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Good for you!
On my way to being the Bitch Goddess of your dreams... or nightmares.





Why thank you!








One thing I have learned recently, is that I'm all about self-preservation. Even in matters of the heart. I will never put my life on hold or struggle unnecessarily to satisfy someone else.
Stay strong and prosperous.
Women of color:
Shake your ass and preserve your heritage.
Bang those fucking drums.
Do it for the present and future generations.
Have fun and stick it to the man at the same time. (bad-dominicana)





Lol is it wrong that I love the fact that this thread is still going? But it does seem to be a universal issue here on SW doesn't it? Right now I'm just taking everything one day at a time, but I think that I am going to take a page out of Malaya's book and find myself a sugar daddy (or 2 or 3). Yes, I am all about having my cake and eating it too. I am a greedy (kinds selfish sometimes) wench, and I accept that about myself. I really don't see what's so great about being constantly selfless and constantly giving the world all you have, all of your time and energy, been there, done that, it's EXHAUSTING, screw that. I love my boyfriend, so I want to keep him around, we are good together end he spoils me "emotionally", which I need. But loyalty and understanding doesn't pay the bills. And somewhere over the past 3-4 years I have become rather materialistic. I like pretty "things", so I want someone that will give me pretty "things". Things that I just don't have the freedom or means to do or have right now. And that's where the sugar daddy comes in. Ladies I am all about loopholes and getting my way. And suprisingly enough I don't even have to do the sugar daddy thing behind my boyfriend's back because he says it's fine with him. (Though I think that's mostly because he doesn't think I will find one anyway or lose interest before I do and be on to the next adventure), but whatever, I'll take it! No way canhe take it back now, MOAHAHAHA!
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*sigh* Ditto!!
If he'll allow (I hate that word=allow) you to have a sugardaddy then by all means. I just don't understand choosing love over money. I was with a guy that I LOOOOOOVED so so so so so so so so much. I finally told him I was an escort and he started calling me all these names telling me it was either him or my job.. guess what? I chose my job. I asked him "Are you willing to give me at least 4k every month" and he said no.. and I said BYE. I know it's a universal issue here on sw but I wouldn't choose my "boyfriend" over my job my husband? "Maybe" but he better be loaded or just learn how to deal with it. Yes Love is great. Yes cudding is nice, kissing, touching.. and all that but Love does not pay my $1179 rent..not does it pay my car insurance.. and it also dosen't pay for my Dior perfume. I gotta have my Dior perfume or else whoever I'm with will be very unhappy. I'm a firm believer of "If you can't get it for me, I will get it myself". Yes not a lot of guys want their girlfriend to be an escort/dancer/camgirl but my guy will have to deal with it or I'll just continue being single.
Now what kills me is when these women have emotionally/physically abusive boyfriend and still let the guy tell them they can't do so and so. Um hell no! I have lots of friends in emotionally abusive relationships They won't cam/dance/escort because their boyfriends don't want them to meanwhile they're living in a trailer and watch basic cable! It's mind blowing that some people let men that they're not even married to control their lives. I believe in Control your destiny or someone else will. Do what you love and be happy. You have kids? Make sure you give him/her the best life possible. It's YOUR life not YOU and YOUR boyfriend's life. My boyfriend of 2 years asked me to marry him and I said no. Yes I loved him but I loved him enough to leave him alone. Some people are just not worth it. If he loved you he would love you unconditionally and would want you to be happy!
Your words ArialWe are living paycheque to paycheque and it makes me sick. And what really PISSES me off is that we DON'T have to live like this. I could go out, be an escort and make bank! But oooooh noooo, we can't have Aria saving the day because no girlfriend of his is going to go shake her ass on stage or dance with strangers.
Damn forreal.. I'm just now reading this. He won't let you dance either?Does he know you cam?
Last edited by malayataylor; 07-06-2010 at 08:22 AM.
dance and cam and escort. at the end of the day, all that matters is the money. not a SO who cares about you. ~why can't you have both?





Le sigh, it would be so much easier if he WAS physically or emotionally abusive. That I could deal with, been there, handled that, boys got beat down. The problem is that he's NOT. He is against the sex industry because he was brought up that way. It doesn't make him a bad person it just means we have different beliefs. For me the sex industry is ok but selling or doing recreational drugs isnt. For him smoking pot (or selling it) ect, is ok but the sex industry isn't. He was brought up that sex and our bodies is something private to be cherished. I was brought up the same way, except I somehow also grew the distinction between work sexuality and personal life sexuality. Yes it causes problems and probably will continue to in the future I know. The thing is though over the past coupple of years he has really tried expanding his boundries, first with me really delving into being a Domme (he doesn't get bdsm it freaks him out but he was willing to push past his discomfprt so that I could go out and do my thing, and then with camming).
I think Malaya that you and I are looking at the term "boyfriend" in different lights. It's not all just kissing and cuddling. It's being there for one another through devistating disasters, job losses, cancer, violently painful family situations, creating a home together. We have been through all of this and were working TOWARDS getting married. I have never casually dated, I am perpetually single. But this relationship is serious not just snuggles and cute text messages. Really the only difference between us now and if we were married is a bunch of paperwork. He has supported me in every crazy scheme that I have ever come up with except the ones that go COMPLETELY against his lifelong beliefs and even then he has tried to be more understanding. And THAT'S why it's so hard. Because he is ALWAYS trying to make me happy. Yesterday he got a new, higher-paying job AGAIN back with a company he loves and worked for a few years ago. He's not a slacker. He's funny, supportive, adores me, and understands my kind of crazy.
BTW Malaya, I HATE the word "allowed" as well, the term usually puts me in a fighting mood I just couldn't think of another word at the time.
Malaya hear completely what you're saying. "If you can't get it for me, I will get it myself," I have just always hated hurting people that I care about. In the ned I am still just too NICE. I know that there are other man out there with the amazing qualities I amnt AND the money but, I suppose right now I am just too scared. I never admit to being scared of anything really, but I am. Sometimes I am so certain one way or the other and then suddenly nothing makes sense, damn now I'm gonna cry!![]()





Ditto!
My man and my money is separate. My man has nothing to do with my money. When My man interferes with my money he's GONE UNLESS he's loaded and can afford to take care of me financially .. meaning i have everything I need, the bills are paid and my daughter is taken care of minimum. Anything else, I don't understand that I've always been like this. If he can't do anything for me he's gone.. A man is supposed to be a Man and if he can't take care of me to where I don't have to work in the sex industry and complains about me doing what I have to do to take care of HOME (Him included) .. it's a wrap. This is my policy and I will continue live by it.
Couldn't have said it better myself Malaya! My man stands by me and has no problem with anything I do-he met me as an stripper, porno chick , camgirl, and he has never expected me to change. Love is important, but I'm not putting my career on hold. There's only so many years I can do this. And personally (no offense to anyone!) I feel that true love doesn't hold you back.
alexacruz.shakinit.com





^ Well said, True love will not judge you. Nope it sure won't.
i guess im pretty lucky too... my man lets me do w/e i want really... i asked him about doing porn and he says he loves me a supports it. he knows its just a job. anyone know if porn companies let you use ur bf? he's got a slammin body and he's totally pornostar in bed, he just doesn't know im thinking of using him. (i honestly doubt he'll do it, but im still curious) it's nice to know i have the support.... it's still my own self holding me back from porn or escorting.





Ugggg. You guys are right of course. My man should love and support me no matter what I do. And if he doesn't want me to be in the industry then he needs to be able to support the both of us if he is going to be trying to make those kinds of decisions. I know that my love for him isn't unconditional because if he were to start cooking and dealing meth or some crazy shit like that (not that he EVER would, just an example) I would leave his ass. I am not a "ride or die" bitch. I am a "if you get your ass landed in jail fuck you you selfish bastard" kinda girl. I don't settle, I have never BEEN one to settle, so why settle when it is something this important right?
also keep in mind a role reversal situation... i think i'd prolly be all HELL NO if my bf decided to start letting chics suck his cock for money. (IN HIS FUCKING DREAMS LOL) i honestly don't think i'd be okay with it. but i do like it when he supports me in what i do![]()





As long as he supports you that's all that matters.
Just from reading the forums: It's amazing to me how these so called men think it's ok to sell drugs and literally brainwash their girlfriends to think that selling drugs is ok and stripping or doing anything else in the adult industry is considered "BAD". Ha.. Please! I woudln't be dating anyone that sold drugs in the first place. I, for one, thinks it's a huge turn OFF!





^Ditto. I think that selling hard drugs is way more harmful than the adult industry. Very few people have died from overdoses of (safe) sex or lapdances.![]()
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Exactly to me drugs have always always equalled WTF?/NOOO! I just don't understand puting something on your body that is meant for NOTHING more than fucking you up. And for those stupid people out there that instantly go "but you drink alcohol!" ummmm yeah, but white zinfandel is delicious, and beer is refreshing. And I can have 1 or 2 and enjoy the taste without effing myself up and getting addicted or something crazy like that. I don't drink it thinking "I am doing this just to put myself into an altered state" when that is ALL drugs are good fore. You can't tell me coke helps to bring out the flavor in fish or like an alfredo sauce. *eyeroll*
I have just never understood being "stingy" with sexuality, when it can help so much.When it comes to health (sex helps sooth menstral cramps and burn calories), mental health (the people that have more sex tend to live longer happier lives, thank you endorphines), self-esteem (who doesn't love a beautiful woman flirting with them? Even if she may be getting paid), social services (think of all those men and women in wheel chairs that can't find people to have sex with!!! Escorts are their SAVIORS sometimes!)
I say VIVA LE DOIN IT!





P.S. what's a gorl gotta do to become a senior member around here, I realize I had to start my account over but come oooonnnn, I want another staaaar, lol
I personally would not care about drugs if A) the "supplies" were not kept in the house, B) It was ONLY reefer or occasionally shrooms, and C) Nobody ever came to the house for pick-up.
That, and I got unlimited supply of free reefer. Because a stoned Wanderlust is a happy Wanderlust.





^ Why am I not suprised you said that.. LOL! Of course![]()
LOL. Just the natural stuff for me, I would never, ever date someone who sold crack, cocaine, heroin, etc...they would actually get reported. I have mega issues with that shit. Not only does it destroy lives and families, but part of the reason there's a legal blockade between my precious reefer and I is because it's considered a gateway drug to all this shit.
No bueno!!!!





I don't mind pot smokers but I wouldn't wanna date a dealer. That's just bad for my already jumpy nerves.
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