Years ago I did the unthinkable: I became off club friends with one of my customers. This never happened before or since. I felt an immediate connection to him and not just physical. We connected on an emotional level. We share the same interests, goals, values, morals, and so much more. At the time we met he really wanted a relationship but at the time I was coming off an emotionally abuse relationship with an alcoholic I lived at. He kept pushing for more (not sexually) but I wasn't ready and kept pushing him back, and yes I admit it, I was mean because I was beautiful. We later lost contact for 10 years and recently refound each other on Facebook.
When we finally saw each other after all that time, sparks flew. We couldn't stop touching each other (as in hugging, kissing, and holding hands). He had told me he was still scared of a previous relationship where he got scammed. He also kept telling me he never wanted to marry or have kids, but then an hour later he asked me to date him. Then a few weeks later he called and said he didn't want a relationship, never planned to date again, etc. He made me cry and I never do that. I was so angry I had visions of hurting a random guy. It was horrific and I was more upset this happened than the times I split from years long boyfriends. Our contact after this was much less.
Fast forward to the other day. He called me and told me he was a jerk for what he said and he kept apologizing. He also told me that he is going to a counselor because he realized I was the one person he never wanted to hurt. He then told me he needs me more than he wanted to realize. He also opened up about marriage and kids, and told me that yes he was open to that with me but not until he got over his issues. We spent 3 hours on the phone and he blew me away with what he told me. He admitted things from his childhood I never knew. He told me things he never even told exgirlfriends or friends.
I admit that he's come farther than I thought he would. I'm still working with him on his sexual hangups (we aren't sleeping together, nor will I until he's better) but I am a patient person. I wouldn't be doing all of this if I didn't have faith in him. He's a great guy and once he learns to completely trust me (and he's almost there) he'll be just the like I met many years ago.
Anyone else have a situation like him?



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