ouch, you don't like my avatar? well, I'm not trying to run her around the block. Thats why i asked for help.
ouch, you don't like my avatar? well, I'm not trying to run her around the block. Thats why i asked for help.
Well, ok, I know yoda is a stripper suck up. and well, so far I have run them both around the block![]()
Just tell her you want to move on. She will probably take it personally, and she'll probably be a little pissed/hurt. BUT IT'S BUSINESS. It is what it is. She'll get over it and move to the next just as you will.
Just don't try to MAKE her jealous by flaunting your new "chosen one" in front of her. She will surely flip out on you..
Or switch clubs.. Easy as that.
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Chris, thanks, but I don't need to spend 9.99 to be insulted. If only you were my ATF, it would be so easy to leave u![]()
Why are you here? Do you want help from the ladies or do you want to insult us?
Get the fuck off my harbl, yo'.




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Chris wins the thread.
GameOver....just tell her you just want to be friends and you no longer feel comfortable spending money on her because the relationship has gone "beyond that". She'll understand. Once the money dries up, she'll get it.

This is a very difficult situation if you care about your ATF's feelings. I have had a similar situation. It is very difficult to leave if your ATF has not done anything wrong and you just want a change of scenery.




No its not, its really not. I left my optometrist because I moved to a different part of town and it took too long to commute to her. I liked her, she was a great doctor, never did anything wrong. I just stopped making appointments at her office, and didn't worry too much about if she cared.
Now, there is certainly more emotion involved when dealing with strippers, but not as much as you think. They are motivated by your money. Once its gone, they will conveniently not get so jealous or care so much.
If you want to continue patronizing the same club through, you have to tell her that you're cutting her loose, and that you would like to experience some other dancers...then ask her for recommendations. If she is smart, she will see that its over, and garner a referral fee from whomever she thinks you will like.





Its going to be personal. If you want a clean break, I agree that you should just start going to another club.
Gameover - if your boss/client fired you and replaced you with another person, you'd feel a little hurt and resentful (specially if you've worked very hard to win his/her approval)... and it would be awkward seeing him/her with your replacement after the firing .
If you want to be kind to your ATF and continue going to the same club - I would try a gradual transition. Tell her you love her and she will always be your favorite, but you want to meet some of the other girls - you could even ask her who she recommends. Spend 80% on your ATF and 20% on others.
When you see that your ATF has accepted this reality, you can adjust to 70% and 30%, etc.
If possible, you should bring friends to distract her (and buy dances from her) while you talk to other dancers.





This is completely different than a real relationship, so you don't have to handle this the same way you would ending things with a girl you were seeing (by giving her the courtesy of an explanation). I would dance with the girl you want to dance with and then do half as many dances after that with your old ATF. And then just go see the girl you want to see. Your ATF will know what's up because you did less dances with her, but at least you threw some dances her way.
Anything that goes on in the strip club is business and girls have to know that. How you treat women elsewhere is another story.



I'll usually transition from one dancer to the next as diplomatically as possible. I'll give the first dancer less dances and the new dancer more for a couple of visits. Most dancers know that it's getting stale so they know it's coming. I've never dropped a dancer that I've known for a while like a hot potato because it's not my style. On a couple of occasions, I've gone back to a previous dancer so I try not to burn any bridges during the transition.
If ATF won't take no for an answer after transitioning, then when she sits down next to you, wave over another dancer to sit on the opposite side of you. Tell ATF that so and so is dancing for you tonight, then start chatting with the new dancer and buy her a drink. Make ATF feel unwanted until she gets the hint.
Or, you could have a new dancer sit with you immediately (right after you walk in the door), and when the ATF comes by, tell her so and so is dancing for you tonight. She may walk away, but if ATF sits down, keep chatting with the new dancer and buy her a drink. Make ATF feel unwanted until she gets the hint.
Last edited by SteveSmith; 04-06-2010 at 01:46 PM.
I never want to leave the atf![]()




"Peter, did you take Stewie to a strip-club? He smells like sweat and fear." - Lois and Stewie (Family Guy) ... "Through early morning fog I see, Visions of the things to be, The pains that are withheld for me, I realize and I can see..."
Ouch, burn! Seriously dude, you stated in your op that you have tried to leave her but always "wimp out". The logical solution would be to man up.
This is not some complex problem that needs to be carefully analyzed. You're not getting a divorce. Losing a regular is equivalent to losing your wallet. It's inconvenient, but you don't cry about it. You just get a new one. BFD.
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I suspect this is more about your needs, recognizing they are getting weird and unfulfilled, but unwilling to face up to whats going on in your emotional turmoil. You got to be careful not to make this a substitute for something dude.
Ditching a stripper is easy. Ditching an emotional need is not. Recognize the difference between the two so you can find happiness.
(And rarely will you find that in a strip club.)
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