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    Default Re: Finding a new place alone!

    I run with a couple different groups in the evenings. It is a major social outlet for me. I am lucky tho that I am able to show up at work fairly late.

    I also try to make lunch plans with people. This gets me out of bed and I socialize. Even people who had regular jobs/school usually get a break for lunch.

    Have your girlfriends over on a night off for a girl night. Cook food and be silly.

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    Wow, yeah - good for you for deciding to get away from him!

    Why don't you check on Craigslist for shared living spaces where the rooms are rented out individually. It sounds like that would give you some people to be around and keep you company.
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    You did the right thing in breaking up with your boyfriend. He's definitely not someone that you would want to be totally dependent on.

    Is there anyone in school or at work that you could do things with? Are there any groups or clubs at school you would be interested in joining?

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    I"m sorry to hear you guys broke up, I thought I read somewhere in your past posts that he was totally supportive of you in dancing? I feel for ya, girl. I don't know where you live but.... you can come down to sunny florida :-)

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    I'm glad you made the decision to get out of this situation.
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    I have no girlfriends except like 2 haha. And their always busy when Im not.. Lost most of the contact with people I knew since they were into hardcore drugs... or going nowhere.

    And sharing a room... I dont know.. I have a pole, a huge lizard tank.. plus Im clean freak and dont really want to clean after others mess... lol
    Not sharing a room, sharing a rental. Usually metro areas will have homes where people rent out the individual rooms, sometimes multiple rooms. You could look at that as an option. Going in you'd be able to get an idea of how clean the other roommates are when you viewed the place, and a lot of those are on month-to-month or short term lease... which is nice!
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    Default Re: Finding a new place alone!

    Dude threatened to kill your pet, thats some psycho shit right there. You should miss him about as much as you would miss cancer.

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    Come see me... I'll make you forget all about him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Trem View Post
    Dude threatened to kill your pet, thats some psycho shit right there. You should miss him about as much as you would miss cancer.
    Yeah I agree! This guy is bad fucking news, good riddance to him.

    Being alone is not so bad, and certainly better than an asshole like that. As you get used to it, you will find that single life has serious advantages. Oh one thing I have found is fun to do when eating out alone is to bring a good book with you.
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    Good job to you. You deserve WAY better than this jerk. Before I met my current GF I was alone lots of the time. One thing I did was get a silly job one day a week at a local coffee shop - then I got to chat with customers, and hang out with my co-workers who were mostly young and fun. Having a responsibility gave me the motive to leave my apartment, but it resulted in a few friends with no pressure. Then when I was super bored or walking around the neighborhood I could pop in to say hi and grab a cup if coffee. It was just silly and social, mostly but it made me feel like I had a good network of people to chat with. Also, you could take a poke dance class, or try a knitting group if you're into that... volunteer at an animal shelter... I'm not religious but if you are there might be a church choir or something you could join... It doesn't always have to be structured or anything, but just getting to laugh or talk about silly stuff with some new people once a week or more helps to lighten my spirits.

    Good luck!

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    Default Re: Finding a new place alone!

    *hugs* It's hard babe. I'm sorry about the breakup. I do think it's better for you in the long run. Controlling men are no good.

    Also, I'm a pretty keep to myself kind of person during the day, but we can hang out! I have no one to go out to dinner with, go to movie with either. WE'LL BE BFFS OMG! lol

    Yeah, and sharing a room in a house on a month to month basis would be a good idea for you. Check out roomshares on craigslist and Kijiji and Padmapper. Just don't tell 'em you're a stripper.



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    You mention you are in school? Are you sure you can't make friends with people in your classes? I was in a 10+ yr relationship/marriage and thought I was HORRIBLE with people. Once I left and started school back tho, I realized that I am a popular person who has made several good friends that will last. Are you certain that you have no friends in school? Really look around, I would have missed all 3 of my besties a few years ago.
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    I remember some posts you had about your bf before. I'm really happy you broke up with him! You really didn't want to but it seems like you have grown a lot since you joined this board. Recently my mom killed my pet. It really hurt me, and it made me realize I don't need crazy people like this around, neither do you!

    I'm low on friends as well. But I've found that a lot of my old friends still want to hang out with me. Also, when I'm single I'm more social. I'm sure that now since you're single you'll meet more people and have more time to hang out with them.
    There are a lot of people in your position. Go hang out with them too! Sometimes you have to be the one to make plans, but I have friends who made life changes or went through a breakup, and now we're hanging out more because we both need friends!
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