancer, assume he was lied to by that girl.
    * Don't complain. This just makes the customers mad and annoys the other dancers.
    * Ask before using someone else's things. Even if she said it was ok before, don't assume it is ok now.
    * Don't get sloppy drunk.
    * Don't give other dancers advice. They either already know and don't care or disagree with you. Either way, unsolicited advice is unwanted.
    * Don't believe anything a customer tells you. If he says Club XYZ is so much better, what he really means is at that club he get's extras for free.
    * Ask the manager or house mom who you need to tip and how much. The people who get tipped will likely lie to you to get more money out of you.
    * Lock up everything! Never leave anything out that you will miss, because stuff gets jacked even at the best clubs.


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    Don't automatically think another dancer is your new best friend. She may be a junkie/bitch theif and steal all of your money.

    Don't borrow ANYTHING from ANYONE. It is annoying and probably gross.

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    I'm glad dancers post this for us newbies it's very helpful..

    I've learned not to get too personal giving out info to other dancers, and not to reveal when you're having a good night. I don't like to wear my money on my garter.

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    Default Re: Things you should NOT DO as a newbie

    Another thing dancers get a bit irked about...

    TOTALLY stealing a dancers moves. Don't do that. Make them your own.

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    ^ I definitely pay attention to 'signature' moves so that I DON'T accidentally recreate them, I'd never wanna seem like I was copying someone D:

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    -Do not talk to a customer who is sitting at the stage. You will distract him from tipping the girl on stage and she will be pissed at you.
    You'll learn. It's called cock-blocking and all news girls do at some point. Until it happens to them they'll understand.

    - No under cutting.

    If the sign says $20 do not charge $15 because you need to make money.

    If a customer asks for a discount or says he'll pay you hundreds if you do $15 dances that is under cutting.

    Customers are not that special.

    I wouldn't consider a customer "good" if he needs you to give him a deep discount.

    Never go below the base price.




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    Cut your tampon strings
    I hate it when a new girl tries to suck up to me. Yes I've worked here awhile and make good $$ and NO I will not tell you my secrets so stop kissing my ass, in time I'll respect you more if you dance clean and are quiet.

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    The not sitting on the tip rail/ talking to a guy sitting there isn't taboo at my club. The guys sitting there sit there to tip, and aren't usually distracted just because another girl is there. In fact we usually encourage / force them to tip / pay attention to the dancer and talk business during filler songs. We wave and say hi to each other as we see each other during stages and slap each others' asses blah blah blah. Especially when it's fucking slow and there's a single guy at the tip rail, always a girl with him. But all the girls I work with are pretty cool, so, who knows.

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    PLEASE DON'T WEAR MY SAME OUTFITS!!!!!

    If you come into work one day, and you see I am already there wearing a dress in a certain color, but you were planning on wearing the same thing, DON'T!!!! Out of courtesy, please wear something different. I was there first wearing that dress, and it's not cute to have a twin running around the club. It's fucking irritating. And please don't then try to talk shit about me and say you look better in it anyways. In fact, new girls, please don't talk badly about any dancer there, you are new and we have worked there a while. Have some respect. I have worked there a long time, it will get back to me that you said this. The last time it happened to me, I bitched the other dancer and made her cry in front of everyone. Everybody laughed at her.
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    Wash your ass! I don't know what it is about new girls walking around all funky, but it happens a lot. Seems like that would just be common sense. I washed up when I first started dancing, but I once saw a new girl wear the same panties for a three staight days, and on the fourth day, didn't wash them, but picked the crust out of them, and wore them. We called her stinky Mandy. I've got other stories about stinky new girls, but I think you get my point.

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    Unless invited, don't follow another girl round to work in tandem,

    Me and my mate (in and out of the club friend) do it and we work well together and know when to push for a double and when not to, if we are tag teaming someone, we do it together because we're good at it. If my friend isn't in on a night that I am working Ill either work alone or chat with girls and then say ''do you want to try those two over there?'' to see what happens.

    ....Following me round is a tad annoying, especially if ur losing me custom because ur whinging about now having done any dances! As is, trying to get dances off the back of my hustle, standing there for twenty minutes silently and then saying ''do u want us both?'' when i ask if theyd like a dance isn't good, especially when the club has been DEAD all night. I get that she was new, i was not so long ago, but learn the tricks and then go try it on someone else.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rayna Skye View Post
    Wash your ass! I don't know what it is about new girls walking around all funky, but it happens a lot. Seems like that would just be common sense. I washed up when I first started dancing, but I once saw a new girl wear the same panties for a three staight days, and on the fourth day, didn't wash them, but picked the crust out of them, and wore them. We called her stinky Mandy. I've got other stories about stinky new girls, but I think you get my point.
    Do share! LOL NASTY...

    -Do NOT wear your old ass fucking underwear that obviously has lintballs stuck to it and try to pass it off as clubwear. It just looks BAD, and I dont enjoy answering questions about it all night.

    -Please dont get so piss drunk that you fall off the back of the barstool, and take the barstool with you. and make the Navy guys look sober.(yes newbies first week she did both of these)

    -Dont even think about putting on lotion or baby oil on your "ashy" legs. Guys can't even tell in the club light.

    -Stay away from the fucking stage and the men around the tip rail when your turn is OVER.

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    -Please don't talk so fucking loud in the dressing room like everyone is listening to your conversation. We don't all care to hear it (and please take note of the headphones on while you are talking...could tell you something)

    -Don't go through a girls trunk/locker with permission or her being there.

    -Don't talk about your personal life with anyone including dancers.

    -While housemom may be great just remember at the end of the night she deserves a tip but pay attention to what you say and do...she most likely will always remember any attitude. (had a horrible experiences with them before)

    -Trust no one but yourself, you are always your best bet.

    -Practice your dance moves in front of a mirror, if it looks strange to you...it'll look strange to others including customers.

    -Don't ever go into work looking like you don't care how you look that day. Everyone has off days.

    -I wouldn't suggest ever going after specific songs you have seen other girls repeatedly dance to often, it will piss them off royally. And trust me....it isn't let go easily. Sometimes music is all we have on off days, they could be the pick me ups.

    -Always wear a smile. It's the sexiest thing you will have with you at all times!





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    Quote Originally Posted by pixierocksonthepole View Post
    -Please don't talk so fucking loud in the dressing room like everyone is listening to your conversation. We don't all care to hear it (and please take note of the headphones on while you are talking...could tell you something)

    -Don't go through a girls trunk/locker with permission or her being there.

    -Don't talk about your personal life with anyone including dancers.

    -While housemom may be great just remember at the end of the night she deserves a tip but pay attention to what you say and do...she most likely will always remember any attitude. (had a horrible experiences with them before)

    -Trust no one but yourself, you are always your best bet.

    -Practice your dance moves in front of a mirror, if it looks strange to you...it'll look strange to others including customers.

    -Don't ever go into work looking like you don't care how you look that day. Everyone has off days.

    -I wouldn't suggest ever going after specific songs you have seen other girls repeatedly dance to often, it will piss them off royally. And trust me....it isn't let go easily. Sometimes music is all we have on off days, they could be the pick me ups.

    -Always wear a smile. It's the sexiest thing you will have with you at all times!
    Yes, yes, yes!!!!! Stop stealing my damn songs! If you see me dancing to it every night, it's not okay for you to dance to it!
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    ^^^That was one of the biggest problems I had with a girl that was new...she just wouldn't quit complaining that I danced to it first and I brought it in and crap like that. I purposely would pick more underground non-radio friendly music for that reason and she still tried to take it.


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    Quote Originally Posted by pixierocksonthepole View Post
    -Please don't talk so fucking loud in the dressing room like everyone is listening to your conversation. We don't all care to hear it (and please take note of the headphones on while you are talking...could tell you something)
    Isn't that the truth! Don't take sudden offense either when you start talking to me about bs that doesn't involve me (especially from outside the club), and I tell you I don't care to hear it.

    ^^^ x2 if I don't know who you are. I'm far more willing to listen to my friend's bs than someone I don't know.
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    -Don't just sit around talking to a customer for an hour, not getting paid and not working toward closing a sale. Close the sale, accept that he doesn't want a dance from you and try to get him to pay you for your time, or move on so another girl can take a crack at him and you can try another guy.

    -Don't hang around on the stage after your set is over, even if you're making good $$. Gather up your bills and get off, it's my turn.

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