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    Default Re: Should I quit stripping ?

    You're still new to this. You need to look at what you are averaging and figure out if it's more than what you'd make at a regular job. If it is, give it some more time.
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    As someone in the same situation, I'd advise you to think of another way to cope. While I haven't started stripping yet, I audition this week, and if I've learned anything from the many helpful women of this site, it's that you can't harbor that anger or it'll slowly eat you alive. Maybe if you're just unhappy with your hustle, read up a bit before you decide whether or not it's worth fixing, but if you want to stop just for your bfs sake, then evaluate that a little more. I know a lot of us are drawn to this industry for the chance to make quick cash by using our natural or enhanced sex appeal, but don't sacrifice your mental/spiritual health for a few extra dollars. If you think a more traditional career is for you, then follow your heart. You can always go back to exotic dance if that doesn't work out *hugs*

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    For what it's worth, I'm envious of you...I'm envious of the fact that you're dancing...you've been dancing for a month but at least you're trying!

    I can't even muster the "courage" to go and even audition and the one time I did, I got turned down b/c of my age. I'm 42...Talk about feeling rejected!

    The only advice I can suggest is to just look at it as a business, you're there to make money and pay the bills.

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    ^^^ Plenty of men love women who are older than most of the girls in the club. They like women that are more refined, and to not feel like they are getting a dance from their daughter/niece/granddaughter etc. If you don't find a club willing to hire you then look into private dancing.
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    No prob Zippy :] It's just that as women we tend to think of how our decisions affect others rather than how they well affect ourselves. If those headaches are still going on, eat an apple, its more likely to cure that than aspirin or ibuprofen would. (I'm gonna make the call to arrange my audition, I'm so nervous)

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    Lady I have seen your pics and you are gorgeous! You would bank where I work and actually look very similar to a girl I already work with. Sounds like you just need some more confidence. I was a bit like you the first time I tried dancing. I went back a few years later and did a lot better mainly because I am a lot more of a confident person now. What about trying stripper wealth?

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    A month isn't that long. You need more time to find your style and adjust. It may be that it's not for you, but I wouldn't just walk away yet. It took me a good 6mos to chill and be comfortable. Hopefully the bf is giving you support not just demanding you quit. Like anything else, you need to learn your way around and it sounds like you have a good start.
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    I went through a time dancing, actually two months, where I was making shit money. I was angry, didnt want to go into work, and was automatically hating the guys I was talking to before I ever even asked for a dance. This reflected in my money. We all have times like these in the job where we seriously wonder if it is worth it.

    You have only been dancing a little awhile so I would give it another chance, talk to the other dancers, maybe look into another club. When I was going through this time, I took the dancerwealth courses online and it gave me more confidence and helped my hustle tremendously. Just having took the course, and watching a few videos before work helped me go into work happier because I felt prepared to take on whatever type of guy walked in the club. If that is not an option, they have a free podcast on itunes also that helps.

    Just remember that all guys are not evil and even though you have to deal with assholes at work, you still have a good one waiting at home for you that is supportive of your decisions.
    Dont let working around girls that are prettier than you bring you down eaither. They have been doing it longer and have built up a better hustle. There are girls at my club who dont really fit into the "beautiful, or even very pretty" standard and they make more money than I do because they hustle, and they make the custies feel like a friend.

    I hope you get out of this rut soon. If you really dont like dancing maybe you could waitress? What helped me alot was getting in good with the waitresses, whenever they would bring me over to a table of guys that bought dances, I would always give them a tip based on how many dances the guys got. Starting out I tipped them $5 for every dance to get their attention:. Now I have waitresses talking me up at table before I even get there and they introduce me to the customers and it helps break the ice for me

    Im sorry you are going through this, I know it feels like shit going in when you dont want to do this anymore. *hug"*

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    Default Re: Should I quit stripping ?

    I think you might be over-thinking it a little. If you're happy with the money you're making, then don't stress about your hustle. You hustle so you can make more money, but if you're already making the $$$ then hustle isn't needed.

    Figure out if you could cover your expenses doing another job. There may be some other jobs you could work that would cure loneliness and not make your boyfriend that upset. Like Bartender, or babysitting - both have flexible hours and involve interacting with people.



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    ^ Happy to hear you've come to a decision. I hope this break works out for you, and you find something else you love to curb your loneliness. XOXO!



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    Default Re: Should I quit stripping ?

    Keep track of your exact hours on the computer with your exact earnings each night. Calculate your average over a few weeks. Keep in mind that you can make $12-$20 an hour bartending with clothes on. Decide if it's worth it based on your averages OR try another club+keeping in touch with your regs better to get higher averages.

    Oh nevermind ........... ( sorry ... I just scanned the replies ) . You are taking a breather.

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    Default Re: Should I quit stripping ?

    Girl you sound just like me!!
    I have a boyfriend and 1 friend and barely go out.
    I went to a club once and stopped, I was getting jealous that other girls were making alot of money tooo, but I also didnt have the tricks that they had...
    I dont know I took this year long break and still regret not going back so Im going to get back into it and do my dang and make my money.
    Maybe you need a friend at work it may make your days go by faster!!

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    based on your other posts, i remember that right now your boyfriend is taking a percentage of your earnings-- thats no good. i think you should quit him immediately. then maybe try dancing for a week in a setting where yo udont worry about your boyfreind getting mad and where you get to keep all of your money. see how you feel after taht.
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    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Athenathefabulous View Post
    based on your other posts, i remember that right now your boyfriend is taking a percentage of your earnings-- thats no good. i think you should quit him immediately. then maybe try dancing for a week in a setting where yo udont worry about your boyfreind getting mad and where you get to keep all of your money. see how you feel after taht.
    Agree!! If you're making money to support yourself, and enjoy doing it- then you're set! If your boyfriend is telling you to quit, and taking your money..well, I agree, its time to quit HIM. I only started dancing a month and a half ago also and trying a few different clubs since each club doesn't like giving a lot of shifts to girls (and its all schedule based)- maybe try other clubs, and keeping your OWN money will make things better

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    "What's the difference between Aspirin and a stripper's boyfriend?"

    Aspirin works.

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