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    SOrry this is a bit long but yea,... im kind of angry at some friends and the SO and i am just wondering if i am in the wrong here.

    Last night i got belligerently drunk for the first time in a long time... i offered my apartment up for my austin friends and the boy to crash and 3 of them came and one of them brought 2 additional friends-- i usually dont like hanging out iwth large groups of ppl but i bit the bullet anyway. So yea... i told these guys that my goal for the night was to get as drunk as possible-- and yes, mission accomplished. Well they wanted to stick to the touristy areas despite my explicit requests that we dont because after working this week i was no longer able to handle any more tourists. Well, the combination of being belligerently drunk (at this pt i think i had about 15 shots) and not being able to handle the tourists and not being a fan of going out with a large group in general inspired me to go on my own pub crawl. Which was fun but after a couple of hrs i texted back to the boy and asked if they could meet me somewhere... i got kicked out of the location i texted (like i said... belligerently drunk) and headed to a bar that was like a half a mile a way and asked them to meet me there.

    well i guess they showed up at hte bar that i got kicked out of... and didnt see me, and decided they were tired of walking and went elsewhere. im not exactly sure what i did immediately, i blacked out for a bit, but i guess at some point i came too and i was walking in a fairly rough neighborhood for whatever reason. there was a house party going on, and i was invited inside and reminded that i should NOT be stumbling around by myself in that neighborhood. I got ahold of a freind who i was supposed to meet at the bar that i asked the ATX crew to meet me at... at this point my phone was about to die... and he swung by to get me but my phone died before he got there and i ended up going to the aforementioned bar.

    at some point i went back home, charged my phone... they were on the other side of town at this pt and didnt feel like driving to pick me up. so whatever, i went out to bars within walking distance... had more fun. By the time they finally felt it was necessary to hang out again it was like... 5:30am?

    idk i feel like if i had a female friend who was as hammered as i obviously was and i knew that her phone was about to die, i would make some effort to go find her and not have her wandering around by herself with no phone. im pissed off... i was polite enough to invite these guys to stay with me and my rather simple request to stay away from the more touristy bars was completely ignored... and on top of that when i requested they meet me somewhere after giving them a couple of hours at the bars that i couldnt handle being at they were 'too tired to walk.' what is that shit?

    im letting it go, but am i out of line for being pissed off? im aware that i probably shouldnt have been belligerently drunk, but after the week i had-- im only human.

    also lesson learned- Im never hosting large groups of ppl again. 3 is the max that i can handle where it doesnt become a logistical nightmare.
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    i dunno, i personally would've been pissed off...i mean if you did this to them a bunch of times i could see why they'd be like oh whatever just leave her alone or find a taxi or w/e but if they said they were gonna meet you there and then didn't, i'd be pissed off. the situation could've been a lot worse but at least you got home safely.

    i think you should just let it go and let it be lesson learned.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Athenathefabulous View Post
    i offered my apartment up for my austin friends and the boy to crash and 3 of them came and one of them brought 2 additional friends-- i usually dont like hanging out iwth large groups of ppl but i bit the bullet anyway.
    That would really piss me off. You were nice enough to offer your place, then they bring more people without asking? Not cool. And then leaving their host to wander around drunk alone. Also not cool.

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    You know how I am... probably too motherly for my own good. I've grown up taking care of everyone else... never had children and maybe that's why. If it were me and I knew you planned to get hammered, I probably wouldn't have let you out of my sight. Sounds like you ended up in some potentially dangerous situations. Even though you are an adult, yes, I would expect them to make some effort to look for you.
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    THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR CREATING THIS LONG LONG POST IN PARAGRAPHS RATHER THAN MAKING IT ONE BIG UN READABLE PARAGRAPH!! SOME OF YOU NEED TO LEARN FROM HER.

    i agree with you but were these guys as hammered as you were?? they prob did not realize the cirumstances.

    i also agree with you on hosting large groups. no way.

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    I'd be irked. Mind you, if everyone involved was wasted, then I can see a small thing like the safety of a single girl could sort of get....forgotten about.

    Sounds like you had fun regardless though! Hah! You sure can party!!



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    I would be pissed about the bringing extra people. As far as the rest goes its mostly on you, they are the ones visiting it really is their call as to what they want to do and you are the one who decided to go off by yourself and get wasted.

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    I would be mad too, but its not necessarily justified. Yeah friends definetely shouldn't bring extra people with them without asking. That definetely throws you into a shitty predicament. Nobody wants to tell their friends to beat it, but you should definetely tell them not to ever bring extra people again. At the same time, they were in fact tourists right? So of course tourists will want to visit tourist-y bars. Yeah some will say a "good" friend will look out for their friends, but you did choose to go out alone even though you knew you were going to get totally hammered. Did you definetely plan to meet up later before leaving? You said that they came to the bar you got kicked out of, but I was confused. Did they come looking for you, or were they just going there? Did they know exactly where you were at one point and just not feel like walking, or did they not feel like walking around searching for you? I'd be pissed too, but they were the guests so perhaps you should have put up with the tourist-y bars. If they thought a drunk friend wandering the streets alone, was not a big deal you probably don't want to get drunk with these people at the very least. I am so glad you got home safe.
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    now that i have had a couple of days to calm down and mull it over, i guess at this point i am more disappointed with the significant other than anything. I guess the bottom line for me is this-- if i was dating a girl and was out with her one night, there is no way in hell she would end up black out drunk walking through the 7th ward alone at night. And i am not sure whether i should be dating someone who seemed relatively unconcerned about it...
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    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    ^ Yes!! I just read the original post and was thinking to myself "How the hell was her bf okay with all this going down?!". That's what I'm most concerned about... wasn't he wondering what you were doing and if you were safe? Talk to him about it.. if I were you i'd be feeling the same way. I'm glad that you're okay and nothing bad happened, that's a dangerous situation for a girl to end up in

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    ^yeah i agree. i actually thought of a similar situation...not quite the same but still similar. there were about 3 of us that came down to visit a friend and let us stay with her. she let us decide out of the options what we wanted to do. we were all at a party when one friend sort of disappeared on us. we were all drunk but were like where the fuck did she go? she wasn't from the area and didn't have a lot of money on her so we knew so wouldn't be able to find a taxi and even she did she was wasted and probably wouldn't be able to remember the address to get back home. we called her a bunch of times but she didn't answer...she was hooking up with a guy and when she was ready to leave she had no idea where she was or where to go.

    we were still at the party. did we want to leave? no...but she was basically stranded so our friend who lived there made a few calls and got her boyfriend to pick all of us up and our wasted friend got the address and we went to pick her up so she wasn't stranded at this guy's house, who lived with a bunch of other guys, so being concerned for her safety we went to pick up as fast as we could. we picked up and went home. it cut our night short of partying but it was more important to get our friend out of a potentially dangerous situation.

    moral of the story: someone who really cares should do their damndest to find the wasted friend and get them out of a potentially bad situation. i dunno, just some food for thought athena.
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    You were right. I would have been pissed at the SO, for his lack of consideration. The others, well, they just caught a lucky break with a free place to stay in a rad city, and weren't thinking. The SO should have been there for you. Do these people have any clue about the high crime rates in NOLA? Its a dangerous city, I've known about half a dozen people who've been violently mugged there.

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    I don't know what you were thinking. Had it been me and I paid to get there to do the tourist thing with you and you got a wild hair up your ass about NOT wanting to...then ditched me to get shit faced alone in some local yokel place.... I'd be thinking I wouldn't visit again. I would question our friendship and your sanity for endangering yourself then acting like an angry entitled baby. I've dropped people for bs like that. As for your boyfriend I wouldn't blame him for dumping you if this is your thing. Screw that.
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    now that i have had a couple of days to calm down and mull it over, i guess at this point i am more disappointed with the significant other than anything. I guess the bottom line for me is this-- if i was dating a girl and was out with her one night, there is no way in hell she would end up black out drunk walking through the 7th ward alone at night. And i am not sure whether i should be dating someone who seemed relatively unconcerned about it...
    Alcoholics are not cute. They really are massively entitled dependent brats. That you expect him and your friends to give you their evening to watch you be a big enough ass to get thrown out of a bar.....meh. Selfish and manipulative. You're a dancer who makes coin. Use it to get a frickin' cab and save yourself!
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    I cant comprehend why theyd not honor the hosts request and go where you felt more comfortable AND even if you disagreed on spots SOMEONE should have accompanied you.

    Not good friends. I dont care if a friend was ok with going alone. I dont believe a real friend should have not offered to accompany you. At least one of them. It was a large group after all.

    If i visited a friend in orlando who was like hey im sick of disney world, id get it. wtf.

    Your actions were those of a drunk girl.Which is why i wouldnt have let you go at it alone :0(

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    Optimist your post was tinged with some evil.

    "i would never" well she did. And it was a lesson learned AS SHE SAID. Geesh. She had a hell of a time. Let her get it out.

    My view is that:

    She isnt selfish or manipulative. She just drank too much and feels left alone. Yes. Friends and people with a heart or conscience DO sacrifice their plans to freaking PARTY to make sure a friend is ok to party.

    Optimist, you make it sound as if them choosing to have their ideal party wasnt selfish and dangerous. She got drunk and after when it appears her judgement was altered.

    I can tell from her posts how hard of a worker she is and very responsible to keep it all together with travel work and school.

    Her one time to cut loose and her friends do this ? Whatevs.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Athenathefabulous View Post
    now that i have had a couple of days to calm down and mull it over, i guess at this point i am more disappointed with the significant other than anything. I guess the bottom line for me is this-- if i was dating a girl and was out with her one night, there is no way in hell she would end up black out drunk walking through the 7th ward alone at night. And i am not sure whether i should be dating someone who seemed relatively unconcerned about it...
    You might be on to something pretty important here.

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    optimist, what is she gonna do, walk to her house, or wait 30 minutes in a shitty part of austin for a cab?

    if it were me, i would go home and lock them out. fuck them for crashing your house with extra guests, ignoring your requests, and then abandoning you. let them call their own cab and let them get their own hotel.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Optimist View Post
    I don't know what you were thinking. Had it been me and I paid to get there to do the tourist thing with you and you got a wild hair up your ass about NOT wanting to...then ditched me to get shit faced alone in some local yokel place.... I'd be thinking I wouldn't visit again. I would question our friendship and your sanity for endangering yourself then acting like an angry entitled baby. I've dropped people for bs like that. As for your boyfriend I wouldn't blame him for dumping you if this is your thing. Screw that.


    Alcoholics are not cute. They really are massively entitled dependent brats. That you expect him and your friends to give you their evening to watch you be a big enough ass to get thrown out of a bar.....meh. Selfish and manipulative. You're a dancer who makes coin. Use it to get a frickin' cab and save yourself!
    wow, what a cunty thing to say. im not an alcoholic... if you read my post you would have noticed that this is the first time that i have been this drunk since i left cleveland--- which was mid december . the s.o. has spent enough sober nights with me to know i am not an alcoholic. I specifically requested at the beginning of the day that we stay out of the touristy spots. maybe if i phrased the situation as "hey over this week i have literally had over 100 tourists try to grope me and i cannot handle another fucking tourist or i will explode" it would have gotten through to them-- but i was (regrettably) slightly more eloquent and tactful. either way, it was extremely rude of them to completely disregard this request.

    also if i remember correctly you are either from jersey or live there now. are you from there? if so, i am very disappointed in you. One of my favorite things about jersey folk is we ALWAYS look out for our own. And apparently you do not. what a shame,.... you have missed out on the best part of new jersey culture.

    and also, i couldnt get a cab because this was NOLA jazzfest... all were occupied. I tried calling like 2 or 3 companies before my phone died. . Also i ended up in the hood in one of the 3 murder capitals of the US. and the house party i was at was like the only group of people kind enough to make sure i was ok--- so they wouldnt let me walk through the shitty neighborhood to try to find a cab. i thank them for that.

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    You were right. I would have been pissed at the SO, for his lack of consideration. The others, well, they just caught a lucky break with a free place to stay in a rad city, and weren't thinking. The SO should have been there for you. Do these people have any clue about the high crime rates in NOLA? Its a dangerous city, I've known about half a dozen people who've been violently mugged there.

    Glad you are ok.
    Yea im attributing part of this potential fiasco to the fact that these ppl live in the very safe and lovely city of austin (which, as posted in a recent thread by Kylea) has had only 10 murders in '10. i told them NOLA was a bit more .... risque. not sure if they do/did believe me.

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    I cant comprehend why theyd not honor the hosts request and go where you felt more comfortable AND even if you disagreed on spots SOMEONE should have accompanied you.

    Not good friends. I dont care if a friend was ok with going alone. I dont believe a real friend should have not offered to accompany you. At least one of them. It was a large group after all.

    If i visited a friend in orlando who was like hey im sick of disney world, id get it. wtf.

    Your actions were those of a drunk girl.Which is why i wouldnt have let you go at it alone :0(
    Thank you. this pretty much sums up how i felt. And the two extra people who came somehow managed to be in charge of the group... i guess because they drove the group from Houston to NOLA... nevermind the fact that i was hosting them and took nights off work to spend time with them, specifically the SO. The two extra people were rude and cold to me the whole time, and refused to work with me on my very simple and few requests-- which really was visit a friend and to stay out of Bourbon Street, Upper decatur, and frenchman street. Also they were douchebags and took the battery to my air mattress-- mind you i busted out the air mattress to make them more comfortable. The SO brought these two randoms with him even though i didnt knwo them... i understand he was long term friends with them... but you know fuck it, he should have been more worried about my safety than whether his rude and cliquey freinds were enjoying their night.

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    optimist, what is she gonna do, walk to her house, or wait 30 minutes in a shitty part of austin for a cab?

    if it were me, i would go home and lock them out. fuck them for crashing your house with extra guests, ignoring your requests, and then abandoning you. let them call their own cab and let them get their own hotel.
    This was NOLA... the shitty parts of NOLA are way more dangerous than the shitty parts of austin .

    But i agree, i should have locked them out. after i ended up at the house party, my phone died. the people throwing the party were great people and offered me a place to stay. But, after my phone died i turned it down because i decided that i needed to go back and charge my phone to make sure that my very inconsiderate guests were not locked out of my house.

    This is why i refuse to have expectations for people. Regardeless of how good people's general intentions are, they all suck. the amount of times i have been let down in life by various folks at this point is ridiculous. I am only 22, i should not be as jaded as i am.

    Thanks for the various encouraging Posts. im going to give the SO a fair chance to explain himself but if he fails, fuck it, i dont need more toxic people in my life.
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    If someone did that to me... they would not be my friend. The guys I am friends with would do anything to keep me safe.

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    I'll play the devil's advocate here...

    When people come from out of town to a place, they are gonna want to go to the tourist stuff. I know you offered your place up to these people, and that might should give you a say in where/what the group does, but you would've had more fun going with the group to the tourist stuff and avoided any drama. Instead, you got belligerent and went off on your own and it ended up in a crappy night.

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    They took your air mattress battery? Fucking twats. Tell your SO if you have no already. Get it back or make him cover the replacement cost, just out of principle alone.

    I HATE HATE HATE rude houseguests, omg, huge pet peeve of mine. I swear, some people were just not raised right.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mr Hyde View Post
    I'll play the devil's advocate here...

    When people come from out of town to a place, they are gonna want to go to the tourist stuff. I know you offered your place up to these people, and that might should give you a say in where/what the group does, but you would've had more fun going with the group to the tourist stuff and avoided any drama. Instead, you got belligerent and went off on your own and it ended up in a crappy night.
    I see what you're saying. Here is my question to Athena; were they only there for a night, or for more than one night? Because one night on Bourbon is plenty when visiting NOLA. And its really not the houseguests responsibility to stay with her, but what about her boyfriend? Wouldn't you be pissed if your girlfriend/wife ditched you on a night you said you would be drinking and needed her there.

    This is an SO who has already spent time in NOLA with her, and will have more chances to visit. He can leave the group to do the tourist thing on their own for a while, its not like he knows the city any better than they do.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cadencetyme View Post
    Optimist your post was tinged with some evil.

    "i would never" well she did. And it was a lesson learned AS SHE SAID. Geesh. She had a hell of a time. Let her get it out.

    My view is that:

    She isnt selfish or manipulative. She just drank too much and feels left alone. Yes. Friends and people with a heart or conscience DO sacrifice their plans to freaking PARTY to make sure a friend is ok to party.

    Optimist, you make it sound as if them choosing to have their ideal party wasnt selfish and dangerous. She got drunk and after when it appears her judgement was altered.

    I can tell from her posts how hard of a worker she is and very responsible to keep it all together with travel work and school.

    Her one time to cut loose and her friends do this ? Whatevs.

    Ooo honey! You're gonna have a hard life if that looked like evil to you!

    She drank too much!!! No one poisoned her! She chose to ditch her friends! They didn't ditch her. She has money so why sit and wait to be picked up?? Why wander to some crazy ass neighborhood to risk robbery, rape, and God knows what else? Grow up! Use your head. Her life is YOUR responsibility first and foremost. Act like it and get yourself to safety instead of waiting for the white knight to come get you. It wasn't her time to cut loose because she'd invited these people. The time to cut loose was the day after or the day before. NOT the day they invested their hard earned money into coming out expecting to be shown a great time--not the spectacle of her starting shit in some local bar.
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    wow, what a cunty thing to say. im not an alcoholic... if you read my post you would have noticed that this is the first time that i have been this drunk since i left cleveland--- which was mid december . the s.o. has spent enough sober nights with me to know i am not an alcoholic. I specifically requested at the beginning of the day that we stay out of the touristy spots. maybe if i phrased the situation as "hey over this week i have literally had over 100 tourists try to grope me and i cannot handle another fucking tourist or i will explode" it would have gotten through to them-- but i was (regrettably) slightly more eloquent and tactful. either way, it was extremely rude of them to completely disregard this request.

    also if i remember correctly you are either from jersey or live there now. are you from there? if so, i am very disappointed in you. One of my favorite things about jersey folk is we ALWAYS look out for our own. And apparently you do not. what a shame,.... you have missed out on the best part of new jersey culture.

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    Don't post some nonsense asking for opinions and then get nasty when you don't get some enabling garbage answer. You asked for a real opinion. You got it. Deal with it.

    The behavior you described was beyond stupid. Just putting aside your friends coming to town, you said you got ragefully drunk. Only an alcoholic is going to deal with their problems by getting violently, blindly drunk. Take it to the bank and put me on ignore if you have to but I'm not going to lie to you then read how you got raped or what-the-fuck-ever next week. You get tossed for being violently drunk, wander into a dangerous neighborhood and don't have the sense God gave a billy goat to call a goddamn cab? What kind of moron does that? If you were some ugly dude I could see it but you are an attractive woman and you put yourself out there impaired and wanna BLAME somebody???? What a fucking IDIOT. Feel free to keep doing though if it makes you happy.

    Oh and BTW I live all over the country since I too travel for work. You don't know where my home is because I wouldn't out it out there for some random moron to see. However, if you think getting shit faced showed you the best of Jersey culture...once again you've proven you're an alcoholic! Insult fail.
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