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    so i haven't danced in over two years because i stopped dancing when i became pregnant with my now one and hafe year older daughter. so im almost 22 now so i kno im still young looking and my body is the same as it was before i had here. im just wondering how you get back in the game and be a mother at the same time. i know it going to be like starting new again. but being a mother i have had to change my life style. so any dancing mothers out there i would like to hear how is it going back to dancing after having chilldren. can u balance being a mother snd s dancer snd being happy? i need the money right now. and being a mother im home 24/7 and i feel lonley like i've lost my fun happy side. so i do miss being a dancer i just want to be able to be a dancer and a mother.

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    Default Re: dancing and being a mother?

    I am a dancer (sometimes) and a mom. I only dance every now and again since I am employed full-time right now as a teacher. But when I do dance, it is just like it always was. The only factor that changed for me was finding care for my daughter while I am at work during night. My husband deploys and works nights sometimes, so I had to find someone to watch her-my friends are not always reliable, and I don't have family close by.

    I also have had to curb my spending a bit, since she grows so fast!

    Never drank, did drugs, smoke, or party, so that part wasnt a problem for me.

    When you say you "lost my happy fun side", are you meaning friends, or partying? If you mean friends, it would be better to find a playgroup-meetup.com is good for that-or join a My Gym or another kids-place where you can meet other moms. If it is partying, I would recommend to mostly just give that up. In my mind, drinking while you have a kid around, or even upstairs asleep, is just irresponsible and exposes them to something they dont need. And even if the kid is asleep-what if they choked or something, and you were too drunk to deal with it right? Just my humble opinion...
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    Default Re: dancing and being a mother?

    by saying i've lost my old self, i dont mean partying i mean just having some kinda personality and being able to get out of the house and talk to adults

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    Quote Originally Posted by _Ariel_ View Post
    by saying i've lost my old self, i dont mean partying i mean just having some kinda personality and being able to get out of the house and talk to adults
    I feel you on that. Since i've become preggo I just lost my old self. I've lost my desire to party, which is a good thing. But i've lost my ability to socialize... I just feel awkward and weird about other adults and im just not myself, its hard to explain.

    I have no advice for dancing and being a Mom because my kiddo isn't born yet and when he is born I will only be working the weeks my SO is home(he works in the oil fields) so he will be able to be with kiddo while im working.

    Anyway I just wanted to offer support and say I understand. I hope you can figure something out that works for you!

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    Being a mother doesn't hinder you from having any type of job, unless you can't get a babysitter. Other than that, if your looks match for the club you're trying to work for, there's no difference between having a child and not having one.

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    My lo is 6 months old and I went back to dancing when she was 7 weeks old. I stopped because I felt I couldn't provide her with the care during the day that I was able to give when I wasn't dancing because after dancing all night I was too tired and would spend the day in bed (when I say the day, I mean until noon). So she'd be laying there awake, I'd get up and change her and feed her but I would lay back down. Now, she's old enough where I'm comfortable sending her to daycare. So if I go back, I'm taking her to daycare in the morning so I can get a few winks and she's still being well taken care of. I just got a day job though and I will be starting school on top of that in september so if I do work, it will be once or twice per month when her dad is home to watch her.

    I really don't know how women dance and care for their kids. Hats off to those women who can balance it because I couldn't.
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    I hope I can balance being a mommy and dancing... I miss it alot But I'm sure it can be done!

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    I just went back to dancing, my daughter just turned 1.
    Honestly it was pretty easy to get back into, not really like starting all over again even though I thought it would be. I am fortunate my mom is very helpful with watching my daughter so I don't have to worry about that. It hasn't been hard for me to balance, no different I think than working any other job and being a mom. I work 3, maybe 4 nights a week and spend the rest of my time with my daughter.
    It's been really nice getting back to dancing it's made me much happier and I feel alot more like my old self again.
    Good luck!

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    Good luck u can do it!
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