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    Question "What does she get out of it?", he asks.

    So, as you all may know, my boyfriend is not thrilled by the idea of me stripping. He has asked me what I feel I'm going to get out of it. I've told him that I feel the job would be empowering, and I'd gain confidence and sales skills from it. Right now I'm kind of shy when it comes to selling to strangers. I also want to be a burlesque performer. What better way to prepare for that? Oh and then there's the fact that I WILL BE GETTING PAID MONEY, BECAUSE IT'S A JOB.

    I had him read an article last night on feministing.com by an ex-stripper and it was basically saying not to think that all strippers fit the stereotype of crazy drug addict slut. Even though it was beside the point of the article, he asked me "What did she get out of it?".



    So could any of you ladies humor him and share what it is you feel you "get" out of stripping?

    Also, do you agree that women don't choose this job to get some kind of sexual thrill from the men in the club? This has absolutely nothing to do with my decision, but he feels I must be seeking a "rush" from stripping or something.

    I appreciate your responses very much!

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    Default Re: "What does she get out of it?", he asks.

    Money. Lots of it.

    Lol at "getting a sexual thrill out of it." Please. I crack up inside every time guys ask me this while I'm dancing for them. I'm like, "Oh yeah baby, I get sooo turned on when I dance and I'm enjoying myself so much right now that you have to stay for more....."

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    Default Re: "What does she get out of it?", he asks.

    to be very honest with you, yes i do get a thrill, at the amount of money i make and yes out of the exhibtionist side of me, i love showing off and dancing on stage.

    I WANTED to do it because it fitted my personality, and it made great money, i wanted a head start in life, so what better way, save save save, and while you save, you can still spend spend spend when you feel the need to, you can have nice things and not break the bank balance, i love the freedom it offers i really do.
    I work when and where i want to work. I dont have to plan my life around work, i plan my work around my life.

    now to the sterotypical side of things.
    I have never even smoked a ciggerette, why would i do drugs?
    I dont even drink alcohol unless its something to celibrate.
    I have 0 kids to feed.
    I may be crazy, but in a good way
    I am not a slut who does anything for £20
    I dont sleep with customers or give extras just for an extra few quid
    If i wanted to do extras ide use my brain which i do have and go be an escort, its safer, and you earn more money.
    I dont party day and night
    I dont have a pimp or a drug dealing boyfriend.
    I chose to do it, therefore if you ask me "what are you doing this for?" or say "your too good for this" you are insulting my decisions and path i choose to follow.
    I dont need saving.
    I love my job, yes its shitty at times, but every job is shitty at times, you deal with it, the good times and money make up for it all.
    I have never been sexually abused as a child
    I have a fully supportive boyfriend and family.

    hope my input helps chick


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    Default Re: "What does she get out of it?", he asks.

    Money.

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    Default Re: "What does she get out of it?", he asks.

    Yep, I go to work because I have bills that need paid and I want good savings while I can do this job!

    Sexual thrills from customer? Puhlease... my thrill is when they open their wallet and I see some $100 bills tucked in there


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    Default Re: "What does she get out of it?", he asks.

    I started dancing to pay off college and get started on my own in life- any thrills I get in the club is like the other girls said, making money to pay bills. Sexual thrills? haha. That just makes me laugh..never have I been turned on by anything that walks in the club. Why? Because, from another lovely lady (that i forget your name on here sorry!) once said "if guys are going to degrade me at the club, i'm going to degrade their wallet" hehe. I'd never go out with anyone that walked in the club-I think its hysterical when guys actually think we're into them

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    Default Re: "What does she get out of it?", he asks.

    $$$$ cha-ching!

    And I love the outfits. I love sexiness. I get to make $$$ for being sexy, I love it.

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    Default Re: "What does she get out of it?", he asks.

    Quote Originally Posted by sunshine16 View Post
    I started dancing to pay off college and get started on my own in life- any thrills I get in the club is like the other girls said, making money to pay bills. Sexual thrills? haha. That just makes me laugh..never have I been turned on by anything that walks in the club. Why? Because, from another lovely lady (that i forget your name on here sorry!) once said "if guys are going to degrade me at the club, i'm going to degrade their wallet" hehe. I'd never go out with anyone that walked in the club-I think its hysterical when guys actually think we're into them

    Ahhh that was ME who said that one

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    Default Re: "What does she get out of it?", he asks.

    Money, confidence, independence, mad skillz.
    Get the fuck off my harbl, yo'.

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    Default Re: "What does she get out of it?", he asks.

    BUMP! Thank you so much ladies!!

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    Default Re: "What does she get out of it?", he asks.

    money.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Miss_McKenna View Post
    Yep, I go to work because I have bills that need paid and I want good savings while I can do this job!

    Sexual thrills from customer? Puhlease... my thrill is when they open their wallet and I see some $100 bills tucked in there

    I get thrilled by the same thing too!

    Last week when I got tipped with a TV and blueray (aprox $900 value) I literally had a mental orgasm that night and had a hard time falling asleep. Not to mention that night I got to drive an AWESOME car and had $800 in my pocket.



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    Default Re: "What does she get out of it?", he asks.

    No offense, but if your bf asked you what you get out of it, you explained it to him, and had him read and article on it and he's STILL asking, then he either has a reading comprehension problem or he's just trying to be a dick.

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    Quote Originally Posted by wanderlust08 View Post
    No offense, but if your bf asked you what you get out of it, you explained it to him, and had him read and article on it and he's STILL asking, then he either has a reading comprehension problem or he's just trying to be a dick.
    LOL the article actually didn't say anything about what the girl felt she got out of stripping, but he was wondering this about her after reading it.

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    Default Re: "What does she get out of it?", he asks.

    What does he do for a living? Does he get something out of his job (other than money)? I don't know....stripping is just a job that happens to pay really well. It's like asking a McDonald's employee, "So, what deep meaning do you get out of your job?"

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    Default Re: "What does she get out of it?", he asks.

    Money. And a lot of it. Im a damm good hustler. And now Im bartending during the day and it's taught me how to talk to anyone about anything regardless of who they are or what their background is.

    Stripping isn't sexual, it's just a job. Your bf needs to understand that.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jasmine22 View Post
    Ahhh that was ME who said that one
    AH HA! The genius has been found You're awesome, I think about that every time I go into work

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    Default Re: "What does she get out of it?", he asks.

    Thanks again ladies. I'm going to share this with him tonight.

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    Default Re: "What does she get out of it?", he asks.

    Money, and conversational skills. I could sell Picassos to a blind man.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Juliette25 View Post
    I had him read an article last night on feministing.com by an ex-stripper and it was basically saying not to think that all strippers fit the stereotype of crazy drug addict slut. Even though it was beside the point of the article, he asked me "What did she get out of it?".
    Why not try emailing the author of the article and asking her opinion on what to say to your boyfriend?

    Crazier things have happened to people, than choosing to become a stripper, and if he can't stick with you through that, what can he stick with you through? Assess your relationship, his and your own roles in the relationship, and see if its worth keeping. Unfortunately you may find that he is holding you back from your full potential...

    But go with the first idea there first.
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    Default Re: "What does she get out of it?", he asks.

    I think he's starting to come around. I'm trying not to push the issue 'cause it's not something I'll start doing in a matter of days or anything. I'm glad he's not totally dismissing the idea anymore.

    I did let him read this thread. He didn't say much about it, but he didn't say anything negative.

    I'm going to start practicing lap dances on him in the evenings LOL

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    ^ Just don't make them too sexy; otherwise he'll assume that's what you'll be doing to all of the guys.

    I actually wouldn't recommend that you practice dances on your boyfriend. It'll make picturing you at work that much more vivid and the idea that much more difficult for him to swallow.

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    Default Re: "What does she get out of it?", he asks.

    Yeah don't do that. My bf is similar he has to block out everything I do at work, haha.

    What I get out of the job is enough confidence to tell stupid bfs (like mine) that they don't get to tell me what to do with my life. Take it or leave it I'm strong enough to know that I deserve the best. Haha, they don't like that attitude much but it helps put things in perspective.
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    Default Re: "What does she get out of it?", he asks.

    Yea I was actually thinking about that this morning. I probably shouldn't do that. Bummer.

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    Default Re: "What does she get out of it?", he asks.

    let's see..great gossip, a few good friends, EMPOWERMENT, confidence, a body that's in shape, the mind set knowing i'm doing something I want to do instead of slaving away at what I went to college for, being paid to party, wearing killer makeup and clothing, DANCING , yeah money can be nice. I LOVE walking into a place knowing I can potentially walk out with my rent that night.

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