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    Default Pregnant and Stripping? :(

    I know I don't post much on here like ever.. but am in need of advice.

    I have been away from dancing for about 2 years, dancing one or two days a month.. if that. I have been getting by with a little hostess job that pays shit. Every time I try to go back to dancing.. I am either apalled at the rampant extras and crazy contact levels, or the money just isnt there.

    The thing is I don't have any formal education, no steady job history, and am living paycheck to paycheck.

    Today I found out I am pregnant.. about 2 weeks.

    If I were to keep it, (which I want to) what can I do to get my financials together? I can't keep hostessing, and might have to dance.

    Anyone ever been in this position?

    Thank you.

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    And yes I know it's viewed as "tacky" to dance while pregnant.

    I just don't know what my recourses are if any.

    Oh and sidenote: my fiancee is struggling with jobs. So I don't want to rely on any outside income (even my own partner's/govt), I'd rather be as self-sufficient as possible.

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    I know plenty of girls who have danced while pregnant, and I don't think it's tacky - but you do need to talk to your doctor about it. You could also look into bartending, webcam work, private dancing. The pregnancy thing is a pretty big fetish.

    Also, consider paid modeling work while pregnant. Lots of photographers want maternity images for their portfolios.
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    Default Re: Pregnant and Stripping? :(

    That's good advice Kylea. I don't think its "tacky" either, but you won't be able to do it for too long, depending on your club, but probably just a few months.
    Did you do the job without drinking before? Dancing sober is def not the easiest thing, but it could work out fine.
    My gf just had a baby and is doing great. She's back at work now, but does want to leave to waitress because she just can't handle guys touching her anymore.
    Its hard because you're not supposed to stress yourself out while pregnant, but being completely broke is def more stressful than dancing and making some money.

    I just really don't know what you're going to do for the 4 months or so you won't be able to dance. You probably will not be able to put 4 months of savings away in 4 months of working. So for that period of time you'll have to rely on your fiance or the taxpayers.

    I guess I was just born with a really rational brain because I can easily say that I would not go through with the pregnancy in your situation. I am not at all saying that's what you should do, I understand most people have some type of emotional attachment to their potential future baby and are willing to work hard as shit and sacrifice everything to have it. So I know you can do it, you're just going to have to be willing to do things you weren't before.

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    First of all, I'd recommend taking another pregnancy test in 2 weeks, or going to a doctor to get a blood test to confirm the pregnancy if you haven't. You should also keep in mind that many pregnancies end before people are even aware they are pregnant, in the first few weeks. I didn't know I was pregnant with my son until 5 weeks, even though I tried taking a pregnancy test two weeks prior to the positive test (results were negative). Blighted ovum, failed implantation and other things are all possible outcomes of a pregnancy this early, so, be sure to confirm the pregnancy is viable (via an ultrasound around 9-12 weeks if your doctor approves) before you worry too much.

    I'd be concerned about the third trimester of pregnancy. I had a high risk pregnancy and my son was born 9 weeks prematurely, dancing could have aggravated my vasa previa (very dangerous complication affecting my son's health) and caused me to deliver my son stillborn because I didn't know about the condition until about 29 weeks pregnant. I would recommend being extremely careful, and if you haven't had children before you might not be aware of how physically demanding a pregnancy is.

    At 6 weeks pregnant I developed the most debilitating nausea and it didn't go away until 12 weeks, I couldn't work, barely ate and slept all day. My second trimester was alright, but I developed bad sciatic pain, and in my last trimester (the week or so I was in it anyway) I had emergency surgery! Everyone's pregnancies will differ, yours could be disastrous or uneventful. I really don't think relying on such a physically demanding job to support your unborn child and yourself is in YOUR best interest. If you can't afford to raise your child alone you can find help. WIC can help you with groceries while you are pregnant and until your child reaches age 5, and can help with formula, infant cereal and baby food once the baby is born. WIC is EXTREMELY easy to get and doesn't have all of the stringent requirements that state aid does, you don't apply through DHS or anything. Your state should guarantee you medical insurance for you and your child, you shouldn't have to pay a cent. Be sure you pick an HMO (if you don't have primary insurance) that has a hospital you like in it because you can't change them year round (at least in my state). There are plenty of other state aid programs where you are located I'm sure, so just look into them. Apply early because the whole nation is in turmoil, so applications are probably backed up and may take months to be approved.

    Kylea2 makes a good point, there are A LOT of fetish cams out there. I'm lactating right now and I could go find plenty of internet pervs to squeeze my milk in front of, but I can't waste it because I'm struggling as it is. Once you hit your 2nd trimester or so (maybe sooner) you'll have enough of a 'baby bump' to start making money camming. You won't have to worry about falling on stage, people grabbing at you, or anything weird happening like you might in the club.

    Also, when I was 6 1/2 months pregnant I was at my friend's house who started dancing at Deja Vu shortly thereafter wearing her 8 inch stilettos. I wiped out and almost fell on my stomach because when you are pregnant your center of gravity starts to diminish as you get farther along and your hip and joint muscles relax to prepare for childbirth. Walking in heels, let alone doing a stage set may be more difficult than you imagine. Also, depending on the contact levels in your club, you might have difficulties giving a lap dance comparable to other dancers which may set you back even further if you work in a "extras ridden" area. What I mean by this is that a large belly could make it difficult to grind or let your moves flow smoothly. I always looked awkward when I tried to dance around pregnant with a larger belly, and I only gained 30 lbs total. You also have to keep in mind that your club would have to be willing to LET you work there pregnant. An upscale club isn't going to let someone 5 or 6 months pregnant dance on their stage, you'd probably have to find a little dive that is nice and low key to work in.

    If camming doesn't work for you try something not so demanding, such as office work. Be wary of mentioning your pregnancy to employers initially though (unless legally required) because although discrimination is illegal, they can make up whatever BS excuse they want to not hire you. I was fired for being pregnant but it was blamed on some BS story, ironically the day after I announced I was expecting. Just watch your back and don't work under the table while pregnant. If you should get fired you can at least find comfort in being eligible for unemployment!

    I hope this helps!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kylea2 View Post
    I know plenty of girls who have danced while pregnant, and I don't think it's tacky - but you do need to talk to your doctor about it. You could also look into bartending, webcam work, private dancing. The pregnancy thing is a pretty big fetish.

    Also, consider paid modeling work while pregnant. Lots of photographers want maternity images for their portfolios.
    THIS^^^ Bartenders do pretty damn well in my clubs, and its very true that a lot of fetish guys would love you. Try for the modeling jobs too-usually would need some sort of portfolio to get started (i model also) but, considering a ton of photogs want maternity pictures in their ports too, I bet you could do well-I've never done camming but hear all the time girls doing well, anything is worth a shot! There's a will there's a way..personally, I believe everything happens for a reason, of course that's a personal choice though. Keep us updated

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    Start webcamming! Seriously, it's a very popular fetish! Best of all you can do it from your own bedroom so it won't matter too much when you're feeling tired!

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    I danced until i was about 9 weeks---horrendous morning sickness kept me out of the club. And i'm pissed about that because i didn't start showing until about a month ago. Just ask for you dr's advice. thats the simplest thing I can say. And make as much money as you can as soon as you can... and when you get too large keep your little job for income.. even if it isn't much. everything helps... believe me!

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    Webcam + WIC + (Foodstamps x 2) = win!

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    Quote Originally Posted by WorkerBee View Post
    Webcam + WIC + (Foodstamps x 2) = win!
    No, that is fraud. If one is making good money doing webcam they shouldn't be taking assistance. I hate dancers who do that (and have reported several).

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    I don't think it is tacky! Get your money! I know I would. When I get pregnant (soon hopefully) they will have to drag me out of the club.

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    Congrats on your pregnancy! You can do this. Of course there will be challenges, but all you can do is forge ahead and start making the necessary lifestyle adjustments to create the best possible foundation for you and your child. I am doing it on my own...it's been very hard, but rewarding. I am 31 weeks today. I couldn't dance for long, as the smoky club was making me sick and I didn't want to breathe that stuff in. I am working two jobs and trying to save...unfortunately, I ran into a lot of pregnancy descriminatiion and was unemployed for several months, thus putting me pretty far behind on bills.

    I strongly reccomend staying on top of your health and networking with other mom's who have been in your economic shoes. DHS can be a real mindfuck when it comes to getting assistace...but don't give up, and ask lots of questions. You will hopefully qualify for some sort of help, even if it is temporary.

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    to the op, u prolly wont start noticably showing til 4 mos or mebbe longer. u can strip til then. also, ask the club if theyll let u bartend, be a doorgirl, etc so u can work longer. in the meantime, look for a better job than ur hostess stint. does the hostess job that "pays shit" even give u healthcare? if not, then screw em. if so, then keep it just for the sake of the health insurance (trust me maternity expenses are a BITCH to pay for if u dont have health insurance) but strip at nite or try to find a second job. have u considered a temp agency for office work? it's low stress, and it allows u to sit down insteada bein on ur feet all the time. prolly pays atleast slightly more than the hostess gig anyway.

    Quote Originally Posted by WorkerBee View Post
    Webcam + WIC + (Foodstamps x 2) = win!
    WorkerBee, you should change ur name to LazyBee. a true "worker" wouldnt think like that. ur a brainless idiot to tell others to commit fraud at the expense of all us people who actualy pay taxes (and im in a high bracket!)

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    Dance & webcam. When you can't dance anymore, webcam more! Use your pregnancy to your advantage. : )

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    I hate to rain on this parade, but if you couldn't make money while not pregnant because of rampant extras and contact, etc., i don't see how you can go dance successfully (i.e. earn any money) while pregnant. all the stuff that makes you not stick around will still be there, plus you'll be pregnant and dealing with stuff like morning sickness and mood changes.

    you have gone two years without really making a move to transition beyond stripping or figure out a way to make stripping pay. you really should go on what welfare programs are available and take the time those aid programs provide to figure something out and make some longer term plans.

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    Quote Originally Posted by 420bUnNy View Post
    Lol, you'd be a dead woman where I come from. Just sayin'.
    Wow, so there's many freeloaders doing it. I'd be turning all of them in. They should not take advantage. And I carry a gun so no I wouldn't be a dead woman, just sayin'.

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    Getting WIC & food stamps is not fraud IF you're making under a certain amount of money. Many students who are working assistantships or work-study still qualify for food stamps even without children, and if you add a dependent child, you are more likely to qualify. Just because someone dances or does webcam doesn't mean they are working all the time and making bank (especially in this economy).

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    Quote Originally Posted by 420bUnNy View Post
    Lol, you'd be a dead woman where I come from. Just sayin'.
    so u think its ok to defraud taxpayers, but "wrong" for someone to despise having higher taxes as a result of unnesessary welfare claims? how retarded...girl, ud be a "dead girl" where I come from! bring it on! JUST SAYIN!


    and to the op...DONT go on welfare, u'll feel more self pride if u dont. u dont want to feel "feeble" by having to go on the same programs as someone that is handicapped, mentally retarded, old with "creaking bones", etc do u? not saying theres anything wrong with those people who legitimitely need it, just itd make you feel stupid to be lumped in with people that have a true disibility when u dont. and no pregnancy is not a disibility. if anything infertility is more if a disibility than bein a fertile myrtle. i have alot more respect for a visibly pregnant stripper who pays for stuff herself, than someone like Goldie who goes on medicaid/medical even tho she's still stripping for a bit and braggin bout making $900 in one nite stripping in san fran not much earlier.

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    Sit down and go on online banking and figure out where your money has been going. If you don't put your money in the bank, then you really should start doing so. Why? Because if you do need to go on welfare you have proof of how much has been going in to and out of your bank account.

    Honesty is the best policy in dealing with the welfare authorities. They will help you if absolute need be. They will go through your finances with a fine tooth comb and you will get approved if they deem so. And trust me the process is a lot easier if you are honest with them. They are not horrible people.



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    it's different in america, they do penalize people for having money in the bank, even if it's mostly just been 'bill money'.

    the OP is more likely to get the breathing room and help she needs if she has as few assets as possible.

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