Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast
Results 1 to 25 of 38

Thread: Your Best Customers

  1. #1
    Banned
    Joined
    May 2009
    Posts
    78
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Your Best Customers

    OK....there have been a lot of posts about different things customers do that gross out or piss off the dancers.

    But for an established customer....you like him....he likes you...the situation changes dramatically. You know it....I know it.

    Question is how do you reward him for his loyalty? Closer contact? Free dances?

  2. #2
    God/dess FBR's Avatar
    Joined
    May 2003
    Posts
    8,351
    Thanks
    85
    Thanked 342 Times in 244 Posts
    Blog Entries
    3
    My Mood
    Mellow

    Default Re: Your Best Customers

    I doubt many dancers are interested in handing out free dances. I've been a "best customer" to a number of ladies and never asked or expected freebies. OTOH I don't think some closer contact is an unreasonable "reward" assuming nothing outside the dancers comfort zone (which can evolve over time IMO).

    Will be interesting to hear if the ladies' business models include "best customer rewards" or if the first time and long time custys get the same entertainment.

    FBR
    Once again I have embraced my addiction and have put off the moral dilemma to another day.

  3. #3
    Banned
    Joined
    Jul 2005
    Posts
    11,037
    Thanks
    1,891
    Thanked 5,124 Times in 3,086 Posts

    Default Re: Your Best Customers

    I've never rewarded a customer in a club by anyway. Oh maybe I would sit and talk a little longer, but mostly if he was tipping a lot. Now at parties with regulars I might give them a cheaper rate. This is mostly for the regulars who had been regulars a long time, and whom tipped a lot at parties.

  4. #4
    Featured Member
    Joined
    Dec 2009
    Posts
    1,968
    Thanks
    798
    Thanked 1,121 Times in 605 Posts

    Default Re: Your Best Customers

    1. Took a good reg to dinner once, my treat. When the bill came, he snatched it from me and wouldn't let me pay.

    2. More contact...to an extent. Basically, if any custy was really kind and really cool and a total gentleman, didn't try to grab, and spent generously, I would increase contact levels.

    3. I've offered to throw in a freebie for great regulars, and all of them have said no. That's part of what makes a customer great, not needing anything but my company and my dances.

  5. #5
    Featured Member MarvelGirl's Avatar
    Joined
    Mar 2008
    Location
    Reality
    Posts
    1,351
    Thanks
    1,063
    Thanked 2,391 Times in 643 Posts

    Default Re: Your Best Customers

    My best customers would never whine at me to try to push my limits or ask for free dances.

    If they did, they wouldn't be my best customers anymore.

  6. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to MarvelGirl For This Useful Post:


  7. #6
    Featured Member Stripper Hacks's Avatar
    Joined
    Jan 2009
    Location
    USA
    Posts
    1,256
    Thanks
    687
    Thanked 484 Times in 277 Posts
    My Mood
    Happy

    Default Re: Your Best Customers

    I don't want to sound ungrateful but I think the dancing or attention we offer and being hassle free is reward in itself.

    Obviously a customer is not going to frequent a dancer who is a rip off or flaky so he rewards dancers who do him right by becoming their regulars.

    Other than appreciation and delivering quality if there is anything else you guys would like please let us know.

    My old school customers tip their strippers like they would a service. I'd get a Christmas bonus, and gifts and tips year round.

    Some customers see it as they paid their money they don't need to go above and beyond that. Or...they need to be rewarded. Those regulars are on the fringe. They get exactly what they exert and what they pay for. Not much really beyond that.

    I just work out a price structure that they can agree with that is fair for both of us and deliver the goods. They seem to be happy.

    The only other thing I can think of is if it's their birthday we work something out.




  8. The Following User Says Thank You to Stripper Hacks For This Useful Post:


  9. #7
    Veteran Member bigmarv's Avatar
    Joined
    Aug 2006
    Location
    USA
    Posts
    379
    Thanks
    44
    Thanked 35 Times in 25 Posts

    Default Re: Your Best Customers

    I've had several dancers tell me I was one of their best customers, because I always respected them and stayed within their comfort zone, was easy going and didn't try to cheat them out of any money. I also always gave the dancers in VIP a generous tip.

  10. The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to bigmarv For This Useful Post:


  11. #8
    Featured Member lopaw's Avatar
    Joined
    Jul 2004
    Location
    Los Angeles
    Posts
    1,535
    Thanks
    222
    Thanked 967 Times in 481 Posts
    My Mood
    Pensive

    Default Re: Your Best Customers

    I've had dancers buy me drinks occasionally as a small reward for my loyalty & generosity. Had one gal bring me a plate of birthday brownies once. They were quite yummy.

    Increasing contact on subsequent visits happens quite often - although I'm not really sure if it is meant as a "reward", or more of an attempt to keep me interested and a deterrent from getting dances from competitors. I'll have to ask next time it happens. .

    The fact that I'm not your typical customer probably muddies the whole scenario, so I suppose for me the whole issue is moot.

  12. #9
    Moderator yoda57us's Avatar
    Joined
    Nov 2002
    Location
    at the Y
    Posts
    10,035
    Thanks
    2,878
    Thanked 5,834 Times in 2,332 Posts
    My Mood
    Goofy

    Default Re: Your Best Customers

    Quote Originally Posted by johnnytwoshoes View Post
    But for an established customer....you like him....he likes you...the situation changes dramatically. You know it....I know it.

    Question is how do you reward him for his loyalty? Closer contact? Free dances?
    Expectations like this are not how a guy becomes a dancer's preferred customer.
    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine View Post
    yoda, I want you so bad it aches in the swimsuit area.
    Quote Originally Posted by Sophia_Starina View Post
    Sophia_Starina is a sensible stripper...Naked all the way.....
    Quote Originally Posted by tempest666 View Post
    Double team! 2 latinas with big tits!!

  13. #10
    Moderator Jessie_tinydancer's Avatar
    Joined
    Jun 2009
    Location
    Australia
    Posts
    4,149
    Thanks
    1,307
    Thanked 2,530 Times in 1,295 Posts
    My Mood
    Sick

    Default Re: Your Best Customers

    I dont reward him for his loyalty. That's not my job. Do I do nice things for regulars? Yes. But it is not a reward. I would buy them a drink, help them out with something if they need it (ie. Lots of customers ask me for advice/help with their pets cause they know I'm studying Vet), maybe have a drink with them OTC, but it is certainly not a conscious "reward".

  14. #11
    Veteran Member chris91's Avatar
    Joined
    Oct 2008
    Posts
    705
    Thanks
    28
    Thanked 411 Times in 203 Posts

    Default Re: Your Best Customers

    Why would I reward a guy for paying me and being respectful? Those are things that customers are supposed to do.

    If for some reason, I did want to reward a customer, I certainly wouldn't do it with more contact. That's like letting your boyfriend punch you in the face as a reward for not hitting you.
    - SW members get 10% off with code SWEB

  15. The Following 4 Users Say Thank You to chris91 For This Useful Post:


  16. #12
    JRdancer
    Guest

    Default Re: Your Best Customers

    I give them more talk time and have more thoughtful conversations with them. They know that's different from what the other customers get because I'm usually working the whole night, time is money. Or if they're the regular who is always in a hurry, I'll go to them right away, no matter if someone else wants a dance or anything else. So it's still the reward of time.

    Free dances is crazy.

  17. #13
    Veteran Member DancingDaisy's Avatar
    Joined
    May 2009
    Posts
    387
    Thanks
    199
    Thanked 93 Times in 67 Posts
    My Mood
    Tired

    Default Re: Your Best Customers

    First, this is how I define a good customer or a "regular":
    1)Comes in regularly only to see me and buys dances only from me
    2)Doesnt push boundaries when I give a dance
    3)Generally pleasant to be around and can hold a conversation well
    4)Tips me while Im onstage and also gets dances
    5)Doesnt push outside of the club meetings

    These customers are very few so once in awhile I will send them a drink, give closer dances. Rarely will I throw in a free lapdance because they will expect it, but I do throw one in if they buy 10+

  18. #14
    Veteran Member
    Joined
    Jul 2008
    Location
    PA/NJ
    Posts
    305
    Thanks
    400
    Thanked 167 Times in 114 Posts
    My Mood
    Relaxed

    Default Re: Your Best Customers

    Quote Originally Posted by DancingDaisy View Post
    First, this is how I define a good customer or a "regular":
    1)Comes in regularly only to see me and buys dances only from me
    Why is it important he see you and only you? I'm curious.

    I have several faves scattered in several clubs that I'm confident would describe me as a good customer. Some I see regularly, some it's infrequent. All know that I spread my love and as best as I can tell are fine with it.

  19. #15
    Moderator Jessie_tinydancer's Avatar
    Joined
    Jun 2009
    Location
    Australia
    Posts
    4,149
    Thanks
    1,307
    Thanked 2,530 Times in 1,295 Posts
    My Mood
    Sick

    Default Re: Your Best Customers

    ^The really good ones only see you because otherwise it means some of the $$$ goes to someone else. I am realistic so know this will not always be the case, but it is nice when it is. Otherwise sometimes the customer can use the other girls to gain the upper hand, or the other girls can gain control over the customer. It's much better to know you are the one in control.

  20. #16
    Senior Member GeorgeBailey's Avatar
    Joined
    Jul 2005
    Location
    NC
    Posts
    148
    Thanks
    10
    Thanked 2 Times in 2 Posts

    Default Re: Your Best Customers

    ^ Trying to "control" me is the best way I can think of to lose me as a customer. But, it must work for you or otherwise you wouldn't be doing it.

    At my regular club there are a number of dancers that I see routinely; they all know it and cooperate quite well amongst themselves (I'm told) in taking turns approaching me while I'm in the club.

    To the original poster, my experience has been that contact level goes up over time with my favorite dancers. I've also been given "freebies." Whether those are "loyalty rewards" or not, I don't care. It just seems like good business to me. Bottom line is that I keep coming back.

  21. #17
    Veteran Member
    Joined
    Jul 2008
    Location
    PA/NJ
    Posts
    305
    Thanks
    400
    Thanked 167 Times in 114 Posts
    My Mood
    Relaxed

    Default Re: Your Best Customers

    Quote Originally Posted by GeorgeBailey View Post
    ^ Trying to "control" me is the best way I can think of to lose me as a customer. But, it must work for you or otherwise you wouldn't be doing it.

    At my regular club there are a number of dancers that I see routinely; they all know it and cooperate quite well amongst themselves (I'm told) in taking turns approaching me while I'm in the club.
    Thanks George. Didn't want to be the 1st to respond to Jessie but I feel very much the same way. If a girl starts showing evidence of trying to exert control, I send her packing. I'm the customer for crying out loud.

  22. #18
    Moderator Jessie_tinydancer's Avatar
    Joined
    Jun 2009
    Location
    Australia
    Posts
    4,149
    Thanks
    1,307
    Thanked 2,530 Times in 1,295 Posts
    My Mood
    Sick

    Default Re: Your Best Customers

    ^LOL now now boys I didn't mean "control" as in forcing against their will. I mean maintain control of the situation. At the end of the day it is our job as dancers to get as much money from you as possible. Whether you want to believe it or not. I have always said I have regulars who I actually like and enjoy spending time with...however the moment the money stops...that means I've lost control of the situation. How do I control the customer? By giving them what they have paid for, but by also alluding to something more. My dancing persona with my regulars is usually the shy, sweet girl who just is a little bit naughty sometimes, but shhhhh don't tell anyone type attitude. I am also known for being one of the nicest dancers where I work and always help new girls. I think of "control" as more of seducing my regulars, making them fall in love with me. Not being the bitchy naggy, jealous wife... most of them already have one of those. I try and be the safe haven. That's how I gain control. And yes it does work.

  23. #19
    Senior Member GeorgeBailey's Avatar
    Joined
    Jul 2005
    Location
    NC
    Posts
    148
    Thanks
    10
    Thanked 2 Times in 2 Posts

    Default Re: Your Best Customers

    Jessie,

    In the context of your message (#15) above, I took you meant "control" as meaning there was an exclusive customer-dancer relationship with you while I'm in the club. If you define "control" as "You're pleased with the service you're getting so you keep coming back," then, definitely...control me.

  24. #20
    Featured Member
    Joined
    Dec 2009
    Posts
    1,968
    Thanks
    798
    Thanked 1,121 Times in 605 Posts

    Default Re: Your Best Customers

    Some regulars will stick with one girl, some regulars prefer a variety. I think its important for the dancer to know which is which, and not freak out if the custy prefers to spread his money around. He's the custy, if he wants variety, that's what he gets.

    Sure I would like all his money each and every time. But just because he doesn't always spend it all on me doesn't make him a bad customer in the least. Some girls are more possessive than others though, and hey, it works well for them. Many custies actually enjoy the attempt at control and possession that dancers have with them, its a huge ego boost.

    Me, I don't play that game. If I've ever seen my regular with another girl and felt that pang of jealousy, I just told myself, K, STFU, and move on to other custies, he'll be back with you when he's done. And that has worked out fine.

    No point in wasting emotional energy over something like that...At least that's the mantra I've always tried to keep. Its important to maintain that attitude in any sales job.

  25. #21
    Veteran Member Firewall's Avatar
    Joined
    Dec 2009
    Location
    Too South for my own comfort!
    Posts
    452
    Thanks
    17
    Thanked 70 Times in 49 Posts

    Default Re: Your Best Customers

    My Regular isn't comfortable with super close contact or anything 'dirty', he even asks me to keep my top on. The only thing that I do for him that I wouldn't for someone else is take an IOU ( he recently lost his debit card ) for when he wanted one more dance than he had money for. I always come back to him during the day, in between dancing for other men, we talk / hang out for a good 90% of my 7 hour shift, and I show my trust in him by leaving all the money he had already spent on me with him while I go freshen up or go on stage.

    Basically I respect his boundaries, show appreciation for his time and show that I trust him. Nothing else seems to be needed, in his case!

    edit: Also, one saturday night a really cool guy told me he didn't want dances he just wanted to chill and talk, so periodically throughout the 7 hour night I would come back and talk for a few minutes. We had gotten so friendly by the end up the night I left hundreds of 1's at his table while I went to get a rubber band and didn't think twice. He was very flattered!

  26. #22
    Senior Member Slin's Avatar
    Joined
    Feb 2010
    Posts
    123
    Thanks
    4
    Thanked 8 Times in 8 Posts

    Default Re: Your Best Customers

    I've gotten free dances before from my ATF. Now, this was already after I bought a dance before; not just a free dance out of nowhere. I don't think it's a bad thing to do throw in every now and then for a regular. It's kinda like when you are going to shop at your regular store and you get a 2 for 1 special sometimes. I think it's a good investment to miss out on a few 20s sometimes in order to ensure regular income in the future.
    Ratamahattamahattamahatta

    Do you have any advice for the nerds on how to get girls?

    Pro MMA/UFC/PRIDE/Strikeforce Fighter & Guido Phil Baroni:
    "Do steroids, lift heavy weights, get contacts, go tanning. And stop playing all those gay fucking video games. You can’t get pussy in front of a TV playing games with your geeky friends. Go out to night clubs and bars, ...hit the beach. If you got money, floss. Whatever you do, don’t be yourself."

  27. #23
    Veteran Member
    Joined
    Jul 2007
    Location
    Never neverland
    Posts
    358
    Thanks
    2
    Thanked 43 Times in 31 Posts

    Default Re: Your Best Customers

    They're reward is my attention.

  28. #24
    Banned
    Joined
    Feb 2006
    Location
    Colorado!
    Posts
    6,053
    Thanks
    3,775
    Thanked 3,701 Times in 1,713 Posts

    Default Re: Your Best Customers

    The reward is they get highest priority for my attention.

  29. #25
    God/dess
    Joined
    Dec 2004
    Location
    London, UK
    Posts
    2,218
    Thanks
    5
    Thanked 209 Times in 142 Posts

    Default Re: Your Best Customers

    Quote Originally Posted by Jessie_tinydancer View Post
    At the end of the day it is our job as dancers to get as much money from you as possible...however the moment the money stops...that means I've lost control of the situation. How do I control the customer? By giving them what they have paid for, but by also alluding to something more...I think of "control" as more of seducing my regulars, making them fall in love with me...I try and be the safe haven. That's how I gain control.
    I think all dancers do attempt to control customers - if you define control as (a) keeping customers within the dancer's personal limits and (b) keeping the customer spending.

    It's potentially a difficult situation for a dancer with (i) nudity, (ii) often a degree of contact allowed, (iii) customers that have had a few drinks and (iv) the need to earn money. So dancers do (in a subtle way) need to keep the customer behaving in a way that is acceptable to them.

    In terms of physical control of the customer, that might be discrete - as in dancing in such a way that a 'handsy' customers gets little opportunity to put his hands where they shouldn't. Or it might be blatant - as in telling a customer to sit on his hands before the girl continues the dance.

    'Mental' control of a customer is far more subtle; and I think very tied in up a dancer's work personality. But in essence, I think Jessie Tiny Dancer is right - mental control over a customer is (to a large degree) the dancer reading the customer's wants and behaving accordingly. In her case, that's her being the fantasy 'sexy partner' that her customers don't have at home. In other cases it can be displaying a real or pretend exhibitionism, or in being a 'girl next door' and giving the customer the feeling that he's getting to know the 'real' person behind the dancer.

    Over the years I've noticed that the better earning dancers are flexible in the way they exert control over 'repeat' customers. That's to say the first time they meet a customer, they behave in a (for them) standard way. If the customer then buys a succession of dances, or if he comes back for subsequent visits, the dancer will gradually improve her 'read' on the customer and modify her behavior accordingly. That way she maximizes her control over (a) his behavior and (b) his spending.

    Interesting subject....

    Phil.
    Quote Originally Posted by J.D. View Post
    I've totally stared at guys' wallets with lust in my heart
    J.D. explaining how she reacts to guys staring at her body with lust in their hearts....

Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast

Similar Threads

  1. Replies: 4
    Last Post: 12-04-2010, 11:43 PM
  2. To The Customers
    By greeneyedgrl in forum Customer Conversation
    Replies: 42
    Last Post: 07-06-2010, 07:33 AM
  3. 'Their' Customers?
    By StrawberrySwitchblade in forum Stripping (was Stripping General)
    Replies: 15
    Last Post: 10-05-2007, 01:10 AM
  4. no customers
    By papillonluvr in forum Hustle Hut
    Replies: 15
    Last Post: 10-25-2006, 03:27 AM
  5. Customers
    By sallylou in forum General Board
    Replies: 16
    Last Post: 06-24-2003, 09:36 AM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •