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    Default Goodbye stripping :(

    Well finally after 5 years of dancing I quit. I'd had enough a long time ago, I'd lost my confidence, hating talking to guys and was drinking heavily or taking drugs to make work bearable. The dancing itself I loved but the chatting to guys and selling it I hated. It makes me sad because when I started I loved it, I'd count down the hours until work every night. But somewhere along the way I lost it and have been very unhappy for a while. I've gone from being super slim to being one of the biggest girls at my club and although I know the customers still thought I was hot, I felt too self conscious.

    Now I've just started waitressing at the same club, it seems to suit me much better. I feel a lot less pressure now I don't have to close sales and talk to guys who clearly have no interest in me. I'm making better tips, more than some of the dancers and certainly more than I would have been making if I was still dancing. Plus the hourly wage will be a nice bonus when I look at my bank statement cos it still feels like I'm just working for tips. I'm surprised, I don't miss the dancing even when I see the other girls on stage, instead I think it's better left to the girls with awesome bodies. Even though I was often told I was really hot on stage I didn't feel it and I prefer being damn near invisible to the customers!! Sure I still have to deal with douchebags but their rudeness is much easier to brush off and feels much less personal. Overall I'm finding it far more physically demanding than dancing, i'm aching all over but it's better for my mind.

    I still wish I had what it takes to be a stripper but the sad truth is I don't. Im too shy, sensitive, self conscious and not nearly ruthless enough. The only problem is I now feel a lack of identity, I've been jenna the stripper for so long and it feels weird just being jenna the waitress. I was always proud to say I was a dancer even if secretly I hated it. Never say never of course, maybe one day il get back my smoking body and a whole load of confidence, but for now I feel a lot more comfortable just waitressing in the club.

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    Default Re: Goodbye stripping :(

    Your mind is more important than your body. It sounds like you are making the right decision to keep a healthy mind. You danced for 5 years. That is awesome. Be proud of yourself and onwards and upwards from here.

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    Thank you, that makes me feel better. Plus I'm moving to Australia in June and don't wanna dance in Brisbane cos of the touching so I figure I better grab myself some waitress experience so I can find a job quickly!

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    Default Re: Goodbye stripping :(

    I'm glad your happy - that's what's important.
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    Default Re: Goodbye stripping :(

    CONGRATULATIONS on doing what is BEST for YOU

    Believe it or not, it took a lot of courage for you to stop dancing and start waitressing. Good for you! I've seen too many dancers throughout my years of dancing ... and have met some recently ... that hate dancing but will not quit and get a different job. The transition may not be easy, but anything worthwhile in life is not easy ... we have to work hard and earn it.

    Enjoy your new job and your new life in Australia!

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    Default Re: Goodbye stripping :(

    Like the saying goes "you gotta do what you gotta do" and it sounds like you've made the right choice.... congratulations to you! If that's you in your avatar btw...you're gorgeous!

    You mentioned "Im too shy, sensitive, self conscious and not nearly ruthless enough. The only problem is I now feel a lack of identity"

    My next question to was: Do you think that there's a certain personality trait that dancers must have in order to be successfull doing this, besides the obvious, friendly, outgoing...anybody have any thoughts on this???

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    Default Re: Goodbye stripping :(

    Im in the same boat as you!
    I stopped dancing about 9 months ago, while I was doing other sex work.. I got burned out on as well... I tried to dance and I just couldnt do it! I tried three different times, tried to get pumped up, drinking and it didnt help.. I hated, I feel degraded when I would dance for a dollar, and I just couldnt make a sale!

    I went back and forth from dancing to waitressing three times in one week! There is alot of girls that say they want to go back to shot girl or waitress but the club wont let them because they dont need waitresses.. so I told them I was like look, I tried many things to dance but I just cant do it any more.. Id love to waitress here because I love this place and the people that work here. I said if I cant waitress, Ill just have to go somewhere else, and they said since they gave me so many chances that they want me to find a dancer with in a month that will come to work for the club.. so I thought that was far since they dont even need waitress..

    I am just going to focus on keeping my eye on customers.. and I am also going to do webcam.. if you want to talk you can always PM me! good luck girl!!


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