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    Thumbs down Devastated.

    Deleted because I won't allow anyone else to talk about my family so disrespectfully.
    Last edited by wanderlust08; 04-26-2010 at 05:33 PM. Reason: see above.

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    Sounds perfect. Maybe she left him because his family was too into their relationship. Maybe shit happened and she doesn't want to be with him anymore. She should have used her MyCAA money for school for military spouses. REALLY, this shouldn't bother you that much. Obama hanging out with Beyonce and Jay-Z should.

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    ....Another thing...maybe your brother had to buy her things to keep her happy. I didn't like my ex-husband, but I could fake it for a few hours if he 'bought' me something.
    Last edited by demonika; 04-26-2010 at 04:52 PM. Reason: dp--double post

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    Sounds like your ex-husband is better off without you. BTW take a midol. You need it.
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    Default Re: Devastated.

    Quote Originally Posted by demonika View Post
    Obama hanging out with Beyonce and Jay-Z should.
    Seriously?

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    I am holding my tongue because I don't want to get banned.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Trem View Post
    Seriously?
    No.



    I can understand Wanderlust getting upset a tiny bit. When someone makes the decision to leave they should be able to leave with no drama from outside. It is really unnecessary and no matter how much the person knows they are done it is still really hard. Especially with children.

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    I am editing this because I am having major difficulty not lashing out, and I say really disgusting crude things when I'm this upset.

    I will say that I've been divorced. I know how it is when your partner cheats on you and stops loving you. Don't think for one goddamn second you know fucking ANYTHING about this situation.

    I seriously hope you felt so much better about yourself after writing such mean and spiteful things.
    Last edited by wanderlust08; 04-26-2010 at 05:49 PM.

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    It wasn't spiteful. I just came to this thread to apologize, A BIT, because I am going through loads with custody right now and hate everyone because of it. I have prying, disgusting inlaws ruining what was a civil divorce.

    No matter what that women will still be in your family. She has children with your brother. Don't you want them to be happy? A lot of people who appear to be 'perfect' and 'happy' are not. She needed the education. Soooooo many women get stuck because they get knocked up, married (either order) and rely on their other half the whole time. Which leaves them no choice to stay and be miserable or just leave and be screwed. Yeah, the shit is sad. I don't know who or what you care about more, but they will okay and so will you. The kids will be better off as well. Relax and let them take care of it themselves.

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    The last thing I want to do is pry into my brother's life, which is part of the reason I came onto this forum to vent. I do that a LOT. Venting on this forum has prevented me from exploding on people in my personal life quite a bit. It's very useful in that respect.

    Part of the reason I'm so upset is because I'm divorced, our parents are divorced, and soon he will be too. It feels like everyone in our family just doesn't GET relationships, and it sucks.

    And it hurts because she's been in my life since I was six years old, and she has shut out our entire family. I don't understand her reasoning behind that, she's like a sister to me. She went from being one of my closest friends to not even speaking to me, and for what? Because I'm her soon-to-be ex-husband's sister??? I still care about her!

    She stopped speaking to me about a month ago, and I've been majorly upset about it, trying to figure out what I did wrong, and today we all found out she's leaving him for someone else, and shut ALL of us out. And only taking the older daughter. What about my other niece???

    My mom and I are on good terms now, but she bounced out when I was 13 and we went almost ten years without speaking. My little niece is now going to go through the same thing and she's only five.

    This whole thing brought up a flood of emotions relating to my parents' divorce, my mother's abandonment, and my divorce. THAT'S why I'm upset. The empathy completely overwhelmed me.

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    I am sorry.

    I shut EVERYONE out for a while, too. I think it was because I just didn't know what to do. It is kind of weird to only want one child and leave the other one. You didn't do anything wrong. She is either an idiot or just really confused. Probably the latter. People don't know how they are meant to act. Most think it is 'claws out', but nothing has to be that way.

    At least amazing children came out of all of the relationships that ended in divorce.

    Your brother sounds great and will have no problem finding love if that is what he wants. It really did sound like your brother had to buy her love--it doesn't work.

    I don't know if you were married to military, but your brother is about to be BROKE! He needs to sort everything out now. I didn't take anything from my ex-husband, but he is going to have to pay alimony AND child support no matter what rank he is even if he has one child, too.

    ...splitting the girls is a horrible idea. I can't get over it.

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    I don't presume to know your situation or hers, but as someone who went into hermit mode myself, I just have to say that sometimes, in order to heal, you need to shut everyone out. Even when it hurts. I had to do this. I had people coming at me from all angles. I had EVERYONE talking shit. I didn't know which direction to go or who to turn to or who to trust and disappearing for awhile was necessary. For my own sanity.

    That said, having also found myself in a relationship where I was a different person, she may have shut you all out to be this alter ego and doesn't want reality interfering. It could be nothing more than that. Like I said, I know neither of you, so Im not judging.
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