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    Quote Originally Posted by Omegaphallic View Post
    I live in Canada, Ontario, and touching the girls ass is acceptable in my experience. In fact I have noticed that I get a more energic dance the harder I spank. Some girls allow you to feel them up, tit wise, some don't, I allows ask even if I know the club rules don't allow it, cause some of the girls do anyways. I've also noticed that with roleplaying, if they really get into it, they're rules because shall we say more liberal. It also helps that play more dominate roles, like slave master, so after awhile, they get used to obeying me. I'm careful to respect thier boundaries when I see them, like if I see a girl is uncomfortable with a piticular thing, I take the lead and shift things around.
    god, if I had ever had a customer pull this shit on me, I would have gotten violent...especially in the last year. Seriously "they get used to obeying me"?! WTF?!

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    Quote Originally Posted by nicole84 View Post
    god, if I had ever had a customer pull this shit on me, I would have gotten violent...especially in the last year. Seriously "they get used to obeying me"?! WTF?!
    This man is not representing my countrymen well, where the f is hockeybobby?

    All joking aside, I had a man thrown out the other day for smacking my ass. I was just standing there and he did it so hard he left a handprint on me. I totally confronted him: "Why would you want to hurt me? You know that HURTS, right?" and he is all "I was just playing.." so I said "Well, I don't know you and you don't have a right to hit me. Now I'm going to have a bruise. Fuck you."

    Went and got my manager and threw him right the hell out. Fuck that noise. Obey. Obey my ass.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mediocrity View Post
    This man is not representing my countrymen well, where the f is hockeybobby?
    Tough for me to criticize, after all, Some girls do need to have a little obedience spanked into them.

    All joking aside, I had a man thrown out the other day for smacking my ass. I was just standing there and he did it so hard he left a handprint on me. I totally confronted him: "Why would you want to hurt me? You know that HURTS, right?" and he is all "I was just playing.." so I said "Well, I don't know you and you don't have a right to hit me. Now I'm going to have a bruise. Fuck you."

    Went and got my manager and threw him right the hell out. Fuck that noise. Obey. Obey my ass.
    That dude was way out of line. Some bdsm play between consenting adults is one thing, but someone hitting you out of the blue like that is assault.

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    not okay with custies touching:
    -asshole (gross and i would get fired)
    -pussy (gross and i would get fired)
    -tits too rough (if they're nice about it, it's fine)
    -anything too rough
    -face (i don't want to get zits because of your dirty hands)
    -hair (it gets tangled easily. i'll take it down in timed rooms, but not for individual dances. i need to spend my time on the floor trying to make money, not in the dressing room brushing my hair over and over again because dudes like playing with it)

    if a custy is nice and good with his hands, i often do like being touched though. i don't tell customers this though, because if i do, they think it's a hustle and i end up making less money than i would if i told them it disgusts me.
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    Yes almighty strip club patron... I will obey.
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    Quote Originally Posted by mediocrity View Post
    This man is not representing my countrymen well, where the f is hockeybobby?

    All joking aside, I had a man thrown out the other day for smacking my ass. I was just standing there and he did it so hard he left a handprint on me. I totally confronted him: "Why would you want to hurt me? You know that HURTS, right?" and he is all "I was just playing.." so I said "Well, I don't know you and you don't have a right to hit me. Now I'm going to have a bruise. Fuck you."

    Went and got my manager and threw him right the hell out. Fuck that noise. Obey. Obey my ass.

    That's horrible. I've had that actually happen to me in regular bars. Once when I was on holiday I was in the pool and this English guy bit me on the ass. Do they actually think we like that shit?

    I agree about Bobby, SO sweet!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Phil-W View Post
    Don't mix up "allows" with "likes".

    I've met a lot of dancers that allow customers to touch them, and very few who personally like doing it.

    Basically as soon as you walk into a SC, the dancers are in competition with each other for your money. And because the dancers regularly work in the venue, they soon get an ideas of what 'Susie' or Jane' or 'Mercedes' allows. And they also know if you come regularly into a SC as a customer, you'll equally well get to know what 'Susie' or Jane' or 'Mercedes' allows.

    Because dancers know they're in competition with other dancers for your money, they have to make their own personal decisions on the level of contact they'll permit to maintain their income. Hence my comment on not mixing up "allows" with "likes".

    The dancers are doing what it takes for them to maintain earnings. I doubt many of them liked (in the sense of getting pleasure from it) you touching them - it was just a necessary part of the job. The couple moving your "hands to their chests" had likewise decided that doing so would keep you spending.

    As long as you're staying within the dancers limits, they're unlikely to be worried by you touching - but don't assume you're anything other than one of the ten or twenty guys whom they've allowed (for business reasons) to touch them that night.

    Sorry to sound brutally realistic about the whole exercise but that's the way the SC world works.....

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    we are all perverts in the SC in my opinion. Hes a pervert, you're a pervert, I'm a pervert.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Phil-W View Post
    Don't mix up "allows" with "likes".

    The dancers are doing what it takes for them to maintain earnings. I doubt many of them liked (in the sense of getting pleasure from it) you touching them - it was just a necessary part of the job.

    Sorry to sound brutally realistic about the whole exercise but that's the way the SC world works.....

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    Thank you. I am not working for sexual pleasure. That is so ridiculous.

    I am working in order to have food and a place to live.

    No one wants to be touched. I know that realistically guys are going to grab at me and I have to pretend like I am ok with it. Then again strippers have to pretend a lot of things because that is the job. We are just acting. That's all it is.

    I will admit that I have become numb over the years. When I first started ...wow was I shocked. That is what led to such serious substance abuse for several years.

    I would be so happy if more guys would take pride in being a gentleman again. It seems like no guys even mention the word gentleman anymore.
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    Quote Originally Posted by loren View Post
    I would be so happy if more guys would take pride in being a gentleman again. It seems like no guys even mention the word gentleman anymore.

    YES!!! Thank you! Being a gentleman and actually paying for my time instead of begging for something for free will get you a wayyy better experience. Period.

    I miss the custies back home that would buy drinks without being asked, even if it was a bottle of water, the ones who pulled out chairs and tipped EVERY stage rotation. These were the custies you didn't have to ask to do anything, because they already knew. I miss having polite/fun conversation without being asked to go home with someone for money.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Omegaphallic View Post
    I live in Canada, Ontario, and touching the girls ass is acceptable in my experience. In fact I have noticed that I get a more energic dance the harder I spank. Some girls allow you to feel them up, tit wise, some don't, I allows ask even if I know the club rules don't allow it, cause some of the girls do anyways. I've also noticed that with roleplaying, if they really get into it, they're rules because shall we say more liberal. It also helps that play more dominate roles, like slave master, so after awhile, they get used to obeying me. I'm careful to respect thier boundaries when I see them, like if I see a girl is uncomfortable with a piticular thing, I take the lead and shift things around.
    seriously? i just threw up in my mouth.

    for starters, your grammar/spelling is atrocious. fix it or stay off the internet.

    secondly, it is never "acceptable" to start feeling a girl up, unless she expressly tells you in black and white terms, "hey, go on, touch me!" even if you ASK it doesn't mean she wants you to, it means she probably has a baby at home she has to feed or a boyfriend that beats her if she doesn't pull in a certain amount of cash. but you probably don't care about that, do you?

    even more to the point, spanking?!? are you fucking kidding me? i'd rip your eyeball out and put the end of my stiletto through it.

    and as far as their rules get more lax when you take on a "dominant" role, this can be compared to when i was in an abusive relationship a few years ago. the first time he hit me i hid in the closet for five hours and cried. six months later a punch to the face was just a normal part of my day.

    and how the fuck can you say you act dominate to loosen up her boundaries AND that you respect her boundaries in the same post???

    where can i find such a drug that makes one so delusional?

    seriously, your post made me fucking sick.

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    I'd throw my two cents in, but I think you already have. Fuck it, I'll do it anyway.

    Speaking from someone who IS a TRUE Domme... dragging some unwilling person into your Dom fantasies is not cool. BDSM is about what happens between two CONSENTING adults, not forcing your so called 'dominance' onto a dancer in order to get more for your money. So take your dominance and shove it. If you knew anything about D/s play or BDSM in general you would know better than to push someone's boundaries like that.

    Also, the grammar... I've seen grade school children do a better job and it makes me hope, for the good of the human species, that you have not spawned any idiot offspring. I mean, I know illiteracy is a turn on in a man for me, it's right up there with a sense of humor and public displays of sexual harassment.

    Oh and yes, I just did a post on how hitting is not appropriate strip club behavior, from either side of the fence. Look it up. Oh and your behavior sounds almost sociopathic, as in you lack a sense of moral responsibility... so get some help for that, kay?

    MUST. OBEY. BRAIIIIINSSSSSSS. ::zombie walk:: hahahahaha seriously pathetic dude.
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    Only if she lets you know its okay.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KS_Stevia View Post
    If she has guided your hands there and does not protest, then that should be fine. Just don't expect it to be the norm everywhere.
    It is the norm here but I always ask anyway. I'd be disappointed if this were the 'rule' everywhere. In fact I wouldn't go to clubs. Dancers touch me everywhere they want and these aren't forbidden areas we're talking about. I'd understand if someone abused severely reacted that way, but I wouldn't get dances with her. If you think a customer is just dirty, you should not be giving him a dance anyway IMHO.
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    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

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    Quote Originally Posted by she sells sanctuary View Post
    not okay with custies touching:
    -asshole (gross and i would get fired)
    -pussy (gross and i would get fired)
    -tits too rough (if they're nice about it, it's fine)
    -anything too rough
    -face (i don't want to get zits because of your dirty hands)
    -hair (it gets tangled easily. i'll take it down in timed rooms, but not for individual dances. i need to spend my time on the floor trying to make money, not in the dressing room brushing my hair over and over again because dudes like playing with it)

    if a custy is nice and good with his hands, i often do like being touched though. i don't tell customers this though, because if i do, they think it's a hustle and i end up making less money than i would if i told them it disgusts me.
    I HATE this! Don't caress the side of my face, or even worse, DON'T TRY TO STICK YOUR FINGER IN MY MOUTH!!! There's no way in hell I want to suck on your nasty finger!
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    Quote Originally Posted by wanderlust08 View Post
    for starters, your grammar/spelling is atrocious. fix it or stay off the internet.
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    It has long been he rule here that we do not criticize another's spelling or grammar unless it is difficult to understand. Disgust over a post notwithstanding.

    Is this not true, moderator?
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

    NOTE: anything I post here, outside of a direct quote, is my opinion only, which I am entitled to. Take it for what you estimate it is worth.

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    Quote Originally Posted by J.D. View Post
    I HATE this! Don't caress the side of my face, or even worse, DON'T TRY TO STICK YOUR FINGER IN MY MOUTH!!! There's no way in hell I want to suck on your nasty finger!
    Ugh, that's the fucking worst. I feel sick at the thought. Don't wanna suck nasty ass fucking dirty fingers, ew.....



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    Quote Originally Posted by Athenathefabulous View Post
    yea its city dependent. i allow touching in the champagne room (no kitty though ever, and boobs is dependent on the CR bought as well as my mood and whether the customer is good in my book etc) but i never allow 2 way contact in the regular dances. some girls do though. And in some cities it is very standard-- i.e. tampa, pittsburgh. if she was guiding your hands then thats a hint it was ok with her....


    ^While I agree with this statement, I encourage customers to realize that no matter WHAT city they are in, every girl is different. Just because you are in Tampa, doesn't mean you should just assume you can fondle the dancer.

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    I don't touch any girls in the clubs. I don't know where them girls have been. It's wierd to me anyway.

    However AND THIS IS A BIG HOWEVER LADIES, I do want the ladies TOUCHING ME. The more a girl touches me the more money she is going to make from me. I've had girls who do the whole dance from a distance crap and they never made money off me. Think your too good to touch me? F'k off!

    For those girls who sent their hands roaming.. they've made quite a bit of money off me. At the same time I kept my hands to myself. I never once touched them.

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    I don't mind a little touching, I don't like to be grabbed though. I don't want my breasts or vag touched either.

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    Quote Originally Posted by paladine View Post
    I don't touch any girls in the clubs. I don't know where them girls have been. It's wierd to me anyway.

    However AND THIS IS A BIG HOWEVER LADIES, I do want the ladies TOUCHING ME. The more a girl touches me the more money she is going to make from me. I've had girls who do the whole dance from a distance crap and they never made money off me. Think your too good to touch me? F'k off!

    For those girls who sent their hands roaming.. they've made quite a bit of money off me. At the same time I kept my hands to myself. I never once touched them.
    I would much rather touch a customer than have me touch me. I give a good lapdance, but many guys have ruined that by being too grabby. I cannot give a good dance if I'm trying to keep a man off of me the whole time.

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    I think its possible to communicate that to them though Shanina. I know you get alot of pervs, but right at the beginning of the dance just say

    " Hey hands to yourself buddy, and if you play nice... maybe I'll play nice later "

    I don't know if it would work for the worst customers, but some guys might take the hint ( keeping their hands to themselves ) and as they spend more and more money you can do your part. You make a ton of cash and they get a much better dance out of it. So many guys just want the sensation of touch. I love when a female runs her hands all over me. I'm not talking anything sexual. But touch is one of the 5 senses and its probably the biggest one.

    Of course I'm not talking every guy. I happen to think I'm decent to at least cute. Girls aren't revolted by my presence I'd like to think. Theres some guys who you wouldn't want to touch regardless. You women are strong though =)

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    Quote Originally Posted by paladine View Post
    I think its possible to communicate that to them though Shanina. I know you get alot of pervs, but right at the beginning of the dance just say

    " Hey hands to yourself buddy, and if you play nice... maybe I'll play nice later "

    I don't know if it would work for the worst customers, but some guys might take the hint ( keeping their hands to themselves ) and as they spend more and more money you can do your part. You make a ton of cash and they get a much better dance out of it. So many guys just want the sensation of touch. I love when a female runs her hands all over me. I'm not talking anything sexual. But touch is one of the 5 senses and its probably the biggest one.

    Of course I'm not talking every guy. I happen to think I'm decent to at least cute. Girls aren't revolted by my presence I'd like to think. Theres some guys who you wouldn't want to touch regardless. You women are strong though =)
    Thanks for giving advice to the strippers. You are obviously a fucking brilliant genius that can read each and every occupation out there and credibly advise them on how to do their jobs. Sweet.

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