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    Ok, Ive always been independent. I live with my man, and sometimes it drives me crazy. I like not having to pay rent and live in a big ass house.... but I would do just fine on my own.
    I pay all the utilities. Ive actually paid them ahead, like I used to do before I moved in with him. I cant sit around here and not do something. He tells me all the time PAY UR OWN BILLS BABY DONT WORRY BOUT D HOUSE. But the grown woman in me I guess, likes to kick in and help out. I don't sit at d table I dont contribute to.I just cant do it.
    Anyways... every man wants to feel needed. Thats in their nature, I guess. They want to be there for us. HE wants to be there for me, but the thing is...what can he do for me? I can change my own oil/tires,I know how to diagnose every weird sound in my truck, I can pay my own bills and the house bills too so I dont need his money,I buy my own clothes, even though he works hard and has enough.He takes me out to eat and I always take my own money in, lol and offer to pay (he doesnt let me) I dont ever have to ask him for help for anything.
    Maybe this is brought on by d fact that he's started working freakin 24/7 and Ive gotten used to doin it all on my own again... IDK.

    But WHAT could I possibly do to make him feel "needed"? Ask him to unscrew the cap off d spaghetti jar? I can do that too, damn it! LOL

    --this is meant to stay light, guys..I know theres always one in a bunch to start drama!-- But this aint that serious! ---

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    You aren't working now?

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    Yes, Im working. Whats that have to do with anything? Even when I wasnt working, I always have money.

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    Pussy doesn't lick itself!

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    ^The day it does, y'all are going to riot in the streets in terror. Trust me, we're working on developing this technology. Self lickin' vulvas for all!

    OP, he loves you, right? Then he loves who you are, including your independence. Don't change for him. Allow him little things now and then to feel useful though.
    Get the fuck off my harbl, yo'.

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    If he is a good man and you want to hang onto him. Make him feel wanted and appreciated. If not he will gladly find a woman that he feel that needs him.

    I agree ArmySGT pussy doesnt lick it self! LOL

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    Im sayin...what can I do to make him feel I need him? I always find myself doin things myself..because I just can.
    But I do tell him every day thank you for all you do, and working so hard for us. But really, its not for US. LOL Because I dont care if he has money or hes broke, doesnt bother me any. (ok, yall know what I mean)
    Ill try to find lil ways to need him.... besides sex, duh... LOL

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    Let him take your car to get the oil changed or put air in your tire.
    Take out the trash.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sxcbbw View Post
    ^The day it does, y'all are going to riot in the streets in terror. Trust me, we're working on developing this technology. Self lickin' vulvas for all!
    self licking vulvas? ROTFL


    OP: regardless of how independent or capable you are, there is nothing wrong with allowing someone else to take a bit of the load off for you and simultaneously boost their own ego a bit.
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    Default Re: Im too independent!.......?

    not sure I see a problem here...what's the bone of contention for him? Maybe I missed it...

    also, can you type out "the" instead of using "d"...? Sorry to ask, just looks...not right...

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    ^LOL sorry Hyde....I text a lot on my cell, and I got into d sorry THE habit of short handing everywhere!
    Well, I asked him to take my truck to get looked at this weekend, its making weird noises. I think he feels very useful now.

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    i don't know what you should do to make him feel needed. i don't know the details of your relationship.

    but what you should do is stop paying his utility bills for him. when the relationship ends, you might wish you'd kept your money. or it won't end and you can use it for an awesome honeymoon. who knows.

    hell, have him help you by choosing what savings account is best to put all the money you aren't spending on his bills. lol.
    -love everyone but keep them far from your soul-

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    Quote Originally Posted by ArmySGT. View Post
    Pussy doesn't lick itself!
    lol ^that's SO fucking funny!!!

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    I let my guy cook, and when we're in the shop together, for a small shop, I just sand back and let him pay, or I forget my purse every now and then. But the important thing is saying 'tank you' because that is what truly shows you appreciate what he's doing.

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    Default Re: Im too independent!.......?

    If he's working almost 24/7, he needs you to manage things around the house. The fact that you can pay for everything doesn't mean that you should or need to. You could open a separate joint account and both contribute to it for household expenses, so you could manage common things without asking him to get out his own checkbook. Which he may not have much time to do now anyway. Your time together sounds short, so quality loving time is at a premium. Tell him so. Make sure he knows you want him as a big part of your life.
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

    NOTE: anything I post here, outside of a direct quote, is my opinion only, which I am entitled to. Take it for what you estimate it is worth.

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