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    I should explain..he came in the club with a group of marines..his friend made eye contact with me first so that's who I zero'ed in on for the sale. T was next to me and said hey aren't you gonna talk to me? I turned and saw gorgeousness times 1000. We started talking and I didn't try to sell a private show, I just really enjoyed talking to him. They weren't there for very long..he told me he doesn't usually go to strip clubs it's just a guy thing (insert smile..yeah right)

    he didnt see me on stage in fact he said he would be back later but I asked him to not come back into the club to watch me work. We've been texting nonstop and are going to see each other this weekend, outside the club. He is getting to know me, not the stripper..I dig it

    this happened to anyone else? meeting a potential at work?

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    yes. we met online first, and he came to work to meet me. i moved in 3 days later, and now we are engaged, are very in love, and have a beautiful son!

    it does happen, people!

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    this is a common mistake that most new dancers make.

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    I did this ONCE and he was my BF for two years. I fell in love the second I saw him... Unfortunately!
    It was a very up and down relationship and ended badly.

    Immediately he expected me to quit and constantly put me down b/c of dancing. I was weak and didn't have the self confidence to know better.
    I wasn't allowed to work and yet he frequented another SC... Actually an *ahem* extras club...

    Never again. NEVER.

    But I'm sure some people make it work. There are always exceptions!
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    I've seen it happen and fail. I've never seen a relationship where the people met in the club last more than 5 years. I've seen couples get married, and then divorced.
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    my only personal connection that i have with a customer is i had a young military guy come in and spend over a G on me right before being deployed. We had a lot of strange similar childhood experiences, so we ended up keeping in touch. He is now my military penpal and we write back and forth periodically.

    but im not dating him. be wary of dating customers, it doesnt usually end well. i think there are a couple of girls on this site who have had good experiences, but they are the minority.
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    what happened to me, is that I found a custy i liked, but then he became too controlling and tried to get me to stop stripping.

    when I work, I have little crushes on custies all the time. enjoy them while they are there, take their money, and get over it. that's my advice.

    but rarely, it does work out. good luck!
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    Since you met him in the club, you will always just be a stripper to him. My suggestion is to run like Hell.
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    crap. well i won't have any high expectations. he is young..and he wasn't a custy (i should rephrase title) in fact he didnt stay to watch the girls dance. we'll see.. i'll cut to the chase and see how he feels

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    ps Athena he's military

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    this is part of my problem with newbie dancers. some guy wanders into the bar, says he wants to get to know the real you, and now.....whatever. i think this is why veterans are so wary of helping new dancers.

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    Quote Originally Posted by camille27 View Post
    this is part of my problem with newbie dancers. some guy wanders into the bar, says he wants to get to know the real you, and now.....whatever. i think this is why veterans are so wary of helping new dancers.

    I agree. I see many new girls blur the line between work and play, however, I also see plenty of veterans do it. We are in the club for one purpose only; to make money. I was taught to never shit where I eat.
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    Heres a different spin. He came in one time, you didn't dance for him, he never saw you on stage is he really a "custie"?

    I am really really good friends with a guy I met at the club (obviously not more since Im not available). He has never bought me a dance or even tipped me. I just talked to him one day and we connected as friends. I think we are the same age, but we might be a year or two apart. He buys me drinks all the time, but I would buy him one if we weren't at my work. The only reason he really even goes there is because everywhere in Sydney is ridiculously hard for men to get into... lol everyone wants their bar full of hot girls. I would never ever consider this guy a "customer" and he is at my work almost every time I am there. My "customers" spend money on me.

    I say why not see where it leads. It doesn't hurt to go on a few dates and feel out what he feels about your profession and take it from there.

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    wow, some of you girls are really negative! I am not a newbie stripper by any means, and I wasn't ever one to blur the lines between work and play. When it hits you, it hits you, no matter what.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Corgan View Post
    wow, some of you girls are really negative! I am not a newbie stripper by any means, and I wasn't ever one to blur the lines between work and play. When it hits you, it hits you, no matter what.
    I was just thinking the same thing!

    Now, granted - the way I met my fiance ITC was a little more than him being sleezy and saying, "I wanna get to know you." and me being all starstruck and leaving with him. It took several weeks of me talking to him and him buying dances before I was the one who told him I really wanted to get to know him and offering my name and number. We had several mutual friends through the computer scene so we each knew the other was more or less trustworthy. We took it very slow, and in the beginning he STILL came ITC and spent money on me. No problems here - I still dance, and he's still very supportive, and I don't freak out when he buys dances from other girls at my club.

    I wasn't a NEW dancer when I met AJ, but I wouldn't exactly call myself a veteran. I always tell girls that my situation IS NOT the norm! I see so many newbie girls go head over heels for some sleezebag pickup artist and it's really sad. But for those of us who are a good judge of character and are careful, it's like Corgan said: When it hits you, it hits you. No matter what.
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    Jessie yes this is it right here, I didn't even try to hustle him...there was a big group of them and I was already talking to his friend. never saw me dance, never paid me to take my top off, left after a few minutes, etc

    i'm a new dancer but im not unrealistic..i know the problems this could bring about.

    well he's being deployed next month so it could be just a new friend

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    Heres a different spin. He came in one time, you didn't dance for him, he never saw you on stage is he really a "custie"?

    I am really really good friends with a guy I met at the club (obviously not more since Im not available). He has never bought me a dance or even tipped me. I just talked to him one day and we connected as friends. I think we are the same age, but we might be a year or two apart. He buys me drinks all the time, but I would buy him one if we weren't at my work. The only reason he really even goes there is because everywhere in Sydney is ridiculously hard for men to get into... lol everyone wants their bar full of hot girls. I would never ever consider this guy a "customer" and he is at my work almost every time I am there. My "customers" spend money on me.

    I say why not see where it leads. It doesn't hurt to go on a few dates and feel out what he feels about your profession and take it from there.

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    ladies, negative or not i appreciate all the responses, i appreciate the honesty and a smack upside the head as needed.

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    I think every relationship is different. I thought I would never date a customer and although we met at my club he's not a frequent SC customer. Just be honest with him and yourself and see how things work out, take it one day at a time.

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    I've posted this before and here goes again. Right now I am either friends with or am dating a former customer. I know this sounds weird, but I don't think he knows what he wants (no, we aren't sleeping together). I love him, but whether we have the happily ever after (or just remains friends) remains to be seen. I've always known he was the one, but in reality that may never happen. That aside, this is an extremely rare case. He's not (and never was) one of those guys who comes into the clubs to date a dancer. He's a nerd and this is obvious when people meet him. We became club friends when we started talking nerd things. At the one club we met at he was the guy who came into to get his fix (his fix being foot fetish) and all the dancers at the club liked him because he was generally "that guy". You know the one, the guy that does favors for the dancers, including driving them places. He was always respectful and never asked for extras. Even now he hasn't asked me for sex (I've offered various forms but he's shy about sex of any sort). He doesn't frequent clubs anymore, nor do I dance at clubs anymore. Out of all the years I danced this happened ONCE. I should mention as well this was a no contact club and it was bikini. If it had been more contact or nudity I probably wouldn't have been interested. At this point I had been dancing a year or so.

    Having said all of that, there are issues that we'd have to face if we were to get married or have kids. My parents nor his parents will never know the real way we met. His mother is a very devout Italian Catholic mother and he's told me that she'd think I was a slut if she knew I was a dancer (and inappropriate to bear her grandchildren). My parents would think he was a sleaze if they knew he loved feet (and that I've let him suck on my toes, massage my feet and paint my toes). Any children we would have could never know the true story. I don't dance in clubs anymore, and rarely do bachelor parties, but if I did still actively dance I'm pretty sure I'd quit if it got serious. Both of us are pretty boring people sexually so I don't think there would be an issue of cheating on either side, but both of us are older and hopefully wiser.

    I know several dancers who married customers. None of them have worked out because of various issues. Will we work out? I don't know. I know I am realistic and know most of the dancer/customer relationships I know didn't work out.

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    I can't personally speak to this from personal experience, however, I would like to comment from what I have seen amongst the people I know.

    First, remember, how many people date before a relationship turns serious? How many serious relationships don't make it to marriage? How many marriages end up in divorce? I'm not saying that to scare you, merely to remind everyone that the path from a single individual to a happy marriage is a long one and the percentages are not high (yes, I am a math geek ).

    As for the customer-dancer moving to a more serious relationship, I have no idea what the percentages are. About 20 years ago, I had this opportunity with a very attractive girl when I lived in Atlanta. I knew that I was just not mature enough to handle that relationship. She was not an escort and did not extras, but I wasn't comfortable with the scene. I'd suggest that you have a sit down discussion with him about this outside of your club and talk. I did this with my friend and we remained very good friends after that.

    The interesting thing is what I have seen amongst the people I know. I have known of 5 dancer-customer relationships.

    One couple has been together for about 3 years. He's a little bit older than her, heck he's about 15 years older than her. He understands the scene. He went in to see her and asked her out after the third time. She accepted.

    Another couple met in Seattle. He told me that he went into a club, saw a girl, talked to her, tipped her very little, and then asked her out. She accepted. 20 years later, they are married with children and live in Denver.
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