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    Question Can you make too much money?

    My club is very competitive. I am one of the top earners.
    On my last stage set around 3am, two guys were tipping me, one tipped me over $50 and the other bought a lap dance from me right from the stage. I had already done about $100 in dances with the third friend of the group. When I got off stage I took the prepaid one off to the couch room. The other one asked me to come back. We did a few songs and returned. A very unattractive, annoying dancer was sitting with the friend. He had his back to her totally focusing on the stage with his hands on his head and his elbows on the tip rail. She was trying really hard to engage him, whispering in his ear, rubbing his back, etc. I stood back behind them for about two songs to give her the chance to sell him. The second of those two songs was the "last five songs of the night" announcement. At this time everyone starts hustling harder. They were soo not moving. Typically I would move on, make money elsewhere but they were my 'group' and I didn't want to start hustle from scratch at this late in the night. I asked one of the bouncers how to handle this without upsetting her or hurting her feelings. He told me to ask one of the friends to buy him a dance from me to get the ball rolling. I thought that was shady, but effective. I did that and danced out the last three songs of the night with him.
    She complained to the managers; who took my side and then proceeded to talk shit about me to the bouncers on her way out. Her argument was that I made $500, why did I need him, too. (she has no idea how much money I make.)
    At first I felt really bad. Then I was told the hateful/hurtful things she was saying about me and I got pissed. I've made my mind up that he was my customer, not hers, because of previous tipping and invitation to return. Not my fault she chose to sit next to him.
    Should I back off and let other dancers who aren't as good as me get the money? How should I have handled this situation?

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    Default Re: Can you make too much money?

    Hell no. She wants to earn more money? She can stop being so whiny and maybe people will want a dance.

    If you have the hustle going and she does not, that is not your problem. You're not at the club to make friends, but pay your bills. Do not feel guilty about being the best, no one twisted your arm and forced you to rock.
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    Default Re: Can you make too much money?

    ^^Agreed. Her fault she doesn't have a hustle you have. Every girl works differently, don't ever let anyone make you feel like you need to cool it. Keep your hustle going.





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    Default Re: Can you make too much money?

    Should I back off and let other dancers who aren't as good as me get the money?
    What?
    Never.

    If they want to make money they need to up their game not make you lower yours for their sake. The money pie is big enough for everyone.

    She is expecting a handout in a strip club. That's not how it works. If she can't handle the free market she needs to go apply for food stamps or something.

    In answer to your question "Can you make too much money?"

    NEVER.




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    I agree with what is being said, its her problem not yours.
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    Default Re: Can you make too much money?

    Quote Originally Posted by Gabrielle MB View Post
    I've made my mind up that he was my customer, not hers, because of previous tipping and invitation to return. Not my fault she chose to sit next to him.
    Exactly. She's the one who tried to invite herself to the group. It's not your fault they obviously preferred you. I have zero qualms about situations like this.....they are the customers and they get to chose who they spend their money on. If that person is me, then I am going to squeeze every last dollar out of that group.

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    Thanks everyone.

    I put alot of effort into my stripping career. Sales research, body, hair, makeup, motivation. I deserve every dollar I make.
    I constantly hear from other dancers shit like, you’re so lucky your body’s so fit/ you’re so pretty/you make so much money followed by I hate you or 'playful' bitch.

    Yeah... I’m 31 with three kids, the youngest under a year old and I have the fat gene. It has nothing to do with the hour and a half I work out every day. Or the 45 minutes of hair and makeup not to mention the amount of $ the stuff costs. Or the fact that I've been dancing since '99. If I haven’t learned how to hustle money by now, I should have found another occupation.

    I give 100% every night. This past weekend my high dollar regular was visiting me. When I was in the dressing room, I made a comment complaining because I had forgotten the gstring that matched the dress I was wearing. One of the other girls said it didn’t matter since my regular was here, Id make my money no matter what. I said that when he's here I try harder, not half ass it. My hustle buddy was there and she said, that’s why she keeps the customer. ($1000+ a night, multiple nights in a row, sweet, respectful, intelligent, he rocks!)
    Now, the girl who said that and the girl from last night, are both 30 to 40 lbs overweight and wear minimal makeup, NEVER smile and wear unflattering outfits. My friend said that it's easier for people like that to hate me for my success rather than themselves for their shortcomings. I guess its hurting me because i've really become a force the past few months and I'm losing alot of friends over envy. It's a double edged sword.

    I'm glad I have stripperweb to get all this out. Thank you.

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    Default Re: Can you make too much money?

    this is a strip club, not community charity day. It sucks that there is a top of the pack and several bottoms of the pack, but that is the nature of the business. If you make your money cleanly and without being cutthroat, then dont feel guilty, feel rich!
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    Default Re: Can you make too much money?

    ^^^ Agreed. Also, the nice thing about being a top earner is that once you get into that swing you'll almost always be a top earner no matter where you go.

    You get one of two types when you are a top earner: dancers who are jealous & dancers who try to mimic your every move.

    Personally, I prefer the latter of the two... at least they are trying!
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    Default Re: Can you make too much money?

    Business is business and any business is brutal. Those who work the hardest make the most and succeed. You should never feel bad about being successful. Unless you are blatantly ripping people off. I believe strongly in honest work. In a strip club I know those lines can be blurred. But it doesn't sound like you really did anything wrong here. They wanted you and I don't think asking another guy to buy his friend a dance is deceiving, I do it all the time. Guys often want to buy each other dances rather than themselves, I sell multiple dances this way. If it was the last few songs of the night and he wasn't responding, she should have moved on anyway.

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    I get the same bitching, oh you just care about the money duh? thats what I am there for and I am nice. if I am busy I will pass one of my regulars to a girl to keep him amused while he waits for me.I don't feel guilty no you can not make too much money hell!! thats what its all about .guys like who they like and are often willing to wait for a girl he likes.I do not sreal regulars but if a guy askes me ,I dance for him. first I don't always know he's a girls regular client and its the guys choise where he spends his money.girls say how would you like it i stole one of your regulars I take the sane approch if he wants a change who am I to tell him he can't.
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    Default Re: Can you make too much money?

    Honey don't even cloud your mindspace with such a question.... Get your money, that's what your there for, no other female in that clubs pays your bills so therefore their feelings, opinions etc ate null and void

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    If she's paying attention to how much you make, she's following your tail and trying to milk the crumbs from your customers. Fuck her, I wouldn't have waited. I would have gone up to him and said, "I'm back, insert custys name." She cost you money.
    I don't think she is a good eanouph dog for you, because a good dog knows how to sit after they heal.

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    I agree with the 'business is business' attitude. There is no reason for you to feel bad for working hard and getting paid for it!

    Not only are you in the right, but she is acting extremely unprofessional!

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    Default Re: Can you make too much money?

    Don't feel bad. I agree w/someone of the other posters your there to make $$ not friends. Theres only so much time we have to do this for a living so I say make as much $$ as u possibly can, while u still look and feel good enough to do it.

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    Default Re: Can you make too much money?

    Hell yes you deserve everthing you make there's always that line btwn friends and work enviorment. Maybe you can direct her by telling her to 'read this' or whatnot. Really though don't let that stop your work.


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    Default Re: Can you make too much money?

    I've been both a lower earner and a higher earner (certainly not a top earner...yet!) and as much as I remember my jealousy as a lower earner, this is a competitive business, and its her job to use that jealousy to up her game. Also, you're not doing her any favors by "giving" her business. She'll never learn that way. I'm glad that when I first started I worked with girls who put everything into their game because it motivated me to compete and be the best that I can be. When I look back on when I first started, I can't help but cringe. So glad I got past that! If she's serious about this, she will invest in herself like you have.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gabrielle MB View Post
    Thanks everyone.

    I guess its hurting me because i've really become a force the past few months and I'm losing alot of friends over envy. It's a double edged sword.
    If they were really your friends, swords would not be involved and if they were really your friends that would be happy for you not envious. I agree with the other girls, there is more than enough to go around and you take as much as you can because you are absolutely right, you deserve it! Rock on girl!

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    Default Re: Can you make too much money?

    I'm kind of dealing with the same issue. After taking 3 month break from dancing, I bounced around clubs and finally landed where I am now. I didn't talk to very many girls, hardly any of the entertainers new me, but I immediately hit it off with all of the support staff. I started making money, and very quickly started making more than most girls there, which pissed some of them off. Being there for a 4 or 5 months, and knowing the club, the regulars, knowing who does what on every night that I work, I am able to make really good money. Yet girls get down right mad at me. I am friendly. Some of the girls ask me for tips, and I will give them some tips, and sometimes tell them what I do. They are appreciative. They know I have been doing this for a long time.
    On Saturday, it seemed as if everyone had a bad night. Girls were counting their money in the locker room bitching that they have not made anything. I started hearing things - 'Yeah Natasha always seems to make money" and things like that... I was the only girl off the list that night, and the only girl with the most dances, which seems to be pretty typical.

    I tell the girls that making money is about attitude, jealousy and bitching that somebody else is making more money than you isn't going to get you anywhere near to your goal for the night.

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