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    Default How long do you give customers to "settle down" before approaching?

    How long is too long to wait to approach a customer? I don't want to bombard him by going over to him right away (unless he's looking around eagerly or unless I know him), but at the same time, I don't want to wait too long bc another dancer may go over to him.

    The reason I ask is because I see more and more dancers, where I work, going over to customers right away. The customers are also spending money on them, after awhile, and small "tells," such as the girl shaking the customer's hand, leads me to believe that the customer is not the girl's regular.

    Also, we have cocktail waitresses where I work, so I have this weird thing where I don't want to go over the guy before a waitress does...

    I have a feeling that this is all a mental barrier that I should overcome, though.

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    Default Re: How long do you give customers to "settle down" before approaching?

    I dont wait... I approach, politely and in a non aggressive manner but also confident as if I have every right to be there and what I'm doing is not abnormal. If get there before or at the same time as the waitress its fine because I can get a sense for what time of spender he is if he offers me a drink or not...I used to wait, let them get a drink, get comfy, but fuck all that. Lost out on too much money... As long as you dont hit him with sale right away, i see no problem in making your presence known right off the bat.

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    Default Re: How long do you give customers to "settle down" before approaching?

    I prefer to hang back for a minute, let him get part way through his first drink. If money in the club is tight though I don't wait. I go up and introduce myself... but I don't hustle him yet. I just let him know who I am, flirt a bit and tell him I'll check in on him a bit later... then go back when he's close to the end of his drink.
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    Default Re: How long do you give customers to "settle down" before approaching?

    Honestly it always depended on my mood. Some days I was just already to cease the day! And other days I was more relaxed and was ready to take my time.





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    Default Re: How long do you give customers to "settle down" before approaching?

    Quote Originally Posted by Pure View Post
    I dont wait... I approach, politely and in a non aggressive manner but also confident as if I have every right to be there and what I'm doing is not abnormal. If get there before or at the same time as the waitress its fine because I can get a sense for what time of spender he is if he offers me a drink or not...I used to wait, let them get a drink, get comfy, but fuck all that. Lost out on too much money... As long as you dont hit him with sale right away, i see no problem in making your presence known right off the bat.
    Perfect! I've got to stay in this mindset.

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    I usually let the waitress deliver their drinks
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    Default Re: How long do you give customers to "settle down" before approaching?

    I pounce right away. For every 3 that say "I'd like to settle in first" there's usually 1 who will invite me to chat for a few minutes, buy me a drink, and make it clear hes there to get dances. Bingo! If I hadn't come up right away, I would have missed out on that, and another dancer could have had him.

    For the ones who like to "settle in", I give them a few minutes, then try them again - sometimes they really did just want to feel out a club first, and they're fine with me joining after a few minutes. If they refuse me again, I get the picture, and I don't waste my time or theirs.



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    Default Re: How long do you give customers to "settle down" before approaching?

    i approach them as soon as they get in because of the look...im quiet but im observant..if when they come in they make direct eye contact w me not at a glance but they actually catch my eye and looks at me while going to the bar or bathroom im on it..screw everyone else. then those first few secs of me talking to them lets me know if this is going to be simple or a bit of work. by that i mean does he offer me a drink..if he does score for me and future dance score..if he doesnt then this may take a while.. the first moment of silence im out lol
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    Default Re: How long do you give customers to "settle down" before approaching?

    I always wonder about this too! I WILL go up to a guy right away, because the majority of our girls will pounce the minute he walks in the door, especially if its quiet. But most guys will say they're going to have a drink and settle in before getting dances, and since I don't want to sit there forever with them, I'll tell them I'll check back and leave. Then some chick that is happy to sit there forever for free will come along behind me, and eventually he's ready to get dances and guess who's stillllll sitting there... her! Not me! Drives me nuts.


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    Default Re: How long do you give customers to "settle down" before approaching?

    The same thing happens to me, McKenna.
    I don't like to sit forever for free. Hate the girls that do. They will just sit there all night and hog the custy even if he's not buying anything from them. *sigh I guess a free mixed drink is worth all their time.

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    Default Re: How long do you give customers to "settle down" before approaching?

    Quote Originally Posted by Miss_McKenna View Post
    I always wonder about this too! I WILL go up to a guy right away, because the majority of our girls will pounce the minute he walks in the door, especially if its quiet. But most guys will say they're going to have a drink and settle in before getting dances, and since I don't want to sit there forever with them, I'll tell them I'll check back and leave. Then some chick that is happy to sit there forever for free will come along behind me, and eventually he's ready to get dances and guess who's stillllll sitting there... her! Not me! Drives me nuts.
    Yep, this is part of the reason I'm asking. I think the girls where I am have gotten better about not sitting too long where I work, but some still sit forever. I guess this can be good if there are enough new customers coming in, bc it means that the girls who are sitting forever are more occupied, leaving the new guys to you.

    It's bad, though, bc guys become trained to want to spend more time with girls and the guy who just spent an hour with Sparkles drinking one glass of wine who has finally made up his mind to go to CR for an hour might have been able to spend 15 minutes with Bubbles and gotten a CR. The next time the guy comes in (if he doesn't have time constraints), Sprinkles may sit down with him and suggest going to CR after 3 songs, but then he'll wonder why Sparkles sat with him for longer and he'll turn down Sprinkles because she is "all about the money and doesn't really like him."

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    Default Re: How long do you give customers to "settle down" before approaching?

    It's soooooo aggressive in Vegas that certain dancers are known to grab the guy before he even sits down! If the competition is fierce at your club ... meaning a combo of aggressive dancers and dancers to custys ratio ... then sit on the custy as soon as he sits down. Do the usual ... your name, his name, where are you from, blah blah blah, then sell what you like to focus on ... it's gonna work or not but better you get the custy first than another dancer.

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    Default Re: How long do you give customers to "settle down" before approaching?

    In the good ol days guys didn't have to settle in. You could walk up, sit down and the first thing they would say is "let's go do a dance".

    Some clubs make it a rule that you cannot approach a customer until he gets a drink which I find to be stupid.

    I've only been in trouble to once for talking to a few guys before they got a dance.

    Hey if they are checking me out what am I going to do break the spell so he can get a drink?

    Don't think so.




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    Default Re: How long do you give customers to "settle down" before approaching?

    I usually sit in the front of the club, or walk around the focal points of the club (stages, vip, bar), and make sexy slutty eye contact with people. When I feel like the spark of curiosity or attraction hits, I make my move (usually 10-45 seconds). If he needs longer, I make a comedic comment to him ( *Oh I see... 5 minutes through the door, and we're already so boring you're reduced to pulling out your phone! I guess I'd better go brush my hair and throw on some lipstick!! * ) If he smiles, I'll make physical contact by brushing his sleeve, squeezing his knuckle, etc, and go to the dressing room for no more than 2 songs. Usually by then, he has his drink, and he isn't on the phone anymore. Then I make my move.

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    Default Re: How long do you give customers to "settle down" before approaching?

    Quote Originally Posted by renderedhopeful View Post
    If he needs longer, I make a comedic comment to him ( *Oh I see... 5 minutes through the door, and we're already so boring you're reduced to pulling out your phone! I guess I'd better go brush my hair and throw on some lipstick!! * )
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