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    Hey all, long time no post.

    So it's been getting fairly serious with this guy that I've been seeing and we've had sex a few times... however, it's been a LONG time since he's had sex (about 18 months) and it shows - he's extremely sensitive and orgasms very fast. He'll even stop when he feels it getting to be too much but just the sensation of pulling out of me or staying in me clenched around him puts him over the edge.

    I have the IUD and we have sex without condoms (we both tested and we're ok) and at first we decided to try condoms to see if they'd damper the feeling for him. No such luck, I'm afraid.

    Luckily, he's very open to the idea of trying a delay cream. I've looked online to see which ones are highest reviewed, but all I keep seeing are fad remedies written in the style of a classic "Tried everything that doesn't work? Well look no further!" bogus product ad.

    I know that lidocaine is the product I want to look for, but I still have absolutely no idea on what to get.

    Do any of you ladies (or gentlemen!) have any experience with ejaculation delay cream? Any recommendations? And does it damper female sensation at all??

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    Hmm....I know that my boy has used the 'her-pleasure, extended play' condoms before, and they completely numbed him up (we didn't know that would happen). He ended up having to take it off (I'm on BC too, so no biggie) and it took a good 10 minutes till he could feel anything again. Didn't effect the sensation on my end at all. So if all else fails, you could get some of those and have him wear it for the first few minutes, then if you really don't like the way condoms feel you can just haul it off and keep going at it.

    Pretty sure it was this brand http://www.durex.com/en-AU/Products/...dPleasure.aspx



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    if you use a delay cream and no condoms, keep in mind it will make you numb as well.
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Athenathefabulous View Post
    if you use a delay cream and no condoms, keep in mind it will make you numb as well.
    Well, that's no fun.



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    go with this before the cream... have ur minute long sex attack wait like 20 minutes so he's not too sensitive, then go again. you should get at least 25-30 min out of the second round.

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    Quote Originally Posted by 4everresolutions View Post
    Well, that's no fun.

    yea... with no barrier to keep it off of your junk it will have the same effect. i have used it before on occasions when i was sore.

    i guess if the OP wants to have sex longer primarily for the feeling of closeness and intimacy its not as big of a deal, but the pleasure down there will be reduced significantly.
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    Default Re: Ejaculation Delay Cream?

    i work at a sex shop and sell this sort of stuff all day - most of the ones with lidocaine are basically all the same just different packaging. i prefer the spray as opposed to the cream... less messy. regardless of what you use, let it sink it for about 5 minutes or so on him and then wipe it off with a wet cloth if you aren't using a condom to stop it from rubbing off on you. oh and he only needs to apply it to where he's most sensitive (usually the underside where the head and the shaft meet), not his entire peen. start with just a little bit and then work up if he doesn't get the required effect - he just needs enough lidocaine to "take the edge off" not make his entire dick numb.

    pjur, a great lube company, makes a spray and lube called "superhero" that is supposed to delay ejaculation without any numbing effects using herbs and such. i don't know how well it works, but it is worth at least doing a little research about.

    another option would be a pill like stiff nights or rock hard weekend. they don't cause any loss of sensation and instead of making him last longer before orgasm it allows him to keep getting it up quickly again and again after orgasm so he can keep going and going like the energizer bunny!

    uhh... if you have any more questions just let me know but that's the basic gist of it all.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jennsweet View Post
    go with this before the cream... have ur minute long sex attack wait like 20 minutes so he's not too sensitive, then go again. you should get at least 25-30 min out of the second round.
    Problem with this is once he's done he's done for the day. Not like he doesn't have the short enough refractory for it, he just doesn't want sex again afterwards.

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    have him jack off first? then he will get to rub one out but since he hasnt banged you yet, he will still want to .
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    Default Re: Ejaculation Delay Cream?

    Use a cock ring, it keeps the dick nice and hard even after you are done. Well, after he is done.

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    Default Re: Ejaculation Delay Cream?

    Tried suggesting that. Oddly enough, he's more open to the idea of the cream O_o

    I picked up a bottle of it. I'll let you guys know how it goes.

    On a semi-related note, any experience with anyone here with female clitoris stimulation gel? I picked up a tube of that too to see if it helps me get there any faster. I don't have a problem cumming, it just takes me a little while and I have to be in just the right position (I've never cum doggystyle or cowgirl. Only missionary. pisses me off)

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    ^ You're lucky you can come at all during sex! I have a very high sex drive by myself (I can get off as many times as I want to), but if I have anything inside me, my clit goes numb. The two times I have stumbled across orgasms during sex, they were extraordinarily lame...I can't get off when something is inside me.

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    When I do get in just the right position to come, it's absolutely mindblowing, but if I'm not in that position, I can't get there. And I have an insane sex drive. My man knows I'm horny, he sees me twisting and screaming because it feels good, but if it involves penetration, I have to have my clit, g-spot and the lower part of my vaginal opening stimulated JUST right in order to come. Aggravating, to say the least.

    So far I've only had one guy (fuck buddy that I hook up with if we both happen to be single) that has figured me out and can get me to scream every time without fail. And holy god I want to marry him for that.

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    Im a Pure romance consultant and I sell a product called time in a bottle.
    If your gonna use the delay creams for a man wait about 15 min before you hop on and you wont be numb.

    I also sell 3 kids of arousal creams. I like EX T CEE!

    PM for my deals.
    or check out my website

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    Quote Originally Posted by charlie61 View Post
    ^ You're lucky you can come at all during sex! I have a very high sex drive by myself (I can get off as many times as I want to), but if I have anything inside me, my clit goes numb. The two times I have stumbled across orgasms during sex, they were extraordinarily lame...I can't get off when something is inside me.
    how do you and your man handle that??!?... do you fuck, then he pulls out and rubs your clit, then back to fucking? i've thought about this alot lol..... please tell me u don't just fuck for show each time!!!

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    ^ I do. I'm asexual, so I have zero interest in sex (though I get myself off quite nicely!). Every time I have sex, I'm only doing it to make him feel good.

    He's very aware of this and harbors a great deal of guilt about it (despite the fact that I have sex with him unconditionally). But I love him very much, and he's a sexual person. We're non-monogamous, so technically he could go have sex with other people, but he doesn't want to, so.... Shrugs.

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    wow, what an interesting dynamic you two have! as long as you're happy

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    ^It's pretty much the only source of unhappiness in our entire relationship, actually.. It's pretty hard for me sometimes to give my body like that unconditionally. Oftentimes feels prostitute-ish...like I should be getting paid. I love him (if I believed in the theory, I'd say that he's my soulmate) so much. But this is really hard for me sometimes.

    He's working on becoming a monk to join me in my enlightened asexuality.

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    oh my! you know he's a soulmate if he follows thru with that! ur right sex is just about a stimulating feeling. there is much MUCH more to life than sweaty balls slapping against your ass (OMFG i'm loling from that line) poorly stated on my part, but i agree with your quest for enlightenment. I however think i might LOVE sex too much to take that step, but again admire you for your thinking

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    I think It was done ...so hows it feels and how your experience about that???can you share it?? thanks

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    Creams and numbing condoms do work but they are band-aids for the problem. The only real solution is for men to workout on their junk. It is really like any other part of the body, if it is not used and pushed to its limit intelligently, it will degrade and its performance will suffer.

    Tell him to google: Edging, Kegel Reflex Conditioning, & Jelqing.

    This link will prove to be very useful for him: http://www.pegym.com/forums/prematur...ulation-forum/

    Edging & the Kegel work outs are going to be the most useful for him and they basically entail bringing yourself right to the "edge" of orgasm repeatedly & learning to control your Kegel Reflex muscle at that point.

    It takes time & a great deal of mental discipline as it is basically self-torture. A proper workout will take about 30-45min and should be done 3 times a week, on days you most likely wont be having sex. Within each workout there will be many, many times you will be bringing yourself to edge, then denying the orgasm while focusing on the kegel reflex, coming off of it, then doing it all over again. At the end of one of these workouts, it feels like your cock is about to explode (and looks like it too!)

    If he is serious about fixing the problem, send him to the site I linked above. There are a ton of guides & personal success stories up there for him to check out.

    I will say from personal experience that it is one of the best feelings as a guy to be able to gain so much control over your orgasm and to end all of the dumb mind-distraction techniques that most guys try to use now.
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    Some great advice already given in this thread. However, this concerns me:

    Quote Originally Posted by Autumn Lily View Post
    Problem with this is once he's done he's done for the day. Not like he doesn't have the short enough refractory for it, he just doesn't want sex again afterwards.
    He doesn't sound at all interested in pleasing you. He's a two pump chump and doesn't want to have sex again after he's orgasmed? Really? He should be embarrassed and be researching a solution himself, not making you do it for him so you can get off.


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    ...that's not to say he's not for eating me out or fingering me, but I wanna get off from his dick lol

    and yes, he's very embarassed about it. Men can't control their refractory periods. There's things they can do to help it just a little bit, but if a guy can't operate for 24 hours after orgasming, it's not that he doesn't want to, it's that he biologically CAN'T.
    Last edited by Autumn Lily; 06-15-2010 at 01:44 PM.

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    Tell him to masturbate before he is with you. That'll do it.

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    24 hrs??? my stud muffin can go back to back batteries not included LOL

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