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    Default Dancers Who Brag/Over Exaggerate About Their Money

    We've all had to deal with someone like this at one time or another but I'd like feedback on how you've handled the situation. I'll try to keep it short and to the point but I don't think I can.

    As long as I've been dancing, most girls seem to know automatically that you never tell anyone how much money you've made unless you're asked or you just keep it to yourself if you don't feel its anyone's business. Whenever I've had a great night, I prefer to keep that info to myself. The most I'll say is "I had a good night" or I had a decent night.

    There's a person that had been working every single day at one of my clubs. At first she claimed she simply wanted to get ahead. Business was great at our club before the holidays but it just never picked up again. I had one or two good nights this year but most of the time, girls can be heard complaining about the money or lack thereof. Anyway, this particular co-worker had been complaining but then all of a sudden she decided to make it a point to tell me how much money she made and/or how long she had been in VIP with a customer. One night I was polite when I said to her "I really don't need to know how much money you made."

    I had no idea that she had a live-in boyfriend she wanted to get rid of until she walked into the dressing room crying her eyes out. After she told me about her situation, I phoned a couple of people in search for a phone number to help abused women. I passed the number on to her and even phoned them for her to speak with someone. I didn't see her for two weeks after that and when I got in touch with her, she claimed they weren't able to help her but she had been working at another club where she made a lot more money. She went on and on about how much money she made off this guy and that guy, claimed she had been to VIP 12 times in the two weeks she had been at the new club, that she worked less at the new club than she did at the other, etc. She also now claimed she moved out to get away from her ex-boyfriend.

    I had tried the club before and the business was awful. In fact, most girls hate that club. I decided to try it again because a few changes had been made. As in free housefee on certain nights. This time I only tried the place out for a total of 4 nights before cutting my losses and going back to my regular club. I had been making more money at my regular club than at the new one. The clientele' is completely different at that one whereas the clientele' at my regular club is of better quality. By the way, I also learned through a manager that she was still working every single night; so she lied when she claimed that she was working less. One night I had be be rude by abruptly cutting her off the moment she opened her mouth and I firmly said "I DON'T WANT TO HEAR ABOUT HOW MUCH MONEY YOU'VE MADE!" It worked that night but I would soon find out that she has a memory a lot like Dory (the absent minded fish from Nemo).

    My annoying co-worker sent me a text one Friday asking if I was working. I said yes and she asked where. When I told her she asked why and how was it. I told her it was better than the other club. When I sent her a text the following week asking about a co-worker I was looking for, she phoned me and immediately began rambling on and on about how much money she was making and claimed that she always has a good night. I cut the call short by claiming I had another call coming in and that I would phone her back but I never did.

    When a friend of mine informed me about another night with free housefee, I decided I'd go back. This time I borrowed hubby's ipod so I could drown out the voice of my annoying co-worker. I was at my locker when the annoying one walked in so she didn't see me. But the first words out of her mouth when she walked in was "I made so much money last night...." I immediately put my headphones on. When she came over to me to say hi, just gave her a quick wave but kept the headphones on. It seems like she'd take a hint but no. It was nice of her to get her customer to buy a dance from me and I thanked her for it. But of course she couldn't wait to claim that she had made $200 off him. I immediately changed the subject by saying "Well, time to look for more customers." I avoided her for the rest of the night and wore headphones anytime she happened to be in the dressing room at the same time.

    That night a co-worker told me that she doesn't like that girl. One of the DJs said the same thing, at my regular club, someone pointed out that they've seen her annoying side, the list goes on. The DJ who doesn't like her said that she once gave him $5, asked to be skipped from stage so she could lay down in the dressing room and then claimed she hadn't made any money. Most of us are aware that when you make good money, you don't feel the need to work every single night. You feel entitled to take a few nights off. Sometimes the week if your income allows it. And most of us know that it's rude to tell people how much money you've made especially when you know that someone else had a bad night. Its not about etiquette but common sense. I don't know if this person is that dense, intentionally rude or on drugs. I'm tempted to tell her that most people feel its rude to go around talking about how much money you make unless you've been asked. How have you dealt with someone like this?

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    Default Re: Dancers Who Brag/Over Exaggerate About Their Money

    Best bet is probably to ignore her. I know how annoying it is though. There's one girl at my club that's really bad for that. Everyone knows she's lying, I'm assuming she's just trying to make herself feel better when she sees that she isn't selling nearly as many dances as some of us.

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    Sounds like she's an attention whore or on drugs. Dipshit. Gotta love them.

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    It's kinda like men with their dick sizes.
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    She definitely sounds like an attention whore.

    I used to have a friend like that who was in an abusive relationship, I tried to help her several times and listened to her go on about her problems every night for hours on the phone but then I came to realise in some sick way she was enjoying the drama and attention in her life. She totally refused to help herself and created drama after drama.

    Sounds like this girl is a compulsive liar too. I have no patience at all for people like that.

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    This is one of my dancing pet peeves. Every now and then, if someone doesn't always do it and they're excited, okay. But I had a couple work friends who constantly felt the need to tell me how much they made all the time. I would just say "good for you" and move on. Some people are just so mystified at the idea of making cash money. Some people just lack etiquette. But I like how you handled it: "STOP TELLING ME HOW MUCH YOU MAKE!" Lol I will try that one next time.

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    I worked with a girl for years who was known for making up crazy stories about the money she made. She would walk in the crowded dressing room and announce to everyone that she made a grand, when we ALL knew she only had like 5 dances on her best nights...Im embarrassed for girls like that! I always wondered if she just thought we were all stupid or if she just believed her own crazy lies.....

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    The top earners are like serial killers. They're quiet, moving about their business and they always leave you wondering.
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    ^^^^^^^^^^^Hilarious!
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    Mare called it, I think.....sounds to me like she probably has some habits she's not public about.

    I love the people who in the same sentence claim to always do well then go on about all the shit that is wrong in their life and all the stuff they can't afford.....the horrible boyfriend, whatever. (On another note I am sooo SICK of hearing about my co-workers asshole boyfriends)

    I straight up called a girl out on something similar to this not long ago. She claimed to do so well at this other club, yadda yadda yadda.....then goes on to talk about how her and her BF can't afford "real" groceries (living off of convenience store foods) and were behind on rent. Earlier that evening, I also heard her talking about their pot and video game habit, like almost bragging about how much pot her and her BF smoke in a week and also their amazing collection of video games, how many of those they buy in a week....

    So as she's complaining about being behind on rent and living on Twinkies, I straight up told her that don't even try to get sympathy from me when you told me earlier how much pot you smoke and how your life revolves around video games. So you are obviously spending all that "great" money you make on drugs and bullshit like Wii or whatever they have.....AND if you do so great at that "other club"......WHY AREN'T U THERE TONIGHT??? Instead you are here where I know for a fact you never make any money...I know that she consistently does pretty shitty.

    This same person also complains about all the health problems she has, medical bills, can't afford a doctor......I pretty much told her when you live on weed, energy drinks and Cheetohs what the fuck do you expect?

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    Quote Originally Posted by tempest666 View Post
    The top earners are like serial killers. They're quiet, moving about their business and they always leave you wondering.
    I'm going to agree with this. Normally I know I'm either the top earner or at least in the top 3 for the night. In most clubs though it's pretty rare when I don't earn the most in a night. I don't brag about it in the dressing room though - that's stupid and setting yourself up to get robbed from.

    If I talk to anyone about it normally it's people I am close to or very comfortable with, and generally I only do that to keep myself motivated - especially on bad nights. It sucks to have a bad night, but being the top earner on a bad night is certainly better than being the lowest earner on a bad night! You have to keep in mind that sometimes it literally is just the club. If a club has 3 customers all night and none of them are spenders it's different from having a club full of average spenders or a club with 3 really good spenders.

    Also, with traveling sometimes I'll hear what other house girls have made at the club and it demotivates me on the first shift, so even though I might be the top earner I made less than what I could have because I didn't work hard. Then another girl will come in who I'm friends with and if I see she's making money it will re-motivate me.
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    We had a very naive newbie a few months back come into the dressing room and announce "Oh my GOD! I never knew you could make so much $$ doing this" (turns to me) "How much money have you made?" My response: "Probably more than your total brain cell count" And I walked off. Whats sad is she wasn't on drugs, she was just an idiot.
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    ^^^ New girls rarely understand that it's can be insulting to ask people how much they made. Just correct her and let her know it's bad form.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kylea2 View Post
    ^^^ New girls rarely understand that it's can be insulting to ask people how much they made. Just correct her and let her know it's bad form.
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    I never brag about my earnings don't want the other girls to know but the other girls estimate my earnings and its some times more than they think and sometimes less than they think,either way its my biz
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    Kinda like when a puppy piddles on the floor?
    Actually, yes - pretty much. At that age they are still used to everyone telling them right from wrong and I think half of them can't really think for themselves when it comes to manners and professionalism.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kylea2 View Post
    Actually, yes - pretty much. At that age they are still used to everyone telling them right from wrong and I think half of them can't really think for themselves when it comes to manners and professionalism.
    Thanks so much for all your advice everyone. That's so funny about the puppy. I think I might enjoy whacking her with a newspaper while telling her about manners and professionalism I'd like to try a variety of things but I'll have to play it by ear. First I'll tell her that its rude to go around announcing how much money she made...If that doesn't work, I'll try Keiraire's idea. And if she still doesn't get it, I'll ask why the fuck she feels the need to tell me when #1 I didn't ask and since I didn't ask, that means I'm not interested. And #2, telling me how much she made doesn't help feed my kids, keep a roof over my head, etc. So unless she's willing to fork over some of her cash with me, I don't give a rat's ass how much she made.

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