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    Default Re: How do I tell my friend this, or should I just stop it?

    You need to give her a heads up NOW so she can make other arrangements. Just tell her that once your school starts you'll need all the sleep you can get, and you won't be able to drive her home after work.
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    Default Re: How do I tell my friend this, or should I just stop it?

    Oh yeah this happened to me. Sounds like nice girl syndrome. She completely took advantage of the situation though, and had me going all over town taking her kid everywhere.

    I wish I knew what to tell you but it really is hard. I cut all ties with this girl because she was a real user... she even called me after my friend passed away and was like 'All the girls at the club said you didn't like me and blah blah blah...' Literally, like 3 hours after he passed away and she cared more about stupid club drama that didn't even happen.

    I'm not sure if the girl is using you or not, but in my situation she was. I'd just talk to her about it and be nice but let her know that it's costing you money. Would it be cheaper for her to ride the subway than give you 5 bucks? Or is that a safety issue with her not wanting to ride it late at night?

    You have to look out for number one. I know you said you have school, so you also have to look at you losing sleep.
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    Default Re: How do I tell my friend this, or should I just stop it?

    Tell this to her about a week or two in advance of school (so she isn't left in the lurch) and say specifically "I just wanted to give you the heads up that school is starting for me, my schedule is changing, and I'm going to need to get home earlier after work." Without sounding like you are whining or insinuating with your voice/demeanor that you feel bad (that would give her the upper hand) and without mentioning the fact that you have been taking her home quite a bit lately, say, "But I will still be able to take you to the train station after work if you need me to." That's it. She may say "So you can't take me home anymore?" Matter or factly, and politely, (don't get whiny or weak) just explain again that you won't be able to fit in the round trip it takes to get you both home during the semester.

    That what I would do. It still offers her something (a ride to the train) while staying firm to your own needs. She can't get mad at that. Who could get mad at someone's school schedule, regardless how much money she gives you. She is a big girl, she can figure the rest out.


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    Default Re: How do I tell my friend this, or should I just stop it?

    You just have to tell her - she may be pissed for a while, but eventually she'll understand. I mean, it makes sense that you can't drive her home every night when you have your own responsibilities to attend to, and if she's your friend she'll realize this. Besides, she must work some nights that you don't - how does she get home then?

    She's a stripper. She at least must make $20 to get a cab home at night. She's a big girl and can take care of herself; don't let yourself get taken advantage of.



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    Default Re: How do I tell my friend this, or should I just stop it?

    I don't think that she is conciously using you necessarily, but it's likely that she may have no idea of how much running a car costs.

    I would suggest that the best thing to do is to tell her that it's costing you more in gas than you originally thought, and could she see her way to helping a little more. If she asks you to name it, tell her your price - but be fair, not greedy.

    As '4eversolutions' suggests, she may well be hustling her customers for cab fares....even if she isn't, she's making good enough money to help a little more.

    You don't have to be rude....but you shouldn't lie to her either. Just give it to her straight, but gently. If she gets difficult, then simply ask her to make other arrangements - explaining that it's costing you each trip.
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