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    Does dating a customer ever work out? I just started dancing recently, and I met some really sweet and charming guys. Some of them turned out to be roommates which made the next morning a little weird. But they didn't seem to be jealous and it's nothing serious yet.

    I'm terrible at hustling but it's nice to meet nice people.

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    I hope you're being serious.

    Personally I would never date any customers!

    Rather than focusing your energy on meeting "nice people" I would work on my HUSTLE and focus on meeting those nice peoples' wallets.

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    I smell a troll

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    I don't ever get involved with customers. I've seen dancer date them... even marry them and have kids - but they are ALL now divorced.
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    I recently started, and HELL NO. Never in the world I would date a guy who got a dance off me. Ever!

    Im there for money not to meet anyone.

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    Obvious troll is obvious

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    can someone explain to me why guys troll like this? is it because they're actually asking questions they think we have answers to that they want to hear? like, are they really that naive or are they just trying to stir shit?

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    Ok, I'll bite. Yes I am dating/friends with a former customer. However, this isn't a common thing. Out of all the years I danced, this is the only time this happened. I was dancing in this no contact bikini pastie club and he often came in. You know how every club has the guy who all the girls love because he doesn't ask for much but does favors? That was him. He often came in looking to indulge in his fantasy, foot massages. Being that I love foot massages I got to know him. As time went on, I would often spend time with him and he paid me. He came in more and more to see me. We'd start talking non sexual things such as interests, hobbies, etc. I knew this was someone I'd like if I had met somewhere else. At the time he asked me out, but felt it was a little awkward. Several months later I had quit and was living with another dancer from the club. I had asked her to invite him over (she knew him) and he came over. Eventually I moved and we stayed in touch for a few years. He really wanted to date me, and I did then but had just gotten out of an emotionally abusive relationship. At times he got too close, and I got scared and pushed him away. I told him I wanted to be friends, but in reality I imagined us getting married and having kids. He would mention he hoped we got married and had kids too. Sadly, we lost connection for about 10 years, and all during that time I tried looking for him.

    Finally, last December, I found him on Facebook. We chatted on the phone for hours and felt a strong connection. That night I dreamt I married him. We saw each other and sparks flew. We couldn't stop touching, kissing and hugging and he asked me to date only him. Sounds great right? However, then he started pulling the same things I pulled earlier, that he doesn't want to get serious, that we have to slow it down. He's afraid we'll go too fast, have sex, and I'll get pregnant. Though we haven't had sex yet, he's afraid this will happen. Like me, he doesn't rush into sex. My only fear is that though he once couldn't wait to marry me and have children, now he claims he doesn't want that. He did though so he could still want it, but he's scared having come out of a terrible previous relationship where she used him.

    Will it work out? I hope so. I've always felt he was my soul mate, always. He's the only guy I've imagined having a baby with and marrying. When I lost contact I was so afraid I'd find out he was married. He wasn't. Every night I pray that it works out because I've always loved him and he always loved me.

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    Met my current boyfriend at a club - he came in one day just for a beer (we have the bar/stage area sepreated by some columns so some guys come in just to drink and see pretty girls - frustrating!). Anyways day shift was slow, 2 other girls working, and we got to having great conversation and I absolutely fell for him. He came in a few more times and i eventually gave him my number and here we are with a baby on the waaaaaay!
    Just make sure you can differentiate charming guys/regulars. Collect cute boys to come spend time with you at the club.

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    I appreciate the honest answers and I'm sorry I sound like a troll. My question was really meant to be an honest one. I'm just starting and I'm not comfortable asking guys for their money, so I end up talking and some guys seem really nice and understanding.

    I know what they're probably after, but sometimes it's nice just to not feel scared and intimidated. Anyway, I'm sorry.

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    Dont apologize - tons of gorgeous, awesome guys come in the club - but consider, most are there for a reason. I used to get caught up in it a lot, but remember this is YOUR JOB. You probably get attention outside of the club anyways, but just say something like "i love dancing for guys as gorgeous as you, you should let me test you out?" or something, idk, flatter them bc its a win-win, you get to grind on a sexy guy and get paid!

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    what the fuck?

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    I have recently gone out with one customer that I connected with. I promised myself that I would never see a customer OTC, but this friendship is working out. The second date I established ground rules or else I wouldn't see him anymore.

    Don't come into the club when I'm working unless I call you.
    Don't ask me out on nights I work.

    I treat my guy like a potential regular boyfriend and not a customer now like I would treat any man in real life. We have great chemestry and if I had met him otc at a bar I would have been attracted to him if he approached me. The difference between him and other customers to my best knowledge is that he is not a regular customer of strip clubs that it was one of the few times he has been to a strip club. None of the girls at my club even recognize him. We live pretty close and doing my snooping he seems to be a truthful guy, I haven't caught him in any lies and he has followed through on everything he says, basically he's been a gentlemen something that I need at this time in my life and were having fun. Time will tell.

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    My stand on this is that the men that come in are pathetic and disgusting and some hide it better then others. I would never date a customer.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lyanna View Post
    I appreciate the honest answers and I'm sorry I sound like a troll. My question was really meant to be an honest one. I'm just starting and I'm not comfortable asking guys for their money, so I end up talking and some guys seem really nice and understanding.

    I know what they're probably after, but sometimes it's nice just to not feel scared and intimidated. Anyway, I'm sorry.
    Don't be sorry, it's just that most dancers are so used to this question and get it often from guys. Many guys come into the clubs either for sex or to date so to be a successful dancer you have to learn how to separate dating from clubs. I do want to stress though that my situation is not common and after many years of dancing at clubs and parties this is the only time this happened, though I've been asked out by many guys. Why him? I don't know it's one of those things that happened and not sure why. Maybe because he never treated me as nothing short of a girl just doing a job. He never thought I was easy, nor did he ever ask for anything sexual. Even so, we'll always be under some sort of secrecy. Neither my parents nor his can ever know where we met (we tell everyone we met at a restaurant I waitressed at). Any children we have can never know the truth either.
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    I wouldn't date a strip club regular but I'd date a regular guy who just came in once in a blue moon (ie for a bachelor party or his friends dragged him for their birthday party or something along those lines). I was never attracted to a customer but one night I saw a beautiful angel beaming in the corner I swear he must have had a halo over his head because he really shined above the 1000 other guys (literally) in the room, and him having long beautiful shoulder length hair didn't hurt. Anyways I immediately sat on his lap before any other girl could get to him and talked to him gave him some lapdances, exchanged numbers then dated him. I would never do that again that was a special circumstance. I still talk to him I have dreams about him, he lives somewhere else now but he'll be back.

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    I met this one gorgeous geeky lookin custie,
    He seemed nice n charming, and wanted to meet sometime away from my work.
    But heeelll that'll be awkward!

    But anyway... I wouldn't date anyone...

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    it is possible that this job is not for you if you keep letting your personal pleasure get in the way- one of the important factors of sales is that you have to seperate your professional self from you personal self. this is a self govern job and you must keep your eye on the prize always.

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    Meh, I've seen it work. A friend of mine, after dating a guy she met in the club for many years, married him, and they just had a kid. You can tell they belong together, regardless of how they met.

    I definitely would NOT recommend it in general, as the positive stories are far outnumbered by the negative ones, but, you know, sometimes it can work.



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