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    Hello, ladies. New guy here.

    I am a casual customer of strip clubs. I went to a bachelor party the other night, not having been in a club for years. Admittedly, my Strip Club Fu is weak.

    I got a handful of private dances. During the dances, I placed my hands on the girls -- sensually rubbing their hips, legs, and backs. The girls didn't seem to mind, a couple even moved my hands to their chests.

    My question -- is this okay? None of them protested. I definitely want to be respectful. I love feeling the ladies -- but I don't want to come off creepy.

    Thoughts?

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    It wouldn't fly with me but that's just my input.

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    If she has guided your hands there and does not protest, then that should be fine. Just don't expect it to be the norm everywhere.

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    I personally wouldn't like it. I hated when a customer could touch my waist let alone anywhere else. I am not a touchy feely type of person to begin with.

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    My first LD with a new dancer always begins with me saying "please let me know if I do anything or touch anywhere that you are uncomfortable with". At that point the dancer will usually guide my hands to areas that she is ok with.

    Not only will this assure the girl that you will abide by her rules, but often you might just get a better dance by being a gentleman/woman

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    Its all about what city you are in, and what the girl is cool with. Personally, I dont allow touching, but I could see how in a higher contact city that would be ok.

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    yea its city dependent. i allow touching in the champagne room (no kitty though ever, and boobs is dependent on the CR bought as well as my mood and whether the customer is good in my book etc) but i never allow 2 way contact in the regular dances. some girls do though. And in some cities it is very standard-- i.e. tampa, pittsburgh. if she was guiding your hands then thats a hint it was ok with her....
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    I just wanted to say, you have the coolest username ever!
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    I live in the St. Louis area and it is so much different from girl to girl. I used to be that guy that was completely stiff (pun intended lol) and pretty much was scared to breathe while I received a lap dance. Now that I've become a "regular" (man I hate that term) I know what some girls allow and what others would beat me to death over. I think asking what the rules are is always a great idea. Also if they allow contact don't try to push the envelope, it's rude and disrespectful. All of these ladies are mothers, daughters and significant others to someone else.

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    I personally don't like touching anymore than my calf or a backrub-and even then only in a CR with permission.

    Even if a dancer DOES allow you to touch her, it doesn't mean she enjoys it. She might be doing it to keep you giving her more money or because it is the norm in the club. Or some may be totally cool with it.

    Either way, if she initiated it, no problems on your end.
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    dont as or assume unless invited to. if she wants you to touch her it will happen, majority of us are sick of the sound of the question.
    depends on location eg. queensland in aus is known for touching clubs while nsw is pretty proper

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    Hips, hair, face, shoulders, legs, stomach, feet, arms and hands for me are safe zones.

    Boobage and pussy are entirely off limits.

    A little brush on my bottom is okay with if a customer doesn't go overboard.

    If some girls guide your hands to certain places just know that not every girl is up for being touched like that.
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    Quote Originally Posted by peppper1 View Post
    i live in the st. Louis area and it is so much different from girl to girl. I used to be that guy that was completely stiff (pun intended lol) and pretty much was scared to breathe while i received a lap dance. Now that i've become a "regular" (man i hate that term) i know what some girls allow and what others would beat me to death over. I think asking what the rules are is always a great idea. also if they allow contact don't try to push the envelope, it's rude and disrespectful. All of these ladies are mothers, daughters and significant others to someone else.
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    Thanks for the input.

    I'll definitely ask what is "safe" in the future. I don't want to be "that guy".

    And for the record, I never try to grab boobage/downtown.

    That wouldn't be gentleman-like.

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    Don't mix up "allows" with "likes".

    I've met a lot of dancers that allow customers to touch them, and very few who personally like doing it.

    Basically as soon as you walk into a SC, the dancers are in competition with each other for your money. And because the dancers regularly work in the venue, they soon get an ideas of what 'Susie' or Jane' or 'Mercedes' allows. And they also know if you come regularly into a SC as a customer, you'll equally well get to know what 'Susie' or Jane' or 'Mercedes' allows.

    Because dancers know they're in competition with other dancers for your money, they have to make their own personal decisions on the level of contact they'll permit to maintain their income. Hence my comment on not mixing up "allows" with "likes".

    Quote Originally Posted by CapnHowdy View Post
    I got a handful of private dances. During the dances, I placed my hands on the girls -- sensually rubbing their hips, legs, and backs. The girls didn't seem to mind, a couple even moved my hands to their chests.

    My question -- is this okay? None of them protested. I definitely want to be respectful. I love feeling the ladies -- but I don't want to come off creepy.
    The dancers are doing what it takes for them to maintain earnings. I doubt many of them liked (in the sense of getting pleasure from it) you touching them - it was just a necessary part of the job. The couple moving your "hands to their chests" had likewise decided that doing so would keep you spending.

    As long as you're staying within the dancers limits, they're unlikely to be worried by you touching - but don't assume you're anything other than one of the ten or twenty guys whom they've allowed (for business reasons) to touch them that night.

    Sorry to sound brutally realistic about the whole exercise but that's the way the SC world works.....

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    I live in Canada, Ontario, and touching the girls ass is acceptable in my experience. In fact I have noticed that I get a more energic dance the harder I spank. Some girls allow you to feel them up, tit wise, some don't, I allows ask even if I know the club rules don't allow it, cause some of the girls do anyways. I've also noticed that with roleplaying, if they really get into it, they're rules because shall we say more liberal. It also helps that play more dominate roles, like slave master, so after awhile, they get used to obeying me. I'm careful to respect thier boundaries when I see them, like if I see a girl is uncomfortable with a piticular thing, I take the lead and shift things around.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Phil-W View Post
    Don't mix up "allows" with "likes".

    I've met a lot of dancers that allow customers to touch them, and very few who personally like doing it.
    Yup, this is true. Few strippers want to be touched. But if that's what is customary in the club, then one just gets used to allowing it in order to maintain a competitive service. Its just one of the less pleasant aspects of the job, but not the worst thing, if the touching is respectful. Although, yeah, I prefer no touch as well. But I also prefer to sit on my ass and have men hand over bills while I talk about the weather....

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    I touch the waist and legs. I only touch breasts with my hands if encouraged to do so, but usually, the dancer rubs her breasts all over my face, so I have lots of contact with breasts.

    Only once has a dancer (gently) pulled my hands back to my side (in Dallas). More often, a dancer will encourage more touching and place my hands on her ass or breasts, specially if I have bought several dances already.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Omegaphallic View Post
    I live in Canada, Ontario, and touching the girls ass is acceptable in my experience. In fact I have noticed that I get a more energic dance the harder I spank. Some girls allow you to feel them up, tit wise, some don't, I allows ask even if I know the club rules don't allow it, cause some of the girls do anyways. I've also noticed that with roleplaying, if they really get into it, they're rules because shall we say more liberal. It also helps that play more dominate roles, like slave master, so after awhile, they get used to obeying me. I'm careful to respect thier boundaries when I see them, like if I see a girl is uncomfortable with a piticular thing, I take the lead and shift things around.
    I once had a customer try to spank me. I turned around and punched him in the face. I don't find spanking cute, even in my private life. I had an ex who tried to spank me and he learned never to do it again.

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    I always follow a dancers lead when it comes to touching. My experience has been that if your a respectful customer who respects a dancers boundries and tips generously YMWV depending on the dancer.
    Just my .02 cents.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kellydancer View Post
    I once had a customer try to spank me. I turned around and punched him in the face. I don't find spanking cute, even in my private life. I had an ex who tried to spank me and he learned never to do it again.
    Would you spank the customer?

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    I usually do the spanking in both my professional and personal lives.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jack0177057 View Post
    Would you spank the customer?
    Sure, if they asked me I would.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CapnHowdy View Post
    Hello, ladies. New guy here.

    I am a casual customer of strip clubs. I went to a bachelor party the other night, not having been in a club for years. Admittedly, my Strip Club Fu is weak.

    I got a handful of private dances. During the dances, I placed my hands on the girls -- sensually rubbing their hips, legs, and backs. The girls didn't seem to mind, a couple even moved my hands to their chests.

    My question -- is this okay? None of them protested. I definitely want to be respectful. I love feeling the ladies -- but I don't want to come off creepy.

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    I preferred to spank the customers, and had several who enjoyed it. But no spanking for me...I never know how hard he will hit, and I don't want to walk around all night with a bruised butt.

    I only know this because on more than one occasion, I've been walking through the club, minding my own business, and some PL has smacked me in the ass while I'm not looking. Completely inapropriate. Busted capillaries all over the ass aren't cool.

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