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    I have been waitressing at a club, but I barely make enought to pay for my gas! Ive been making about $20 dollars a night!! like really! It sucks!

    I started out waitressing, then I danced til I got in a fight with this idot! Alot of the girls got pissed and I just stopped dancing all together, after my savings ran out I just felt like I couldnt dance any more..

    I saw an ad for compainions making $1000 a day, so I started doing that every other week, I put a big down payment on a car, paid off some old bills. this job was out of town and my boyfriend found out about it, and I was already feeling terrible about it so I started waitressing again..

    Well Im only making a few bucks, there are a bunch of girls and not a lot of customers right now.. I danced for 2 nights and I just went home early and told them I couldnt dance any more.. so they said ok, if you want to waitress thats fine, but if you dance again you will be stuck there because its not fair to the other girls.. and I understand that but I am not making crap!!!

    ok Ive done the dancer wealth thing, it may helped a little but I knew most of that stuff.. The thing is I used to drink ALOT when I danced, and now I just cant.. I dont want to get wasted everynight, one its not healthy, I could get in a wreak, or get a DWI.. I made at least 4k a month dancing.. I do not like getting on stage, I dont like dancing naked in front of people, Its very degrading to me..

    Ive tried the web cam a little on ImLive, but they have you do like 120 hours a free chat!! and I didnt make a lot doing that, so Im trying to figure out what I can do!
    I live about two hours from houston, I was thinking that I could work for a studio in houston a few days a week, or dance out there? I dont know.. I need some help!


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    Have you tried waitressing at other restaurants? There's def more earning potential, I'd think, at other places that aren't even associated w clubs.

    Have you tried bartending?

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    Try looking outside the club doll! I don't know about 4 grand a month, but there are lots of entry jobs that plenty of people manage to make ends meet with.

    Bartending can be very profitable if you're a cute girl and work someplace busy, and are willing to flirt a little for tips; and you can keep your clothes on.

    Sounds like you've burned most of your bridges at you club, and you're really not up to the dancing atmosphere anymore. Look elsewhere. Good luck!



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    Quote Originally Posted by babybambi08 View Post
    I made at least 4k a month dancing.. I do not like getting on stage, I dont like dancing naked in front of people, Its very degrading to me..
    lol, is that why you were thinking about panhandling?

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    Have you tried niteflirt? A lot of girls are making great money doing phone sex and webcam with niteflirt.

    Also it sounds like strip clubs arnt working for you. Try looking in regular bars/resteraunts for waitressing or bar tending jobs. At $20 a day your better off working at mcdonalds.

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    Ive tried niteflirt.. well kinda, I signed up as a customer on accident. and I keep getting stupid emails from some girls! every time I try to call them or try to set up the wait is like 45 mins! I can work at the clubs in my area, I just dont want to dance.. I already work at a club waitressing but its been soo slow! Im about to PM someone a ((Nice)) message, so Im sure Ill probably be banned.. I dont care.. I dont know how to barten..


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    it sounds like the adult industry is not for you. why don't you try mainstream jobs?

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    yeah, it seems like you've tried pretty much everything in the adult industry and seem to hate it all. maybe, like camille suggested, you should look for more mainstream work. also out of curiosity, have you gotten your meds stabilized? that can make a huge difference in your work ethic and ability waitress, dance, etc. i dunno thats just my two cents.
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    yea, RRL, i didn't want to bring up the mental health thing, since i feel it's pretty obvious she is not, for whatever reason, treating it. and since i'm not a doctor or pharmacist, "stop looking for employment in the adult industry" seems like the reasonable option left.

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    yeah it's just i'm bp too so i know when you're off meds working seems so difficult, chaotic, etc. especially the fact that she's losing her temper waitressing, i dunno...i know what that's like, i was dancing off my meds for awhile and slapped my manager in the face...though he did deserve and i still don't regret it. but i'm not trying not to preach or give advice on the whole med thing because well, let's just say the last time she and i had a med talk in another thread things got messy. maybe i should just keep my mouth shut and stay out of this thread before i say anymore.

    my only advice to babibambi is do whatever you can to get yourself stabilized first...then you'll be able to decide whether the sex industry is right for you or not.
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    You seem to change your mind a lot babe. Try to choose something and stick it out at least for a few months. Everyone has parts of their jobs that they hate. You just need to persevere. Have you ever heard the saying, "easy come, easy go?". If there was some magic way that everyone could make tons of money easily we would all be doing it. Try to give your some positive thoughts instead of fretting all the time. A negative attitude attracts negativity.

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    ^yeah that's why i really can't express the importance of getting stabilized. when i wasn't, i couldn't hold down a job for more than two months. it's actually a symptom of bp...inability to hold down jobs, quitting w/o notice...etc...i did that a lot trying to work regular jobs. luckily with stripping i could still do that but was my hustle very good? no unless i was hypomanic and would work 12 hour shifts, sleep 4 hours, get up go to school and work 8 hours, rinse and repeat...and i wasn't really even tired. until the inevitable crash came and i became manic, the aforementioned things happened.

    i know times are tough bambi but you gotta stick it out somehow...maybe look for the least stressful, less demanding mainstream job. do you also know that you may qualify for disability? i believe you can get health insurance that way too.
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    I am going to stay as a waitress, and next thursday Im going to start trying to be a shot girl.. I have to sell so many shots before I can be a shot girl..

    Ive tried to get disability but they said I have too much education. I would work a mainstream job, if the pay was worth it. but Im never going back to work for minim wage..I couldnt even pay my rent on on a a regular job.. and I do have insurance, so there for I cant get medicine...
    thanks for everyones help, but Im going to stop posting here because of the people who just assume things and have no idea what they are talking about..


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    Quote Originally Posted by babybambi08 View Post
    I am going to stay as a waitress, and next thursday Im going to start trying to be a shot girl.. I have to sell so many shots before I can be a shot girl..

    Ive tried to get disability but they said I have too much education. I would work a mainstream job, if the pay was worth it. but Im never going back to work for minim wage..I couldnt even pay my rent on on a a regular job.. and I do have insurance, so there for I cant get medicine...
    thanks for everyones help, but Im going to stop posting here because of the people who just assume things and have no idea what they are talking about..
    I'm not gonna judge you, but I WILL say that trying to earn a substantial amount of income on ImLive? No bueno girl, and I think the rest of the girls over at the otherwork forum will attest to that.

    I wouldn't give up on camming if I were you. Keep your job at the club, but just invest a few hours camming every day (on a DIFFERENT site, not imlive) for two weeks. Just give it TWO WEEKS, and if you don't like it, move on.

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    now we have no idea what we're talking about

    actually, have you even applied? your education may not be the only hindrance in your denial, it also has to do with how much you make, the proof you provide from your doctors, which i'm assuming must be fairly extensive, etc. and i'm assuming you said you don't have insurance to get meds, and i know they can be expensive. have you tried to apply for federal or state insurance to help cover your meds? or seeing a psychiatrist who has samples to get you started on meds. there's all sorts of tips on the internet on how to get meds on a budget (not illegally either) to manage bp.

    you ask for help but if it's not what you want to hear then don't ask for advice in the first place. i take time of my day to try to help you because i know what a struggle it can be yet you shoot me down and basically act like a self-righteous know it all. we're just trying to help.

    this will be my last post to ever try to help you again. i wish you the best of luck and hope that one day you will get your illness managed.
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    btw, i don't see where we're judging you...we're making an honest attempt to help you and then you only come back completely defensive acting as though everyone's after you or something. that is not the case.
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    Quote Originally Posted by babybambi08 View Post
    I am going to stay as a waitress, and next thursday Im going to start trying to be a shot girl.. I have to sell so many shots before I can be a shot girl..

    Ive tried to get disability but they said I have too much education. I would work a mainstream job, if the pay was worth it. but Im never going back to work for minim wage..I couldnt even pay my rent on on a a regular job.. and I do have insurance, so there for I cant get medicine...
    thanks for everyones help, but Im going to stop posting here because of the people who just assume things and have no idea what they are talking about..
    No one is judging you but you seriously seem to have an excuse and reason for why you can't do anything.

    You know what girl? There ARE options. I think your just to lazy to use them or go for them. Either that your just one of those people who needs drama and BS in their life. You want people to feel sorry for you.

    I've read through A LOT of your posts trying to see why everyone was banging their head on a wall with you. I totally get it. You brush off everything. One of the successful escorts here even went to into great depths on how you can make money. And you STILL brush it off.

    Honestly if you don't want the advice and you have no desire to use it why even bother?

    I actually feel sorry for you to an extent. Its sad when you see people who have no desire to help themselves.

    And ftr... saying stripping is degrading on a stripper forum? Uh... you think thats a good idea?

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    Why is anyone still responding to this girl's threads? I stopped after the first bazillion. Just stop responding.

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    ^^I am so freakin bored today I have nothing else to do haha

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    You get the Get-Outta-Jail-Free card!!

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    i guess i'm responding, but like i said this is the last time because i feel for her despite her multiple insults (i figure a lot of her reactions are due to her illness) and i know what it's like. but like i said i'm done. it's taking body in my bone not to call her out and completely be completely blunt, harsh and frankly downright mean. but i'm taking deep breaths in and out and realize she's sick, despite her downright insults to me.
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    Idk. The opening post was so over dramatic and silly that I just assumed it was a joke designed to brighten everyone's day.
    "I can make over 4k a month stripping and 1k a day as a "companion" but that's just sooo degrading so now I'm still working in a strip club because it's not degrading as long as *I'm* not the one getting naked but I just can't make any money waitressing. What should I do?!?!? I'm not even making minimum wage but I would NEVER consider getting a real job for minimum wage because they would never pay my bills even though I make $20 a day right now."

    Like... not to be a total bitch... but, I mean... COME ON.
    There's NO WAY that was serious.
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    most of yall are a bunch of cunts who dont try to improve your lives at all.. probably be stuck in the sex scene forever, I almost never hear of a girl that goes to school on here or any other training. everyone joins the sex work for the money, if you dont thats just fucking sad. I got a new job with a great salary and Im so fucking glad I wont be coming here any more.. most of the girls on here are so sad that they really need to kick someone when they are at their lowest point..
    and I dont "insult" people because Im "sick" there isnt a sickness that makes you insult people.. my bipolar affects dont cause me to do that, I just do it because I think most of you are stupid... go on being dumb bitches!


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    Whatever, crazy hooker.

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    Quote Originally Posted by babybambi08 View Post
    most of yall are a bunch of cunts who dont try to improve your lives at all.. probably be stuck in the sex scene forever, I almost never hear of a girl that goes to school on here or any other training. everyone joins the sex work for the money, if you dont thats just fucking sad. I got a new job with a great salary and Im so fucking glad I wont be coming here any more.. most of the girls on here are so sad that they really need to kick someone when they are at their lowest point..
    and I dont "insult" people because Im "sick" there isnt a sickness that makes you insult people.. my bipolar affects dont cause me to do that, I just do it because I think most of you are stupid... go on being dumb bitches!

    urm i would venture to say at least 30% of the girls on here are in school or have been in school.
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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