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    my boyfriend is great, he helps me with the house and my kids really love him. <<< and thats a hard thing to find..

    He also baby sits for me...

    We have some problems, I started escorting and I didnt tell him, and he knew.. He kept hinting that he knew but I was to ashamed to admit it, after about 6 months I finally told him and Im not doing it anymore. And he said thats good..

    we live together, but I dont feel like he loves me or wants to be very serious. If we talk about long term things, I feel like he is talking from a friends point of view not a boyfriend talking about our future.

    sometimes I feel like just giving up but I need him to help me baby sit, not only the baby sitting, I really enjoy being with him and I could see myself with him for a long while, I just dont know what I should do..

    Im just feeling crappy, and maybe Im asking too much


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    Default Re: how long do you stay?

    It is not a good feeling to be co-dependant on anyone for anything. I can't stand it. Why did you quit escorting? I read on here all the time chicks bank and that is what you need, you need money. If you had money you wouldn't be in this situation at all and sometimes one gives up toxic relationships because it is their best interest. How long has it been since you could feel good about yourself and not worrying about a man?

    Quote Originally Posted by babybambi08 View Post
    my boyfriend is great, he helps me with the house and my kids really love him. <<< and thats a hard thing to find..

    He also baby sits for me...

    We have some problems, I started escorting and I didnt tell him, and he knew.. He kept hinting that he knew but I was to ashamed to admit it, after about 6 months I finally told him and Im not doing it anymore. And he said thats good..

    we live together, but I dont feel like he loves me or wants to be very serious. If we talk about long term things, I feel like he is talking from a friends point of view not a boyfriend talking about our future.

    sometimes I feel like just giving up but I need him to help me baby sit, not only the baby sitting, I really enjoy being with him and I could see myself with him for a long while, I just dont know what I should do..

    Im just feeling crappy, and maybe Im asking too much

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    I hate escorting.. plus I have kids, I want a family. and I know I couldnt ever marry anyone while there were escorting. I try not to depend on anyone.. but its hard when you have kids.. I am going to talk to him.. yesterday he was being all weird and thats why Ive been feeling weird.. but he has been sick for the past two days.. Im thinking Im just a worry wart.. he is feeling better today and he has been all lovey dovey again.. so things are ok.. Im going to talk to him about some stuff, because I really do want this to work out..


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    Default Re: how long do you stay?

    How are things money-wise right now? I'm assuming you didn't actually go out begging, right?

    Your financial situation will determine how I answer your questions.

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    no that was really a joke.. I am waitressing.. I mean I did have a little saved but It Im using it to pay the bills.. and now that I wont be working crazy hours, my bf is looking for a full time day job..


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    That is good, are you sure you don't want to start a topless car wash? I think guys would borrow their friends cars just to go through and have a girl all soapy wash their car

    Once your man gets a job and keeps it things should be way mellow. It's not an easy time for the USA.

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    no that was really a joke.. I am waitressing.. I mean I did have a little saved but It Im using it to pay the bills.. and now that I wont be working crazy hours, my bf is looking for a full time day job..

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    Quote Originally Posted by pinupgurl2k6 View Post
    That is good, are you sure you don't want to start a topless car wash? I think guys would borrow their friends cars just to go through and have a girl all soapy wash their car

    Once your man gets a job and keeps it things should be way mellow. It's not an easy time for the USA.
    Thanks.. I am about to try to organize a car wash soon.. probably during the summer but I got to find a place and some girls.. I am not going to advertise topless, just girls in bikinis..


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    Default Re: how long do you stay?

    Are you still escorting?

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    no.........


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    Default Re: how long do you stay?

    how much money do you think you need to save in order to move in to your own place? And how long would it take you to save that much?

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    Default Re: how long do you stay?

    You have kids, do you not get child support? I understand if it's a no.
    Have you tried getting section 8 housing assistance? Applied at the low income housing apartments, there is usually a waiting list. I worked as a leasing agent for a complex like that. Also, if you are not getting child support and you are living on waitresses wages you should go to the Social Service office and see what they can do to help with that, he will have to pay back whatever state assistance you get, so you can get on your feet. You don't seem like the type of person who would want to be on assistance but it also sounds as if you are stuck between a rock and a hard place. I have read in other posts you are bi-polar, the government will also make sure you can go to a doctor and get proper treatment for that condition.
    All the stress you went through only makes one more manic due to stress.
    I am happy to hear you are not escorting, I think that was something you did out of fear and desperation it wasn't something you really wanted to do or you would still be doing it. Also, if you go to the Unemployment office they can help you build a resume and hunt for jobs, give you interviewing tips and even train you a bit to do Administrative Assistant work. If you can use a computer have a some business casual clothing, it is obvious you can use a computer that might be something you contact Manpower, Kelly Services or Staff Pro about. If you aren't making enough to pay for daycare as long as you have a job the State will pay for daycare for you so you no longer have to stress about a man taking care of your children for you.
    This is not an easy path, it has a ton of red tape and paper work but it is better than begging family and friends for help. Get off the roller coaster and start using some of the programs all of our tax money goes to.

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    how much money do you think you need to save in order to move in to your own place? And how long would it take you to save that much?

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    Default Re: how long do you stay?

    I live alone.. I was just feeling bad cause I thought my bf was acting weird..he said he didnt feel good but I thought he was just saying that, but he really was sick, so thats all good..

    I have been on the waiting list for Housing for about three years now, I just started getting food stamps. I know I couldnt afford to live working a day job with out an education. I just started waitressing, the fair is in town so its super slow..


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