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    Default A friend wants to follow my footsteps but I've been lying to her

    Sorry if this doesn't belong here but I have been living two lives. I am a former adult film star of 5 years in the industry. Everyone in my life knows this and I don't hide that from people. I love the industry but I gave it up over a year ago. I also webcam and everyone knows that I do this. I never actually stripped before. lol, probably the only one on this site who has never stripped in a club. But since January this year, I started escorting. That is something I won't tell anyone. But I feel horrible because I go on tour every other month for a couple weeks, I tell people I do modeling and nobody knows what I'm really doing. That hurts me more than anything. But I couldn't imagine people finding out the truth.

    I am from a smaller suburban town in the midwest, where escorting isn't so common. If it is, it doesn't feel upscale and just seems too shady. I never heard of anything like that around here. I always leave town and go to the east coast. But I have one friend in particular from my home town. She is someone I've been best friends with for a couple years. But recently we had our first and only fight and did not talk for a month. I realized I couldn't trust her at the time. I also know she has a big mouth and talks too much shit. So I am trying to watch out what I say around her for a while. But today, she surprised me with an interesting topic. She told me not to tell anyone, but she heard of an escort agency in the area and is thinking about working with them. But really, this is a small town and she might only have a couple clients a week around here. And I'm not sure if she is 100% serious because she'd never strip or do anything like that, I wouldn't think she'd wanna escort. I honestly think she will decide against it and if she does try it out, I could imagine her not liking it and quitting. She talked about this for awhile and I had to act like I didn't know anything about escorting and couldn't tell her what I do. But I know if she went with me, she could get a paid trip and hotel and make a lot of money with the agency I'm with. I really wanted to say something but couldn't. I think it would be hella fun to go on tour with her and the two of us share a secret and I wouldn't be so bored and lonely during my trip. I'm always home sick and lonely when I go on tour. Plus, I'd actually have someone I could talk about these things with. But at this point, I'm not sure if i could trust her 100%. I have this fear that she could tell someone what I do if she decides she doesn't wanna escort. She has no idea I could help her make a lot of money but I'm afraid to blow my cover. Should I tell her about this secret to making $ or should I keep my mouth shut?

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    Default Re: A friend wants to follow my footsteps but I've been lying to her

    Honestly, until she decides for herself that she wants to do it for sure - I would probably just keep you lips zipped. I'm all for being honest, but it sounds like there is a good chance that she may convince herself not to do this. If people are going to find out that you escort it should be directly from you - not from her.
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    I wouldn't say anything if she truly does have a big mouth. :\

    If she openly told you she was considering escorting, and wants to stay in the area, she may not be so secretive about it. If she gets hell for it from your friends, she might use you to justify herself. Even if she isn't open and gossipy, if a spotlight gets shone on her for being an escort down the road, your being an escort might be a natural defense for her. Something to consider...

    Let her figure out the industry on her own! If you want to give her advice about escorting out of the city, you can do so without telling her you're also an escort.

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    Another possibility is that she knows that you are escorting and just brought up the subject and the agency to see if you would admitt what you are doing. Almost baiting you. Just something to think about.
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    Quote Originally Posted by fast tan77 View Post
    Another possibility is that she knows that you are escorting and just brought up the subject and the agency to see if you would admitt what you are doing. Almost baiting you. Just something to think about.
    Sooo true. It was kinda random how she brought it up, especially since it was right after a big argument.

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    Quote Originally Posted by fast tan77 View Post
    Another possibility is that she knows that you are escorting and just brought up the subject and the agency to see if you would admitt what you are doing. Almost baiting you. Just something to think about.
    This was the first thing i thought. It seems like way too big a coincidence.

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    yeah, if anything I'd just wait till she actually starts doing it. But if you don't trust this girl, do you really want to be on the road with her and help her make money?

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    Default Re: A friend wants to follow my footsteps but I've been lying to her

    Yeah, keep your mouth shut. I'd keep quiet even if she does start escorting to be honest. If she's so open with you then it might not be so important to her that she keep your secret quiet to others. If you live in a small town word could get out real quick which according to you would be bad!

    Observe her and use your better judgment. Wait a few months if/when she starts working. How many people know about it? Is she the laughing stock of the town? If she is good at keeping quiet then maybe in a few months you could consider telling her again.
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    I highly doubt she knows. If she knew anything, she would assume that I'm doing adult film work because I've been in the adult film industry for 5 years and I used to always say I'd never escort. She is thinking about webcamming, but she is too shy to strip. She just doesn't seem like the type since escorting is not even heard of where we're from. But it still shocks me when I meet any escort. I always think, "but you don't seem like the type". However, I don't seem like the type either.

    Another thing, when she told me she was thinking about escorting, she first made me promise I wouldn't tell anyone anything. She mentioned that a certain guy she's friends with, knows of this unknown agency in my town. Apparently he is a regular customer and he said its a great way she could make money. Now she is thinking about it. I think she came to me because I'm the only person she knows who did porn, which is similar to escorting in a way. And because of that fact, she came to me because I'd understand. lol.

    I'm really not sure if she has a big mouth but she does tell me things about other people. So I just don't know. Nothing too personal but it makes me cautious around her. But you're right though... I think if anyone found out what she was doing, she could use me as a defensive.

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    If people are okay with you doing porn and camming, they'd probably be okay with escorting too. most people seem to think every adult job is equally nasty/dangerous/slutty/whatever. which is also why it seems like she really could just be curious, not digging up dirt.

    is the "certain guy" she heard it from someone you know and believe to be trustworthy on something like this?

    trafficking has become a pretty huge industry in the last couple years, so i'd be concerned about the legitimacy of this agency, way more than i'd be worried about booking enough work in town or whether she'd like being a prostitute.
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