Bustin' some stereotypes!! (or at least trying)...
Ok, so not that anyone cares- but I recently started an account over at
Open Diary. And I just posted this little rant/poem/not sure what it is lol
and it got elected for Reader's Choice. I want to know what ya'll think
about it.
I'll just post it here because you have to have an account there to view
it. If you do, then click .
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Okay, Let's get a few things out the way, shall we?
Yes, I'm a stripper; Exotic dancer. Whatever you want to call it.
No, that does not mean I'm a prostitute, a hooker, or a call girl!
Yes, I am a stripper and am comfortable with my body and take
my top off for a living.
No,I did not have a horrible childhood, nor was I ever sexually
promiscuous, raped, or molested. I didn't even lose my virginity
until I was twenty-one years old! lol.
Yes, I am a stripper and have been offered hundreds - thousands
of dollars for sex.
No, I have NEVER been tempted to accept an offer nor will I EVER.
I make plenty of money just dancing around naked and flirting
with you all night (Can you believe I get paid for it? lol).
Yes, I am a stripper and am in touch with my inner sensuality
and sexy, fantastic, feminine self.
No, I am not a slut, whore, or tramp by any definition of the word.
^(or skank <- recent addition,- Thank you, anonymous commenter).
I can count on one hand the number of men I've slept with. (I hold
very high standards for myself and can be quite picky).
Yes, I am a stripper and love to have fun, sleep in sometimes, and
only go to work when I feel like it.
No, I am not lazy, stupid, or addicted to drugs. I don't date criminals
and I've never committed tax evasion.
Yes, I am a stripper.
I am a woman.
I am a go-getter.
I am an entrepreneur (self-employed independent contractor- Thank you!)
I am a listener.
I am a friend.
I am a thinker.
I am a Goddess.
I am confident, open-minded, sexy, and smart.
I have a big heart and an open mind; And the most wonderful part?:
I'm Free! I'm Alive! I'm happy and thriving!
Any more questions?
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I've mostly been getting encouraging remarks from non-strippers-
except one anonymous poster who wrote a few nasty things:
to which I've responded:"I can count on one hand the number of men I've slept with."
You're only 22 years old....this isn't exactly some great accomplishment. And
didn't you just say you lost your virginity at 21? That means you've slept with 5
men in a YEAR...which is pretty skanky if you ask me.
And sorry, but way more strippers have been raped/abused than women in the
general population who aren't in that field. Just because you happen to be one
of the few who wasn't doesn't mean you make some kind of great point in your
entry. Whoever voted this reader's choice is an idiot.
"No, I am not slut, whore, or tramp by any definition of the word."
Wow, so if dancing around in front of strange men for money, NAKED, doesn't
make you a slut, I'd like to know what your definition of a "slut" actually is....I
have a feeling it's something pretty extreme, like someone who's slept with
100 men?
You act like you have no shame for being a stripper. If that's the case, would
you mind if your family came to watch you strip? Would you still be so proud of
yourself then?
-------------------------------------------------------------------------------Responses to your comments:
"I can count on one hand the number of men I've slept with."
That just means that I can count just using one hand. That doesn't mean I actually use
each finger lol.
I wasn't asking for a trophy nor did I state it's someamazing accomplishment. It's
obviously just a stereotype among strippers and I was just stating a fact about
MYSELF. Is this not "Open Diary?"Are these entries not about...moi?
And obviously I am aware that there are plenty of women in the industry who can't
say the same about their lives. And who hate what they do and are only here because
they have no choice.
I'm not speaking for ALL STRIPPERS. My entry is titled "Yes, I (as in myself) am a
Stripper lol.
And: since you are so curious about my definition of a "slut,": I think we can all agree
that an accurate description would be something along the lines of:
"a woman of a certain level of sexual promiscuity."(Not that I would judge her... because,
really, who the hell cares)?
Anyway- not sure how that equates to dancing naked lol.
Regarding my family: (who are quite aware of my line of work):
Um... Why would I dance for them?? That's just aridiculous question and totally
irrelevant to the fact that I'm a stripper lol.
No, I am NOT ashamed of being a stripper. I am not ashamed of my body.
I carry myself with respect both inside and outside of the club.
Maybe I just don't understand your question: I'm confused as to how mylack of
embarrassment of my beautiful, natural nude body would have anything to do with
anyone's natural embarrassment and obvious avoidance of being naked in front of a
family member.
Can you say awkward...? Ew. (Please feel free to clarify)
**Note: I didn't mean anything at all by stating the age that I lost my virginity.
I would never judge any other woman for her sexual history or outlook. -And to
further my point- the main reason I waited so long was because I hadn't always
been so in touch with my sensuality. I was raised, as most of us are, to
believe that anything bordering sensual is dirty and unpure.
All the Theology aside, I just believe in being "Human." And I celebrate it by
loving myself and embracing the way I was created to be.**
Moving on: Why the negativity? It's such a waste of energy. Smile, people!
As for everyone else- Thanks so much for the kind words and encouragement!
I'll never understand why sensuality and nude bodies offend so many people! Haha.
Not sure what they're so afraid of... Guess we'll never know, will we?
And for those of you who for some reason are taking personal insult from this:
I am sorry that my confidence and lack of shame offends you...
Oh, wait. Actually I'm not.
Ciao.
So) I really just had the urge to try and clear the air at least a tiny bit among
people outside of the industry. I don't understand why there is such a stigma
and negativity attached to what we do! I know there are bad apples
and sleezy clubs and the "stereotype."
I just don't understand how it BECAME a stereotype.
It just makes me sad because I think strippers are awesome...
Just sayin'
Anyway- I wanted to get some feedback from my "pole-sisters!" lol



- Thank you, anonymous commenter).
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