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    Default Re: Zero "effect" from lap dance: What does this mean?

    I'm going to say three things in this thread:

    1. not all straight men are turned on by lap dances (as has been mentioned)

    2. men can most definitely be bisexual and have healthy long term relationships with women -or- men

    3. your family disowning you isnt all that bad a thing if they're so homophobic and judgmental that they'd give up their son over their beliefs.

    and the "joke" part of my response:

    try eating pussy.

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    Default Re: Zero "effect" from lap dance: What does this mean?

    I'm surprised your friends enjoyed having a strangers' uncovered genitals rubbed in their face. Male or female, I find that totally nasty, classless, and an incredible turn off. Not to mention unhygienic for all involved.

    I love rubbing my face into genitals I'm acquainted with, but a strange one shoved up in my grill sounds disgusting, and I would probably beat the hell out of anyone that did that to me. I am however looking forward to some face-on-genital action with the boyfriend tomorrow.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Young_Guy View Post
    To MarvelGirl, I was afraid that the guys in the club would notice that I didn't have an erection because I thought then they would instantly recognise that I was gay.
    Straight men don't scope out each other's dicks so stop worrying about that.

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    Default Re: Zero "effect" from lap dance: What does this mean?

    You are 19. GET THE FUCK OUT OF WHERE YOU ARE AND MOVE TO A MORE OPEN AND UNDERSTANDING CITY!!

    That's the best advice I can offer to you, but I am pretty sure I stole it from Dan Savage, when responding to a letter from someone in your similar situation.

    Why live your life in the closet? If you live in another city/state you can be yourself. If your parents ask about girls, just tell them you are dating a bunch and don't want to settle down.

    What's going to end up happening is you will marry some poor fool of a woman and end up cheating on her with men when you can no longer resist your urges.

    Make this easy on yourself, if you're in school, transfer somewhere else, whatever city you like with a thriving gay community.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jack0177057 View Post

    If you're not ready to "come out" (that's your decision)... maybe you should date/get dances from girls with short hair and no breasts - that look like little boys (no offense to little-breasted short-haired girls). You can fantasize the rest... Also, there are some threads here discussing strap-on sex (i.e., the girl wears a fake dick and fucks the guy like a girl) -- It seems like some girls are into this gender reversal. (Some don't even consider it gay!) If you find one of them, you might be happy for a while, until you're ready to "come out".
    Points for creativity, but NO!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Young_Guy View Post
    To JayATee, how was coming out? How do you feel now and how is your relationship with your family now compared to what you thought it would be like before you came out?
    With my sis it's a big relief. I felt like I was hiding so much of my personality from her and she and I are so close it just felt wrong. Still throws her for a loop at first when I talk about other women, but she's cool with it. (She already knew I was a dancer).

    My dad? Not so much. He's not happy about the stripper thing (what father would be?) but he accepts it. We don't really talk about it, and it's something he knows Im getting out of anyway.

    If I had told my mother however, it would have been an entirely different story.
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    Quote Originally Posted by JayATee View Post
    With my sis it's a big relief. I felt like I was hiding so much of my personality from her and she and I are so close it just felt wrong. Still throws her for a loop at first when I talk about other women, but she's cool with it. (She already knew I was a dancer).

    My dad? Not so much. He's not happy about the stripper thing (what father would be?) but he accepts it. We don't really talk about it, and it's something he knows Im getting out of anyway.

    If I had told my mother however, it would have been an entirely different story.
    I'm so glad you and your sister are that close, you must provide a lot of support for each other! </threadjack>, I just like sisterly bonds, they make me warm and fuzzy.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Young_Guy View Post
    Maybe it's something that appeals to straight guys but not to lesbians.

    Oh heavens no.
    I certainly can't speak for all lesbians, but I certainly do enjoy some cookie in the snout on occasion .

    LOTS of occasions .

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    Sometimes I forget the entertainment factor. That said, if I did not have to answer to my co-mod and the admins I would nuke this goofball into next week.

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    Default Re: Zero "effect" from lap dance: What does this mean?

    you know yourself that you are gay so who are you trying to fool? yourself? you are gay!

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    Quote Originally Posted by FBR View Post
    Sometimes I forget the entertainment factor. That said, if I did not have to answer to my co-mod and the admins I would nuke this goofball into next week.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MarvelGirl View Post
    Straight men don't scope out each other's dicks so stop worrying about that.
    Well, grown men don't but this guy is 19 years old. High school kids in the boys locker room can be pretty cruel especially to someone who doesn't fit in. I'm guessing that his adolescence was not easy and, at 19, it's not exactly a distant memory for him.
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    Default Re: Zero "effect" from lap dance: What does this mean?

    It's not zero effect from a lapdance that makes a guy gay--but when a guy has 19yrs of zero effect from everyone female and knows he likes guys well what is bi about that?

    Really I want to know why not just accept you are gay at least to yourself instead of asking strippers what your sexuality is.

    Gay guys are those guys who are attracted to males and males only. It doesn't matter if they want to be str8 or claim to be exgays or if they are married with ten children or like to pretend a really butch girl is their boyfriend that they are not gay. If the dick goes up only when thinking about men that is proof enough.

    Now as for the whole gay guy who pretends a butch is his boyfriend thing I either consider the guy gay with a ftm attraction, or a bi guy attracted to masculinity opposed to being strictly into men, or that really really repressed gay guy that wants some1 female so they can front str8 while pretend and roleplay his gay male attraction without allowing himself to do so with a man so settles for what seems closest too. Anyhow it happens as I definitely get hit on by men wayy more in gayclubs then anywhere else, but the lines I get focus completely along the male replacement type of mentality which before I came out was really what I did when I dated the really pretty feminine type of guys I went for before going for girls.

    Anyhow I tend to think once you experience what you know you want and really accept it most tend to stop settling for that mr mrs right that makes you not gay obsession with hopes for bisexuality or the desire to fake str8.

    While others know they are gay at heart and decide to fake and repress there whole lives. I had an 65yr old ex military custie who used to pay me to pretend to be his husband (no sex) just so he had some1 to talk to about it and get to go to the sc pretending to be str8 to play gay with a dancer like me he knew could accept it. Trust me it's sad to see and back in his time things were a lot worst to come out then nowadays.
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    Quote Originally Posted by FBR View Post
    Sometimes I forget the entertainment factor. That said, if I did not have to answer to my co-mod and the admins I would nuke this goofball into next week.

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    LOL, FBR, where else can you have this much fun for the mere price of monthly internet access?!
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    Quote Originally Posted by charlie61 View Post
    You're so good to humor us.
    Ha. That was an air kiss but I will take it LOL

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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us View Post
    LOL, FBR, where else can you have this much fun for the mere price of monthly internet access?!
    LOL Agreed. But sometimes I feel the need to bitch slap. Thank goodness I am restrained by higher powers

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    Default Re: Zero "effect" from lap dance: What does this mean?

    I worked with a kid at my previous job – maybe 22 or 23 years old – with the same sexuality ambiguity. We thought he was gay, Bi at the least, but he said no because of religious beliefs.

    So we took him to Little Darling’s. He spent the whole night chatting it up with a dancer about, well, dancing and costumes. He had a good time but it was non-sexual for him. So OP, your’s is not a unique situation.

    I’m at the age – and have a job (I live in Vegas) where I’m surrounded by beautiful semi-dressed, well dressed and sometimes not dressed at all (never a good situation) women of all ages, sizes and nationalities (I work Broadway shows, and on the floor of a well known ‘party’ casino on the Strip). Thus, lap dances just don’t do it for me anymore either.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sxcbbw View Post
    I'm so glad you and your sister are that close, you must provide a lot of support for each other! </threadjack>, I just like sisterly bonds, they make me warm and fuzzy.
    We are always there for eachother no matter what is going on. It's so awesome. We're 4 yrs apart but we may as well be twins bc we really are that close. I don't know what I'd do without her!

    /end threadjack
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