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    I know this question has been touched upon in other threads. I also know that every dancer is different. I am asking for a GENERALIZATION of what type(s) of guy MOST (not ALL) dancer's date WHILE (not before or after) they are in the dancing biz.

    Obviously, he has to be open-minded, not too religious, jealous or possessive. Are there any other personality or physical traits that are prevalent in the guys dancers' date?
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    If you know everyone's different, why are you trying to generalise a group of individuals? I don't get it. Amusingly, I actively avoid all four of your character types like the plague.

    I mean I in theory understand why men will ask "What do strippers look for in men?", but to me it's like asking what kind of guys zookeepers and baristas are into.
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    Quote Originally Posted by sxcbbw View Post
    If you know everyone's different, why are you trying to generalise a group of individuals? I don't get it. Amusingly, I actively avoid all four of your character types like the plague.

    I mean I in theory understand why men will ask "What do strippers look for in men?", but to me it's like asking what kind of guys zookeepers and baristas are into.
    it's so true. out of my boyfriend, my ex boyfriend, and my fuck buddies before them, none of them fit that stereotype.

    my current one is open minded and hard working, he appreciates the finer things in life, one of which happens to be me. he doesn't shower me with presents, but i don't do that to him either. we're both super nerdy, but we also like to party hardy. we're weird. LOL.
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    Every dancer is different.

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    my type of guy is the type that treats me with respect. i have no 'specific' type, i have my preferences. those four theories apply can apply to any woman. yay for another generalization thread about what kind of men dancers like

    eta: btw why does it change while she's dancing? my 'type' is the same when i wasn't dancing and took a break from it...it's not like poof i'm a stripper again, me wants me a nice free-loading, abusive, non-faithful guy.
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    How about the free spirit with the free spirit?

    thats my situation now. im not using the label 'boyfriend', because labels are for yuppies, but the dude who i am currently seeing is definitely a free spirit type who likes to travel and likes adventure. thats definitely me too.

    but yea, hes open minded, not jealous... although as far as religion goes, i know he is conservative.

    i dated the stereotypes you listed BEFORE i started dancing. after i started dancing, i have had every type under teh sun ask me out and i have seen so many relationship disasters that i said fuck it, im the best so i only date the best .
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    Quote Originally Posted by sxcbbw View Post
    I mean I in theory understand why men will ask "What do strippers look for in men?", but to me it's like asking what kind of guys zookeepers and baristas are into.
    Dancers are in a unique category -- some men can't deal with having a dancer GF,... yet other men glorify dancers and would give up a limb to date one - it's more like asking what kind of guys models and actresses are into.

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    Nah...the two long-term boyfriends I had while dancing fit into none of your categories. I have, however, dated a lot of the musican/entertainer/freeloader types, but not seriously while I was a stripper.

    None of my boyfriends liked that I was a stripper, they all hated it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jack0177057 View Post
    Dancers are in a unique category -- some men can't deal with having a dancer GF,... yet other men glorify dancers and would give up a limb to date one - it's more like asking what kind of guys models and actresses are into.
    How men feel about strippers suddenly changes what men they like? Seriously, I am so confused.

    Models and actresses are all individuals as well. I honestly don't understand how "some men can't cope but some also really want to date that kind of person" suddenly means anything about what an individual goes for. To lump people together by profession is like putting us all by eye colour.

    As someone with grey eyes, I like slightly overweight men with neckbeards that play videogames, who are good with animals, computers, and logic, and possessive enough over me to let me know how they feel, but not so much I feel claustrophobic. In general, though I know we are all individuals, most grey-eyed women feel similarly about their men.
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    The only 1 type of guy all strippers like are those that hand us money while at work for dancing the bigger the bills the better.

    As for who we date that varies I personally like girls so no guy is my type when it comes to my personal life.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jack0177057 View Post
    My theory involves four character types (the artist/entertainer, the swinger/sexual adventurer, the bad boy and the freeloader), but I've been told I'm wrong about this.
    All those guys sounds shitty. A lot of girls do date musicians, but I think that's also because they can. Lots of non-strippers would probably like to date these guys too. Idk anything about a swinger/sexual adventurer, wtf. All women with low-self esteem go for "bad boys", completely not exclusive to strippers w/low-self esteem. And the freeloader? The only reason you think strippers date freeloaders more than other women is just that we can actually afford to support another person.

    I personally date mostly Wall St businessmen. I find it sexy when a guy has his shit together and gets up for work in the morning. They find me sexy so it all works out.

    Jack - why do you think about strippers so much and make up theories about who we date? You must really look down on us because the guys you think we date all suck. You forgot awesome, sweet, normal guys who just like us as a person and don't care about our job.

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    I have never dated those types of men. And never will, esp a free loader...fuck no!!

    I've dated the badboy type, but dropped them as soon as I find out they were "bad boys". If I knew he was a "bad-boy" from the beginning, i'd stay far the fuck away. I don't want a shithead as a BF. I'm better than that.

    For me personally, it is hard as fuck meeting a nice, genuine, quality guy in this business...esp in NYC. I rather be single for a while, rather than settling down just for the sake of it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jack0177057 View Post
    I know this question has been touched upon in other threads. I also know that every dancer is different. I am asking for a GENERALIZATION of what type(s) of guy MOST (not ALL) dancer's date WHILE (not before or after) they are in the dancing biz.

    Obviously, he has to be open-minded, not too religious, jealous or possessive. Are there any other personality or physical traits that are prevalent in the guys dancers' date?

    My theory involves four character types (the artist/entertainer, the swinger/sexual adventurer, the bad boy and the freeloader), but I've been told I'm wrong about this.
    Out of all of those, I've dated several artist/entertainers, but that was mostly because that's what I met in my previous job (radio). These were working professionals. I dated one freeloader and once I saw what he was about I ditched him. I'd never date either the bad boy or the swinger. This was true all during my dancing days as well. I never understood the dancers dating those guys.

    The guy I am seeing right now (or friends with depending on his day) isn't any of those. He's a monogamous, nice guy who has a job and doesn't expect me to support him. I met him at a club btw. My last few boyfriends were all the same.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jack0177057 View Post
    I know this question has been touched upon in other threads. I also know that every dancer is different. I am asking for a GENERALIZATION of what type(s) of guy MOST (not ALL) dancer's date WHILE (not before or after) they are in the dancing biz.
    Having met a number of dancer's bf's, I'll go for a nice sweeping generalization.

    Dancers prefer people that have absolutely no connection with the industry for boyfriends - i.e. if you frequent SC's, you have a minuscule chance of dating a dancer.

    Simples......

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    Jack - why do you think about strippers so much and make up theories about who we date? You must really look down on us because the guys you think we date all suck. You forgot awesome, sweet, normal guys who just like us as a person and don't care about our job.
    Not at all. I'm interested in female psychology. I've been on other female forums and made other offensive generalizations about other "types" of women... Even on this forum, I've made generalizations about high-powered professional women (that they career-focused and more likely than other women to be open to casual relationships that don't interfere with their long-term career ambitions, etc.). Seriously, generalizations offend people, but look around - everything we say or do is based on generalizations.

    If I say I'm a lawyer - you will make certain associations with that label based on generalizations. If I say I grew up poor - same thing. I say I'm Hispanic - same thing. All descriptive words trigger certain associations in the mind which are based on past experiences, i.e. generalizations. We would be lost without generalizations. The problem is how we use them - using them to discriminate is bad; using them to become more sensitive towards others is good.

    Why was SW created? Its creators generalized that dancers needed a forum where they can post comfortably about shared questions, experiences, work, etc. in a dancer-friendly setting. There are a lot of generalizations at play here - that other female forums are hostile and judgmental to dancers, that they will not be sensitive and understanding of dancer problems and situations, that dancers are more comfortable discussing work with other dancers, etc.

    Also, why do you think those guys in my classification suck? The only one that I consider negative is the freeloader. I consider myself somewhat of my bad boy and sexual adventurer (though not a swinger). I wish I was an artist/musician, but I have no talent.

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    You need a woman to tell you why the "bad boy" type is something smart women avoid?

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    Quote Originally Posted by jack0177057 View Post

    Also, why do you think those guys in my classification suck? The only one that is negative is the freeloader. I consider myself somewhat of my bad boy and sexual adventurer (though not a swinger). I wish I was an artist/musician, but I have no talent.
    Are you joking? Who the fuck wants to date a "bad boy"? Like I said, girls with low self-esteem. I seriously don't even understand what a bad boy is, I'd think some type of asshole.
    And sexual adventurer?? Wtf does that really mean too? I don't see what a person's sexual preferences have to do with who they are has a human being?
    The only okay one you mentioned is "artist", the other 3 are creep-o jerks. And you are right about it being similar to models, because models constantly date musicians as well. Like I said, I think most girls want to.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jack0177057 View Post
    Not at all. I'm interested in female psychology. I've been on other female forums and made other offensive generalizations about other "types" of women... Even on this forum, I've made generalizations about high-powered professional women (that they career-focused and more likely than other women to be open to casual relationships that don't interfere with their long-term career ambitions, etc.). Seriously, generalizations offend people, but look around - everything we say or do is based on generalizations.

    If I say I'm a lawyer - you will make certain associations with that label based on generalizations. If I say I grew up poor - same thing. I say I'm Hispanic - same thing. All descriptive words trigger certain associations in the mind which are based on past experiences, i.e. generalizations. We would be lost without generalizations. The problem is how we use them - using them to discriminate is bad; using them to become more sensitive towards others is good.

    Why was SW created? Its creators generalized that dancers needed a forum where they can post comfortably about shared questions, experiences, work, etc. in a dancer-friendly setting. There are a lot of generalizations at play here - that other female forums are hostile and judgmental to dancers, that they will not be sensitive and understanding of dancer problems and situations, that dancers are more comfortable discussing work with other dancers, etc.

    Also, why do you think those guys in my classification suck? The only one that I consider negative is the freeloader. I consider myself somewhat of my bad boy and sexual adventurer (though not a swinger). I wish I was an artist/musician, but I have no talent.
    Wow, so you analyze women and come up with these generalizations, that career women are more open to casual sex and dancers date those guys. Why are you interested in making generalizations against women, such as you mentioned women like men "in control". Generalizations suck and so do people who think because I do or did something I must like certain things.

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    Dancers are women, all women like different men, my non-dancer friends like different men to me, my dancer friends like different men to me. Its all relative to the individual.
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    On one hand, you accept that generalisation is bad and holds no accuracy, and on the other, you say everyone does it so whatever, go crazy.

    So uh, let's see. Ladies, can I get a show of hands for everyone that wants to date a "bad boy" wannabe psychoanalyst that bases their opinion of us on our work and wants to "take control"? Anyone?
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    I agree with each dancer is unique and generalizing, but here's what i look for:

    *Intelligent (typically has a bachelor's or higher) I will not date a man that works at Walmart and has no ambition.
    *Pays for dinner the first few months, then I'm ok with dutch
    *Animal lover. Sorry no hunters
    *No bad boys, been over that since high school
    * No ghetto, hillbilly, or extreme rocker types. ( you can like the music, but don't act or dress like it)
    * Outgoing, but doesn't crave attention. Optimistic
    *Makes me feel good about myself
    *Independent, has his own friends and does not live at home
    *doesn't brag or look down on others
    *Dresses well
    *Can adapt to various environments (can spend a night in a honkey tonk bar, yet is comfortable in an upscale martini bar)
    *Obviously good looking by my standards: Caucasian, above 5 '10 , not overweight, muscles are great ,but not a necessity. Clean hygiene, no facial hair, prefer short hair(think Ricki Martin hair) but will make exceptions
    * Will help around the house.
    * "Normal" in the bedroom. Not into swinging, threesomes, or extreme crazy fetishes

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    Quote Originally Posted by sxcbbw View Post
    On one hand, you accept that generalisation is bad and holds no accuracy, and on the other, you say everyone does it so whatever, go crazy.
    I said we have to rely on generalizations, because we have nothing else but past experiences and assumptions to go on. When I meet a person for the first time, I look for cues - what she is wearing, body language, what our meeting place is, what we talk about, etc. - and make generalizations. Then, as I get to know that person better, the generalizations are replaced with actual knowledge about that person.

    To say that generalizations holds "no accuracy" is ridiculous and impractical. Everything we do is based on generalizations. I generalize that doctors in hospitals are competent (though I know that many are not). I generalize that dancers will only give me a lapdance if I pay them. I generalize that women like to be treated a certain way and that slapping them in the back of their neck, like I do with my guy friends is not cool. Etc.

    Its bad, however, when you use generalizations to discriminate against people... but, that doesn't mean all generalizations are bad.

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    i like guys who know how to use thier penis, but dont brag about it haha, kind affectionate, playfull, time giving, thats it really. lol im simple.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jack0177057 View Post
    I said we have to rely on generalizations, because we have nothing else but past experiences and assumptions to go on.
    Generalizations only work when the experiences of those being grouped aggregates into something useful. I don't see my peers at work dating specific types of girls (shit, even I don't have a single type) - why would it be any different for dancers?

    So here's a generalization: they probably don't date guys who go to SCs frequently and post on message boards. If anything, they're probably stricter about guys not going to SCs since they know exactly what happens there. Besides that, same old stuff: honesty, intelligence, humor, commitment, etc...

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