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  • right away-- i dont worry about waiting. if im feeling it, then im doing it!

    34 35.79%
  • 2 dates-- i dont want to fuck on the first date, but i dont want to wait.

    11 11.58%
  • a few dates-- want to wait a little bit, but not too long

    16 16.84%
  • several dates- maybe a month or so. want to get to know them well first.

    15 15.79%
  • more than a month-- i hold out for a while.

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    Question how long till you fuck a guy you like?

    Wow i cant believe i am asking this, i feel like i should be renting a DVD of sex in the city or some shit. but ladies, if there is a guy that you actually like as more than just casual sex man-meat, how many 'dates' do you wait until you actually fuck him?

    i dont usually actually 'like' people. so usually if im horny i hop into bed with them without thinking about it. but yea, i found someone who i actually like past just wanting casual sex . Last night i spent the night at his house, but i didnt sleep with him. nor did he pressure me to at all, which was nice. im not used to thinking about any of this stuff... like i said, im usually completely carefree (beyond taking protection measures of course).

    also, guys-- would like your input, but please dont vote! Does it make a difference if they put out too soon?
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    Default Re: how long till you fuck a guy you like?

    A girl sleeping with me has never caused me to have any negative feelings about her no matter how soon it happened or how i felt about her previously. Seriously, we like it when girls sleep with us, specially when girls we like sleep with us. If a guy is only after sex then the sooner you find out the better right?

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    I put several dates, but in reality it's a case by case decision. I have to be comfortable with them and know them pretty well or it's just not happening. I can't enjoy it with a stranger and would be leery, worrying if they were going to hurt me or whatnot and I don't see the point if I'm not having fun.

    I'm kinda hard to get I guess. lol
    "I hear you calling and it's needles and pins. I wanna hurt you just to hear you screaming my name...You're poision. but I don't wanna break these chains.... I wanna love you but I'd better not touch."

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    I disagree, give it a date or two...90% of the fun I have with a girl is the pursuit. I don't look at them negatively just because they move more quickly, and I like to move fast, but I LOVE a challenge. Just don't overdo it, more than a few dates and I personally will get bored and push them into the friend status....

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    Right away. When my husband and I first met we were in bed within hours.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Victoria669Jones View Post
    Right away. When my husband and I first met we were in bed within hours.
    Same. My husband and I definitely didn't wait when we met.



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    Quote Originally Posted by xsomnambulist View Post
    Same. My husband and I definitely didn't wait when we met.

    I think it's best just to do what feels right rather than worrying about what other people think. Some girls worry that guys won't respect them if they have sex on the first date, but I can't imagine anything worse than being with one of those men anyway.

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    Default Re: how long till you fuck a guy you like?

    If I really like him, I make him wait; a month is usually sufficient for me to find out if he's worth investing my time and feelings in.

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    Default Re: how long till you fuck a guy you like?

    If I likea girl, I want to go to bed with her, like, right now. If she's into it too, all the better. I wouldn't hold it against her.

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    Default Re: how long till you fuck a guy you like?

    i hate all this cultural constraints. Its ridiculous that i dont think twice about hopping into bed with a hot stranger who i dont ever want to call the next day. but then i like a guy and im like "no you cant have it, you have to wait for it."

    I could talk to him but ill be honest... i am not someone who does the whole communication thing. I kind of fail at it. He is slightly more conservative than me which is why i think maybe it will matter? But then again, being more conservative than me really doesnt say much.

    I guess another factor is i dont think he has ever (knowingly) talked to a dancer. i dont want him assuming if i fuck him right away that i am just the slutty stripper stereotype. i feel like i have this working against me...
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    Just be yourself Athena. If he thinks you're a "slutty stripper" then he isn't worth it. And there are a lot of good guys that don't think like that.

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    Default Re: how long till you fuck a guy you like?

    When I dont see any future with a guy but he makes me hot, I'll go ahead and sleep with him and make it clear that anything else isnt going to develop. If I actually see a future with him and I want to "date" him, I wait about a month or so and also wait till we have the "exclusivity" conversation. I'll wait till he is my boyfriend. But with my luck, all the guys that I just saw as friends have all wanted to be more than friends even though I told them how it was before anything happened.
    BUT I think you should go with what you feel is right. If you think you have a very strong connection beyond sex right now, like you can talk with him, you have fun together...just go for it. Just make sure you blow his mind the first time

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    Default Re: how long till you fuck a guy you like?

    If it's just a fling, then I'll sleep with him right away sometimes. If it's a boyfriend, I wait at least a month. However, I've become very different when it comes to partners. I am 39 and am looking for an actual partner in my life not a boyfriend, so I've decided I will wait until I either move in with someone or become engaged. Sounds extreme, but I blame the early sex for the demise of several relationships. Nothing hurts more than to realize the relationship was just fwb's, which I didn't know. Sure, this will scare off many guys, but the ones also looking for a life partner will be willing to wait. The guy that I like feels the same way, which is why I hope he's the one.

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    Default Re: how long till you fuck a guy you like?

    I've only had 2 serious boyfriends, but with them it was right away. I had each in bed before the first date!

    When I was dating other guys, though, it was different. I would wait until I felt comfortable and trusted them. Sometimes even after a month or more of dating I still didn't feel like fucking them... so I didn't. A couple of these boys CLEARLY didn't like it, but that made me all the more confident in my decision.

    It comes down to your comfort, and whether you can trust him. There's no need to hold out for the sake of holding out. As Victoria said, be yourself. If he likes that, then he's right for you.

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    I waited about one month with every guy who ever became my boyfriend.
    The ones I had sex with sooner than a month - never became my boyfriend.
    Coincedence? Maybe. Maybe not.

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    Default Re: how long till you fuck a guy you like?

    In the last 10 years I think the longest I've waited with any guy I've dated is a week. Oops. Except for one guy, I knew him for 2 months. But we hopped into bed as a drunken friendly thing, so it was still before the first date, lol.

    Last 3 real serious long-term boyfriends....2 on the first night, 3rd one after our third date, but I made out with him on the first date and gave him a hand job on the second, lol.


    Then again, I've gone on dates with guys where we had great chemistry, I played it cool, nothing happened...and they STILL dissapeared after a few dates. WTF? I must suck.

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    i wasn't sure what to put but if i reaaaaaally think i'm into a guy that's boyfriend material i wait a few dates...although i'm usually too horny and give in. the most recent guy i was most serious with i waited a couple 'dates'. other guys, i don't wait at all...sometimes i just need instant gratification. and on the other hand i waited like a month with one guy to fuck and we ended up just be fwb, even though i wanted more. but i don't know how girls can wait a month, maybe i'm just a big ol horndog.

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    I'm weird...i'm a swinger and will fuck other swingers at parties and the like the same night I meet them. However, when dating, I'm pretty much a prude. I won't even kiss on the first date. I wait a long time before fucking someone I'm dating.

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    I always fucked guys I liked right away because I didn't want to date one of those douchebags who look down on sexually active women.

    I hate those guys and I've always thought they should just all move to an island together and fuck each other so they don't have to deal with us "dirty whores".

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    HAHA I'm exactly like a few of you. If I know the guy isn't boyfriend material, I do it right away and never call him again. But if I actually like someone, I let him wait a little to feel him out. Usually, when girls like guys and give it away too soon, the guys lose interest and mysteriously vanish after gettin it...

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    I've had sex on the first night (usually within a few hours) with every guy I've been in a long term relationship with. There's been four of those in the past lasting at least two years each, and now there's my husband too. I think it's more a case of being kindred spirits and that's probably where a lot of the initial attraction came from too.

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    it doesn't make a difference if they put out too soon to me. I either am in to a girl or I'm not. Her willingness to bang me immediately doesn't play in to how much I like/respect a girl or not.

    But I know some guys feel differently.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mr Hyde View Post
    it doesn't make a difference if they put out too soon to me. I either am in to a girl or I'm not. Her willingness to bang me immediately doesn't play in to how much I like/respect a girl or not.

    But I know some guys feel differently.
    I wish more guys had this mentality. However, speaking to guys many have told me that if they were just interested in sex they left right away if they didn't get it (or perhaps if they did).

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kellydancer View Post
    I wish more guys had this mentality. However, speaking to guys many have told me that if they were just interested in sex they left right away if they didn't get it (or perhaps if they did).
    If that happened, they'd have left anyway. If he REALLY is in to you, he'll hang around no matter what, unless he has something against sluttiness.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mr Hyde View Post
    If that happened, they'd have left anyway. If he REALLY is in to you, he'll hang around no matter what, unless he has something against sluttiness.
    True, but many times you can't tell right away. It stinks, but some guys are funny about this and judge. They shouldn't but they do.

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