Most of the discussion so far has revolved around the financial aspects, and the loss of privacy and freedom of having a parent move in. Perhaps because I am quite a bit older than most of you I am looking at the situation from a different perspective.
Before I started planning out the logistics I would discuss the matter with every family member I could talk to, and every aquaitence of his that I could. I would think about my relationship with him as well as his relationship with others in the family and his friends. I would want to totally get in touch with my feelings for him and think what our relationship has been and what we have meant to, and done for each other. I would also think about what will become of him if I don't take him in, and what it would do to my relationship with him if I didn't take him in.
The decisions you make regarding this could cause you a sense of accomplishment or a huge case of guilt that may follow you for years. Some things about him I picked up sound very troubling such as heavy weed use, talk of suicide, etc. From what has been said I get the feeling that you aren't very close and you have a lot of questions about his motives and little idea of how he will plan on living his life.
My advice is to first figure out your feelings about him and the situation, and after that go about figuring out the logistics.



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