



"Peter, did you take Stewie to a strip-club? He smells like sweat and fear." - Lois and Stewie (Family Guy) ... "Through early morning fog I see, Visions of the things to be, The pains that are withheld for me, I realize and I can see..."
I don't get why all the males feel this is a "bashfest." Yeah I was fucking pissed at my husband, but I did find SOME of the male posts helpful. I may disagree with some of the things said, but some of it did make me think a bit, so therefore it was helpful I guess.
The biggest problem I had with it, is because he knows how I feel about extras and he spent the most money on the girl who would provide them. I'm angrier at that than the fact that he did the extra. If I was a regular "ignorant" housewife, I would probably be less mad. When people consider extras "standard" during lapdances, its made me a bit jaded and sad. I have totally forgiven my hubby and I know that he would never do anything to intentionally hurt me. My hubby is obviously not as perfect as I thought he was, but he is a great guy and an awesome father and hubby.
Just to prove my point, I did find this by WC to be helpful to me. I did bitch my husband out for shit he "could have done, was thinking about doing, might have done," etc. It was fucked up and I'll admit that I may have possibly been so mad that there is slight chance that I could have possibly been sort of a teeny bit wrong for doing so![]()
^^Yup. I agree. I don't think all the guys on this board are lame or dicks, even those who happen to disagree with this thread. Sure there are some who appear to be dicks IMO, there are dancers here who appear to be idiot cunt twats as well. I wanted some input from a male customer perspective, so it was posted in CC.





Ah... that is the nexus of it.
No one is perfect. Not you, not your husband. The question becomes how best to be imperfect together.
Great relationships aren't measured by their peaks, but their valleys. Its very easy to love someone when everything is going well. It's when times get a bit rough for some reason or another that a relationship gets its metal tested.
If you two truly talked this one out and have come to a mutual point of understanding about what went on, how it went sideways, how to keep it from going sideways again, without losing trust for each other; you have dealt with an adversity and come out the better for it on the other side.
I wish both of you well...
Fiat justitia, pereat mundus.
BTW, while we are on the subject, is it needed to point out the obvious: That it is just possible that if you are willing to judge the worth of someone simply by what you read on a website about them it might say a whole hell of a lot more about you than it says about the person you are judging?





Fiat justitia, pereat mundus.
BTW, while we are on the subject, is it needed to point out the obvious: That it is just possible that if you are willing to judge the worth of someone simply by what you read on a website about them it might say a whole hell of a lot more about you than it says about the person you are judging?



Nice of you to say that.
Now on this "thinking of doing" issue
Do you know what males think of (either consciously or subconsciously) for example just walking throught a shopping mall?
The first is avoiding threats, (thus increasing survival odds) and that's usually going to come from other males, meaning we are aware of other males only to the extent necessary to protect ourselves (and perhaps women or children with us) from these potential harms, and since shopping malls are generally 70 plus percent females, its already a relatively safe environment for males. Keep in mind this an evolutioinary device (in a modern context in practical terms unnecessary) but since genes fail to understand modern constructs, they are always in operation, unless the guy is a total stoner or a moron.
The second thing we do (consciously and subconsciously) is to size up nearly every fertile age female within 100 feet, also an evolutionary mating device, completely irrelevant today, but its a legacy from an earlier timeframe when the most successful seed spreaders (e.g Alphas) were constantly sizing up potential mating opportunities.
Due to this mating instinsct, we are all the time doing "what ifs" "what positions?" looking at the shape, all sort of things, extraordinary details with literally 100's of different women JUST walking throught a mall one afternoon. We cannot shut this device off, its impossible and it was put there for a reason, survival of the species
Men think about sex all the time, we were designed that way.
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