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I'm gonna try to answer the OP's question. I'm pretty sure he asked what kind of men we THINK the general population of strippers go for, not who we specifically go for or whether or not we fit the generalization. So - on that note.
Judging by what I've seen in the different clubs I've worked in, I don't know that any ONE of your stereotypes fit. The MAJORITY of girls in my club are either single, or date boys with the following characteristics:
-insecure (loves bragging to his friends that she's a stripper, may even bring friends into the club, but then jealously makes her sit with him all night; or if he's not ITC, he'll call her repeatedly and fuck up her money, etc.)
-immature (jail time for retarded things, refusing to step up and help with kids, can't hold a steady job, etc.)
KS_Stevia is right - the majority of these girls are in the 20's and have NO idea what to really look for in a relationship. Even the older girls ... well, some of them just didn't "grow up" and are too busy living a party lifestyle.
On StripperWeb, you're going to find much more intelligent women. I doubt a many of us are dating/seeing/married to a man who fits YOUR stereotypes. I'm certainly not.
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...sweet things alone are not enough. Seduce me with more fire."








I don't completely disagree with your points, they have a great deal of validity. I'm constantly observing people behavior influenced by reptile brain. And I've totally fallen for the guy which you speak of, the "non-monogamous" male. Others are flat out bashing you, but I've been respectful. No need to call me out.
And yoda and I don't agree on everything, but we agree on a lot of things. I wouldn't cover for yoda for no reason. This is all just theoretical discourse.



Dated? Relationships? LOL Are you crazy? For one thing, its a community property state. I will skip the other 9 reasons. Now if you're asking if the opportunity has been presented to me, yes, dozens of times, but its not why I go to strip clubs. Now I realize perhaps yourself and many other customers believe clubs are a dating service of some type, well actually they are not. I think of clubs as offering uncomplilcated no strings attached limited duration interaction with a large variety of women, some quite beautiful. When I am in a club, its nearly always dayshift, and half the time its probably just pay-for-talk,. meaning its really about socializing, having a drink, some laughs and so forth. While some might be called "club friends" I don't think of them as "real life" friends, nor do I solicit them for something outside the club. They make money from me, sometimes lots of it, and since they are usually happy, I am happy. I am sure there are many other customers like me, they just don't get discussed too much in this forum.
I didn't say there wasn't any chemistry, I've been attracted to him since i first saw him. We definetly have chemestry. I'm just being cautious and not letting him control when and how I work. We have so much fun together, last night we went to the Met game and had a blast although it was very cold and windy it was the most enjoyable night at a game. He had to pick his kids up this morning otherwise I would still be at his place.





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Please don't take this the wrong way...but I expect most dancers have boyfriends or are married to blue collar types willing to put up with a lot of crap.
If there are any who are involved with engineers, lawyers, or doctors, I would be surprised.
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You're making it sound like we have to take the bottom feeders. Personally, being a dancer has made me MUCH pickier. Only the newbie dancers that barely last a few months (and a few lifers who are sad and pathetic) take those low-life's you mentioned, and it isn't related to them dancing, they are only dancing BECAUSE of their other problems/addictions/idiocies.
My personal type, is and always has been, funny, goofy, self-confident, and hella smart. I like men who have their shit together, make a comfortable living and treat me well. Losers need not apply....neither should anyone I met while dacing. I'll admit I also like a whole lotta kink thrown in there. I know, I know, BIIG suprise!This was before, during and after dancing....not related to it at all. While I wouldn't say I'm into swinging, I'm certainly fond of open relationships. Strangely, I feel about a 1000X's more secure that way....and having permission to find a gf is AWESOME!
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"I hear you calling and it's needles and pins. I wanna hurt you just to hear you screaming my name...You're poision. but I don't wanna break these chains.... I wanna love you but I'd better not touch."
The ignorance in this thread is astounding!!
I never fucking dated a blue collar guy!! Are you kidding me!?!?? Drs...check. Lawyers...check. IT professionals...check. And my own personal kryptonite....middle aged buisnessmen, financial analysts in particular...check.
I just left my hubby, moved out of our 4000+ sq ft McMansion, sold my Beemer and just recovered my 3ct solitare and diamond encrusted wedding band last weekend. Yep, a poor blue collar guy there.
Stop being an ignorant moron.
"I hear you calling and it's needles and pins. I wanna hurt you just to hear you screaming my name...You're poision. but I don't wanna break these chains.... I wanna love you but I'd better not touch."
Need I point out that some of the dancers here are qualified or about to be qualified in those fields? Well, obviously. Consider it done.
You don't seem to be very clued up on dancers, Johnny.
My partner is certainly not blue collar, and has a very low bullshit tolerance.
Get the fuck off my harbl, yo'.




and with statements like these, it's like we all have boyfriends...some girls aren't even straight and some choose to stay single (like me). unfortunately, between dancing and my own personal standards, i have remained single...i avoid those stereotypes like the black plague...when i was younger i made those mistakes of dating those stereotypes and i wasn't even dancing at that time. which only further reiterates the points made that women in their early 20's generally date those stereotypes regardless of their job, whether their job is being a student or a stripper. bashing head against the wall now and exiting this thread.




Not gonna dip my toes into this thread (I think you can apply certain stereotypes to women, but not by profession), except to note that I see real and significant parallels between what you say here, and the "men SAY they don't like fake boobs, but they really do" in the fake boobs thread.
^I think it's because men/women don't like boobs/men they KNOW are fake/cheating, but they often just don't know.
Get the fuck off my harbl, yo'.





I've dated both blue collar and white collar and don't get why this is even being brought up. It means nothing. I wouldn't put up with crap from anyone. By "blue collar" if you mean fat slobs, no I'd never date one of those guys. In fact I love my men nerdy, whether blue or white collar means nothing to me as long as I don't have to support him.
married for 10 years to a Senior IT professional. Who is on the fast track to really succeed big in this company. I have also been retired for a year this week.
He's also, when at home, a pierced/tatted techno dj type. Surfer and gamer too.
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What's wrong with blue collar types? A skilled technician can make more money and have better job security than an office professional, depending on the trade.
Besides, exotic dancing would be categorized as a blue-collar type of job. My contractor makes a shit load more money than my attorney, actually. Just an example. Blue collar guys tend to make excellent customers as well, particularly the ones that own their own businesses. They deal in cash only, and work flexible hours so they can come in during slow shift times and spend. Plus they tend to take their workers out and buy them dances to after they finish up jobs.
Many blue-collar jobs also tend to be more resistant to the recession than professional gigs. The guy who just did some plumbing repairs in my house is making more money than my financial advisor. And he's pretty happy not having to sit behind a desk all day.
The guys I dated during my time as a stripper were all white collar, responsible guys. Only since I've retired have I dated a blue-collar type guy, and that person is "blue collar" by choice.





^^^ I think it was the way he said it - "blue collar types willing to put up with a lot of crap." He was probably referring to the low-skilled unmotivated "blue collar" workers working for minimum wage and with low self-esteem issues.
The "blue-collar" workers that you describe are a different breed - they are self-employed entrepeneurial types with a lot of ambition and drive. I refer to them as "small business owners" or "entrepeneurs", instead of "blue collar workers". I've known and represented several millionaires who accumulated their wealth on "blue collar" trades/businesses, like janitorial services, construction, hairstyling salons, autoshops, restaurants, etc.
Also, I don't think a dancer is "blue collar", unless she is a prostitute, which is a blue collar trade. I think the non-prostitute dancer falls into the category of entertainment/artist/performer.
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