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    I have a college-age friend who is desperate for $$; she suffers from serious depression & needs $ to pay for her antidepressants and therapy. Her family can't afford to help her.

    She told a mutual friend of ours that she was considering stripping, but he (thankfully!) convinced her what a terrible idea that was (for someone in her mental state).

    She's still considering webcamming or phone sex to make some desperately-needed cash though.

    Right now the unemployment rate nationwide is about 11%, and about 25-30% for people her age. So I understand that she's having a hell of a time finding a job.

    I think the webcamming is a terrible idea for her but I'm not sure about phone sex. I've only done the former, and I currently strip, so I don't know a ton about phone sex besides Niteflirt.

    My question is, would phone sex definitely be a bad call for a broke depressed girl like her, or could it possibly work out in making her some $ and allowing her to keep her sanity, and maybe even be a positive thing?

    Since no one would see or touch her I think she wouldn't really have to worry about being insulted, violated or having her confidence destroyed. Of all the forms of sex work I think this is the least "risky" for her.

    What say you?

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    Default Re: Phone sex out of desperation??

    My question is, would phone sex definitely be a bad call for a broke depressed girl like her, or could it possibly work out in making her some $ and allowing her to keep her sanity, and maybe even be a positive thing?
    Most definetely NO! Not a good idea. I worked with boulevard entertainment for 6 months a while back before I started camming and it was the most grueling experience for me and I'm not suffering from anything. The thing about phone sex is some of those topics are brutal. I had guys calling wanting to talk about all kinds of shit (subs, adult infants, rape calls) Yeah It's pretty intense! I honestly don't think it's a good idea for her. She needs to find something else. This could make her depression worse.

    It also depends on what company she's going with. Boulevard was just hell for me. If she could create a no taboo listing on NF that might work. That way she can talk about what SHE wants to talk about and be indy.

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    if you have any contact with people whatsoever you can be insulted, violated or humiliated in someway

    IMHO definitely a bad idea however it is ultimately her choice

    it is fortunate your mutual friend talked her out of dancing, although having a bouncer toss out some jerk belittling her on stage could help her (then again it depends on the club if that would happen or not) also if shes really desperate for money its not a good idea for her to be in temptations way

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    I suffer from depression I still escort and do webcam shows, what will help her out of the depression or be able to manage it is a good support system.

    She should try them all she what works for her , see if she can get samples from her doctor of her SSRIs so she does not have to worry abotu the cost of it. that is what my doctor gave me for mine samples cause my pills are 70$

    You really can't judge her mental state of what she can or can not do that is up to her to decide. if you push in a state of o you can't because your depressed she won't do anything.
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    I think she should try camming or phone sex. I think it hurts more to have the extra stress of not having money for bills. That is very difficult. Plus who's to say she would not have a good time camming or being a pso? Yes there are some very taboo phone sex companies out there with horrible fetishes that are allowed to be discussed. Before I did phone sex I researched it for many months before starting, and decided to go with a very recommended uk company called universal talk. They do not allow taboos such as beastiality, incest, pedo, pee/poo etc. Most of the clients are europe based, and much more polite than the american clients calling the american based companies. UT is a great company for newbies, there are no hold times to worry about, and no set schedule which is one reason alot of girls love working for them. There is a minimum 15 hours per week that you need to log on in order to keep your account, and they always pay on time. I worked there for 4 months and It was way better than the other company I worked for. They also offer cam. To be honest, it was fun working for them. Uk/european guys are really nice to chat with!

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    I don't think that phone sex is any worse than working customer service. I've had some assholes but I've had to put up with them at every single job I ever had where answering a phone was one of my duties.

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    Thank you to everyone for your responses.

    Quote Originally Posted by malayataylor View Post
    Most definetely NO! Not a good idea. I worked with boulevard entertainment for 6 months a while back before I started camming and it was the most grueling experience for me and I'm not suffering from anything. The thing about phone sex is some of those topics are brutal. I had guys calling wanting to talk about all kinds of shit (subs, adult infants, rape calls) Yeah It's pretty intense! I honestly don't think it's a good idea for her. She needs to find something else. This could make her depression worse.

    It also depends on what company she's going with. Boulevard was just hell for me. If she could create a no taboo listing on NF that might work. That way she can talk about what SHE wants to talk about and be indy.
    Yeh I was thinking NiteFlirt would be good, most girls seem to have positive experiences with it.
    Plus I was remembering when I was in college, suffering from terrible depression myself, and weirdly the thing that helped me out a lot was learning HTML and building a website. I guess it allowed me to take my mind off of things, focus on learning something new and interesting (as opposed to school, where you have to learn what people tell you to learn), and feel accomplished. Niteflirt lets you use web design skills to design your ads, right? Maybe she'll have some fun learning to self-photograph, photoshop, and do HTML and be able to present herself in a new way, in addition to making $. I could be wrong though...


    Quote Originally Posted by teleron View Post
    if you have any contact with people whatsoever you can be insulted, violated or humiliated in someway

    IMHO definitely a bad idea however it is ultimately her choice

    it is fortunate your mutual friend talked her out of dancing, although having a bouncer toss out some jerk belittling her on stage could help her (then again it depends on the club if that would happen or not) also if shes really desperate for money its not a good idea for her to be in temptations way
    I just think that a lot of girls have no idea what they're getting into as far as stripping goes. Like they think they'll just get up there and have men worship them and throw wads and wads of cash their way... "quick easy money". That's what I thought (before I started reading StripperWeb, of course ). There's not much $$ in our city right now, and she's bound to be disappointed w/ the zero-dollar days. Depression makes the small disappointments seem like the end of the world.


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    I suffer from depression I still escort and do webcam shows, what will help her out of the depression or be able to manage it is a good support system.

    She should try them all she what works for her , see if she can get samples from her doctor of her SSRIs so she does not have to worry abotu the cost of it. that is what my doctor gave me for mine samples cause my pills are 70$

    You really can't judge her mental state of what she can or can not do that is up to her to decide. if you push in a state of o you can't because your depressed she won't do anything.

    Good suggestion about the samples, thanks! Though I would disagree with you on a point- she's attempted suicide before and abuses alcohol to cope w/ her problems. Put this particular introverted girl in a revealing outfit in a room full of catty judgemental hot girls, rude/cheap/drunk/perverted/sexist guys, add alcohol and desperation to the mix... believe me, I know this girl. I know she won't be happy and it will be a toxic environment for her, or at least I am very convinced that this is so, and thus will not encourage her to dance. On a webcam or phone it is much easier to get away from someone bugging you or a situation that is harming you mentally. I just care about her and don't want her to cause irreversible damage to herself.

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    Default Re: Phone sex out of desperation??

    The way I see it, is if she's having anxiety issues causing her to not be able to get another job, a work-at-home job where she can set her own hours might be a good thing, depending on how disciplined she is and how often she can get herself to work.

    Not working is terrible for depression

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    wow sorry to her about that.. I have suffered from Mani depression for about three years now.. I live in Texas and there is a place called MHMR and they help me pay for my medicine and there are places to try to help her with therapy.. I would suggest that she contact her local welfare office and they maybe able to help her.. What state is she in? I would try to find someone that could help her..

    Also If malaya said that phone sex freaks arent good then It might not be good for her.. I would say camming is a better Idea, she wouldnt get paid right away..
    I would say if she could strip with OUT drinking for a short time that would be ok, maybe you could go with her or someone could to kinda help her.. hope everything works out..


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    I suffer from depression and borderline personality disorder and I do camming and have done phone sex. However, you know your friend and is you don't think she could handle it you can give her some website where she can find a non-adult job. wahm.com, workplacelikehome.com, ratracerebellion.com and the jobs section of craigslist search "telecommuting"






    Quote Originally Posted by minniesoporno View Post
    I suffer from depression I still escort and do webcam shows, what will help her out of the depression or be able to manage it is a good support system.

    She should try them all she what works for her , see if she can get samples from her doctor of her SSRIs so she does not have to worry abotu the cost of it. that is what my doctor gave me for mine samples cause my pills are 70$

    You really can't judge her mental state of what she can or can not do that is up to her to decide. if you push in a state of o you can't because your depressed she won't do anything.

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    Update- I spoke to her last night and she seemed very curious and excited about phone sex. She tried calling one of those 'party' chatlines the other night, (you know where people flirt w/ each other on the phone?) to test her talking-dirty ability and is pretty convinced that she can do it successfully. So told her about Niteflirt, she's checking out the site currently and I offered to give her any support or advice I can. She's going to hide her face in her pics.

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    It all depends on your friend really. I occasionally do phone sex, mostly cams and some of the things customers want to talk about can be pretty horrible, such as underage roleplays (involving young children), rape etc. I suffer from depression occasionally, but working from home has been a real blessing for me,. I really love it, but sometimes certain things can get you down. I certainly find camming a lot easier than the phones.

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    If she does do phone sex on Niteflirt, remind her that she can always hang up. My earlier post was concerning Niteflirt phone sex where you don't have to talk to anybody you don't want to. I've seen in their forums that sometimes new girls think they'll get in trouble for hanging up. You don't.

    Anytime someone crosses a line or starts making me feel bad (talking about kids or animals) I just hang up. She doesn't have to take anything that she doesn't want to on Niteflirt.

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    i'd be concerned about phone sex. with stripping, you can dress up. you can emphasize your good points while minimizing your bad points. with phone sex, all you've got is what you say and how you say it. depressed people sound depressed. which doesn't sound sexy. plus the money really isn't all that great.

    if she wants to do it, she should be sure to smile a lot while she's on the phone. dressing up, doing her hair, makeup, etc...whatever she's got to do to feel powerful and sexy.

    when i did phone sex, my pay was based on how long i could keep callers on the line. it was incredibly stressful trying to be sexy enough to keep them interested while also not giving too much too soon leading to them hanging up early in the call because they came.
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    I was surprised by how little most phone sex lines pay considering they charge so much.

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    Niteflirt would be horrible for her to start off as a newbie considering all of the changes they're going through and things aren't like what they used to be. Unless she has superior outside marketing techniques to bring in her own clientele she won't be getting any calls from there .. and even outside marketing takes awhile to convert. Traffic riding doesn't cut it anymore.

    Phone sex is a bad business to get into right now period because many of the girls who jumped ship from NF went to other companies which caused overstaffing and now most complain that it's slow even on dispatch. BUT if she's hellbent on trying it out advise her to look into Universal Talk. They don't allow taboo calls and will pretty much hire anybody. Beware the pay per minute sucks.

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    20 years ago (yikes, it's been that long) I started doing phone sex and it has advantages and disadvantages. The worst one was that some companies scammed me out of money. Another company actually charged me to make long distance calls. I'd be very careful on that. I've heard it's actually worse now.

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    Quote Originally Posted by josiecamgirl View Post
    UT is a great company for newbies, there are no hold times to worry about, and no set schedule which is one reason alot of girls love working for them. There is a minimum 15 hours per week that you need to log on in order to keep your account, and they always pay on time. I worked there for 4 months and It was way better than the other company I worked for. They also offer cam. To be honest, it was fun working for them. Uk/european guys are really nice to chat with!
    What company is that? Is it just called UT? I want to get started as a PSO since my day job cut back my hours.

    ETA: Ah, just saw Billabong's post.

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