I wanted to write a little about the situation I'm in.
I have been dancing since the age of 18 (I'm almost 22). I never really had many
close friends becuase I left high school at the age of 16.
I worked at a nude club for three years with girls mostly in my age rage (18-20). I was always social and friendly with the staff, waitresses and doormen but I never really made friends with many of them as I kept things at work strictly business. After almost 3 years I left this club after an incident with another girl in the dressing room. I basically bounced around from club to club so the oppertunity for making steady female friends was very small.
I quit dancing about 6 months ago due to extreme and intense panic attacks. I had a few people in my phone book who would text and ask me to hang out and whatnot. But sooner than later I became known as a flake. I would think of any excuse to not leave my house because I had a huge fear of leaving the safety of my home.
Eventually my friend count became zero and I had no one. I couldn't tell the people who wanted to hang out with me that my flakiness was due to anxiety. How do you really explain to someone that you can't go out because you're scared you'll die before you even make it to your destination. (Anxiety while driving has been huge for me.)
I'm just curious how you lovely women go about meeting and making friends with new people?
I've been told to go to bars or clubs or to take a class in something that interests me. This has kinda been a problem because going to a bar/club would mean showing up alone and either not drinking because I have to drive, or leaving the bar/club alone in a taxi. I think that would be terribly embarassing. The taking a class thing isn't really possible for me at the moment simply due to money issues from not dancing.
Anyone have any advice?




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This is not a nice situation. Do you have any family members who are close to your age who you could go out with? What about any old friends that you could try to re-connect with? I moved countries at 23 and I would still feel alright ringing up a few people from HS for a coffee even though I haven't seen some of them in 10 years. 
I'm currently taking paxil for my anxiety and it's helping me thus far. Feeling less anxious brought on my desire for a social life because now I feel like I can handle going out without an irrational fear that something bad is going to happen. It's good to know I'm not the only one going through this type of situation.

Too bad not closer to each other..but, better than being totally alone? We could always make groups of each of our 'regions' and at least feel somewhat more connected ? Eh, just an idea.

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