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    Angry Vent!!

    Ok, so, I'm 19 years old. Just turned 19 on the 22nd of May. I've lived with my boyfriend since December of '09. He's always the one who had the job, paid the rent, and paid half of our bills. I just started camming in March, and recently started helping with bills and rent. About 3 weeks ago, he lost his job. Now I'm all of a sudden responsible for all of his stuff. When I ask him if he's looking for a job, he says "Maybe I enjoy taking a break." Sorry if I'm out of line here, but that pisses me off SO damn bad. Anyway, I love him to death. But he has to grow up, am I right?

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    A lot of couples go through this... so you aren't alone. Chances are he's just looking at it like it's your turn to take care of him. Just don't let it go too long like that.
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    Agreed ^^. Times are tough, and he also may be embarrassed that he lost his job in the first place and may have trouble finding another one. Let him know you are happy to help and that you love him, but help him set a realistic guideline for getting a new job. Don't let him take advantage of you. Stay strong!

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    i'm in the same boat with ya hun and i totally understand where you;re coming from. My hubby lost his job last Nov and has been on unemployment since. I keep pushing him to find a job but he wants to wait until his unemployment runs out before looking. A friend of his is looking for help (full time position with benefits!!!) but he didnt ask about it cuz he wants to go to school full time and a day job would prevent him from finishing school as quickly. I see his point of view but at the same time I am the one being pushed to make more money camming so he can play video games all day before summer school starts AAAGH!

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    I can be kind of a stuck-up bitch when it comes to men buuuuut.... I'd rather be single living alone than be with a man who's not helping with rent, bills, food, etc. I can understand a sudden loss of employment and going through a SHORT period of taking care of someone you love to get them back on their feet, but dude had better be doing the household chores and treating you right in that case. He's only been unemployed for 3 wks, but def don't let it turn into 7 months and counting ^^^....that's just being taken advantage of.

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    Quote Originally Posted by *Jade*Love View Post
    I can be kind of a stuck-up bitch when it comes to men buuuuut.... I'd rather be single living alone than be with a man who's not helping with rent, bills, food, etc. I can understand a sudden loss of employment and going through a SHORT period of taking care of someone you love to get them back on their feet, but dude had better be doing the household chores and treating you right in that case. He's only been unemployed for 3 wks, but def don't let it turn into 7 months and counting ^^^....that's just being taken advantage of.
    I completely agree with this. "Taking a break" so often turns into a long stretch of unemployment and playing video games all day while you bust your ass to support the both of you. My best friend went through this with her bf for several months. He didn't understand why I hated him so much for those couple months, go figure. So let him know that you will be there for him for awhile, but it's not like you are rolling in extra money and can afford to support the both of you forever. I would give him a week or two to relax and figure out what direction he wants to go next, and then he needs to be seriously pursuing other job options.

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