I spent a good deal of time with my ATF on the day shift. I'd usually stop in at least once a week on my way home and generally spend $100 plus ($20/per lap dance). Sometimes I'd tip her $50 for her table time and stage dancing, no lap dancing at all. Not huge bucks, but consistent and the conversation flowed (I get it her livelihood depends on the conversation flowing). From so much face time I got to know her better than any stripper heretofore. She told me her first name etc.
Well she told me the other day she was likely getting out of the business, income was just too inconsistent. She's quit and come back before. She's 23 YO and in school. I provided her with a list of contacts to call in her job search. I spoke to these people and asked if they would meet with a young woman I'd gotten to know. I showed her the emails and/or played the voice mails of these people agreeing to meet with her. Point was I wanted her to be comfortable contacting these people.
I began to see her as woman friend, not so much a T&A distraction for my amusement. The reality is I was friendly with a stripper, not that I had a woman friend who happened to strip for a living. I wanted more of the latter than the former, but that's not what they're selling in SC. I stopped frequenting the club as much and haven't bought any dances from her in a couple of weeks. When I was last in the club, she pretty well shunned me.
She once confided in me that there were me in the club she knew she could sell dances to, but chose not to as they were too much hassle. Seems I may have found myself on that list. Which is okay, but the part about being ignored really smarts of disrespect.
Like I said, the energy shifted, probably more so on my end. I'm not about getting mad and getting even, but I am looking for some type of foil, some kind transition where I can reciprocate the disrespect proportionately without being an asshole. I get it, I made my bed and now I get to lie in it.
Any suggestions?



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